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• trying to get the courage by tx6686 on 06 Jan, 2013 10:21
• I just want to say for about the past month I have really been thinking about what to do with my hair thinning out. It has been tough I have been looking at other websites about possible meds/ transplants. It really freaked me out more than anything because everyone was freaking out about the thought of going bald and it really gave me anxiety. I always said Id shave my head if I ever got to the point where it needed to be done. I then came across this website and man it helped my anxiety BIG TIME! I still have a good amount of hair, but I hate seeing my hair recede back some and thinning. Now the only thing holding my back from get it all buzzed off right now is that my ears are kind of big and have always used my sideburns or shaggy heard to kinda cover them. Anyone else have this problem when trying to find the courage to cut it all off? Thanks
• #1 by stasiu on 06 Jan, 2013 10:54
• Welcome to SBG !  Premature Male Pattern Baldness does suck but this site is the greatest support team 
  
  I wished the internet and SBG was around when I permanently adopted the "Dr. Phil" haircut by age 22-23.
  
  Best thing to do in your case is start getting it buzzed shorter - nothing drastic, but go progressively buzzed tighter as you and everyone around you adjusts to your "new look". Think about confidence and postitive outlook. Don't worry about the teasing from friends/family ... their noses look like pickles anyways and they are jealous you can accept change with confidence.
  
  After a few months of tight buzzes, then go zero guard then lather and take the razor for that 30 days sly run.  If you don't like it, grow it to a tight buzzcut and stay with it till its gone.
  
  Accept hairloss and make it part of you and DO NOT allow hairloss ruin you !
  
  Good luck.  Post pics and become part of this brotherhood of hairless.
  
  
  
  
• #2 by D.A.L.U.I. on 06 Jan, 2013 11:00
• Welcome--you're home!  Smart move on avoiding meds & surgery--save those for diseases and disabilities--and male pattern baldness isn't either one of those, just a genetic predisposition that more than 50% of all men and a goodly portion of women will face as they "mature".  The relative appearance of your ears will change when you shave your head hence it's impossible to imagine the look.  Without a picture we can't say if in fact your ears are larger than average--& that's not necessarily a bad thing. 
  Most of us had the OMG's when we took it down to the wood the first time.  But, after it's done most of us also came to the realization that what was to us a major thing, just wasn't that large of the rest of the world's radar.  It will be different, and you will have a feeling of "Who's the dude in the mirror?" sensation.  After thirty days, that will go away, you will get compliments, a few nay sayers--perhaps, but most of all will be this tremendous feeling of freedom.  The biggest regret may be that you didn't do it sooner.  So, clip it really short, hot shower, shampoo, new blade and shaving gel, and shave it down (slowly)  and see what we've all been so happy about. 
• #3 by Argyle on 06 Jan, 2013 11:07
• Welcome
  
  There really is not anything to say that these guys haven't already covered.  Avoid the drugs and plugs though, you don't have to look to hard o find some horror stories and both can do permanent damage. 
  
  Also, don't kid yourself that a full head of hair from meds or surgery will make you more attractive.  I think my wife would have found me much less attractive if she knew I took drugs every day or had gone under the knife to preserve something as relatively trivial as hair(I know it doesn't feel like that now).  What she does find attractive is the fact that I am confident, shave it and make the best I can in that department but moreover not worry about hair any more. 
  
  
• #4 by Argyle on 06 Jan, 2013 11:11
• Oh and I have larger than average ears too!  Funnily enough I never give it a second thought.
  
• #5 by Switchy on 06 Jan, 2013 11:19
• Welcome 
• #6 by tx6686 on 06 Jan, 2013 11:34
• Thanks for all the encouraging words already...I am thinking about making the leap to the buzz cut today which is pretty hard Ive had long hair my whole life and Im in my mid 20's...all I need to do is to make the call to get some clippers!
• #7 by prixmo93 on 06 Jan, 2013 11:41
• My ears aren't really big but they do bend over kind of funny at the tops which was something I have always been self conscious about and used shaggy hair to mask.  The great thing about going sly is there isn't the sharp contrast between hair and skin anymore so it all just kind of blends in together and no feature set dominates the other anymore.  I would recommend going with a buzz like the other posters have stated to see if that is the case for you too.  Good luck!
• #8 by leighmundo40 on 06 Jan, 2013 11:48
• Sometimes, stuff we see in ourselves, big ears, weird head shape etc etc, is *just* us and no-one else even notices or can see it!
  
  Great advice as always from the guys on here, not a lot else I can add apart from WELCOME!
• #9 by prixmo93 on 06 Jan, 2013 11:50
• Quote from: leighmundo40 on 06 Jan, 2013 11:48

  Sometimes, stuff we see in ourselves, big ears, weird head shape etc etc, is *just* us and no-one else even notices or can see it!
  

  
   
• #10 by VoodooSyxx on 06 Jan, 2013 11:53
• Checking in here from the bald with big ears club. It really isn't any huge deal, and things do kind of blend together when there's less contrast between skin and hair, and it's just skin all the way down. Personally, I feel bad for some of the fellas always complaining about nicking their ears while pulling off a shave. I have yet to do this, since my big ole ears stand way out away from the construction site. I like to think of it as being designed for this 
• #11 by tx6686 on 06 Jan, 2013 12:22
• Thanks for all the encouraging words....I can just be like will smitty!
• #12 by OzSly on 06 Jan, 2013 13:52
• G'Day Tx mate 
  
  Welcome to SBG mate.
  
  As you can see already this is a very supportive forum full of great blokes and women.
  
  Plenty of sound advice.
• #13 by Beardman on 06 Jan, 2013 18:24
• G'day mate, welcome to the family, I can't offer any more advice then what has been given. You've already been given the 5 star treatment! Keep us posted on your decisions and your progress and we'll help you out any way we can!
• #14 by Sir Harry on 06 Jan, 2013 18:47
• Welcome aboard and keep us posted!