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• ahh...some negative comments HELP by baldmandan on 24 Apr, 2011 15:52
• I was just told that I look a bit like a "skinhead," too "severe" with a sly dome. Those are 2 things I really don't wanna be associated with! If a trusted friend told me that, what must others be thinking?
  
   Dan
• #1 by Mikekoz13 on 24 Apr, 2011 16:41
• Don't worry about what others think. Your head, your life. A good positive attitude will go a long way.
• #2 by marty22 on 24 Apr, 2011 17:50
• Youre fine....it will pass.
• #3 by TheSlyBear on 24 Apr, 2011 17:55
• Smile more, and don't dress like a skinhead.
• #4 by Oto on 24 Apr, 2011 17:57
• People will get accostumed
• #5 by RyanJP on 24 Apr, 2011 18:55
• I wouldn't worry about there opinions...and that's all they are, if you take it literally than that's on you.
  
  Move on and care about what people think about you when it matters, an issue like someones head isn't imperative in the grand scheme of things.
• #6 by Razor X on 24 Apr, 2011 19:00
• If someone thinks you look like a skinhead because your head is shaved, I think that says far more about them than it does about you.  They have either not noticed the increase in shaved heads over the past 10-15 years or they have noticed them and think all of those people are Nazis.     The opinions of people who are stupid enough to think that really shouldn't matter to anyone.
  
• #7 by Sean25 on 24 Apr, 2011 21:13
• I've heard that a few times.  Doesn't bother me at all though.  Don't let it get to you brother
• #8 by buddha on 25 Apr, 2011 07:29
• Quote from: Razor X on 24 Apr, 2011 19:00

  If someone thinks you look like a skinhead because your head is shaved, I think that says far more about them than it does about you.  They have either not noticed the increase in shaved heads over the past 10-15 years or they have noticed them and think all of those people are Nazis.     The opinions of people who are stupid enough to think that really shouldn't matter to anyone.
  
  

  
  Ditto! Well said, Razor, as usual. I have found that the personality that I project says more about me than shaving my head. If I act like a "skin" then I'll probably be treated like one. Don't forget that Gandhi was sly, also.
• #9 by cholifoli on 25 Apr, 2011 07:53
• I have to agree with everyone. How you carry yourself, and personality are what really shine through. Don't let the ignorance of others get you down. Easier said than done, but that is just something you have to work on. At the end of the day, what really matters is that YOU can look in the mirror and be happy with what you see. If you can do that, then the opinions of others should not matter so much.
  Btw, I don't see how you look like a skin head. Does your friend think that everyone going through chemotherapy, or guys who have just naturally lost their hair look like skin heads as well? Unfortunately ignorance is abundant, please try not to let it bother you. The sly look suits you.
• #10 by oldkookskater on 25 Apr, 2011 10:38
• If you're worried that you look like a skinhead or some other negative stereotype, then it may show on your face and give you that "severe" appearance (as a man thinks in his heart, so he becomes).  If you're pleased with your appearance, then it'll show and people won't care/notice.  It may take time to get totally comfortable with it and I think that's normal - however much time it takes is however much time it takes.
  
  If you live in a place like Palmdale, CA or Fontana, CA where there have been issues with skinheads and white-supremacists (like probably dozens of other cities in the USA and even around the world), it could take time for people to realize you're not one of them however if you be you, then they'll know instinctively that you're one of the good guys.  To be honest, this is where my parents struggle with my appearance - they grew up in Fontana, CA, formerly home to some KKK-nuts and some aryan nation weirdos so of course my appearance struck a negative chord; I grew up in the 80s and I couldn't stand those idiots, so I even struggled with my own appearance for a bit (oh no... someone will think I'm one of those people!).  But once you know that your appearance doesn't define you - your behavior and your work ethic and your personal interests do - I think one can accept it more easily.  So what defines you?  For me, it's my faith, my family, my work and interests.  Basically I'm a Christian, husband, father, businessman, skater, tennis player who just so happens to be bald (and shaved).
  
  It's less of a burden when you think of yourself as who you are and not what others say you look like.
• #11 by Timmer on 25 Apr, 2011 16:21
• Ya know, I live in Idaho and I've had the same reaction once or twice and I just shake my head and tell them, "When I start wearing a bomber jacket and Doc Marten's then you might have to worry."
• #12 by Bolohead on 30 Apr, 2011 09:35
• I live in NW Montana, and most of the time people see me in Islander T-Shirts or Aloha Style shirts.  But I have never been accused of the Neo Nazi or Skinhead association thing.
  
  Sometimes even your trusted friends will try and screw with your head, and if you let what they say bother you, suck it up and live by your standards and likes, and not theirs.
• #13 by TheBaldAndBeautiful on 22 May, 2011 17:30
• I've gotten the," I THOUGHT YOU WERE 30!," comment, even though I'm 25.  I use to get comments like that in high-school too.  People thought I was 25 when infact I was 16...
• #14 by whatsup on 23 May, 2011 19:55
• Quote from: baldmandan on 24 Apr, 2011 15:52

  I was just told that I look a bit like a "skinhead," too "severe" with a sly dome. Those are 2 things I really don't wanna be associated with! If a trusted friend told me that, what must others be thinking?
  
   Dan
  

  
  
  Would someone who doesn't take the time to get to know you before passing judgement matter? I think your friends will judge you on your character after they have time to acclimate and know that you are comfortable with the look.