Do women find bald men attractive?

• Do women find bald men attractive? by Argyle on 02 May, 2010 12:27
• Sorry the title may be slightly misleading in respect of the content of this post.  However this is probably one of the questions that gets asked more than anything on this website.  I must be honest, the same thing has crossed my mind from time to time.  I was thinking about this on a long drive today back from Scotland. 
  
  When this question is asked, it is important perhaps for the person asking it to consider what they find attractive about women and how much of a 'deal breaker' deviating from that norm would be.  Therein I suspect lies the answer. 
  
  For instance, I was at a wedding this weekend.  A guy there who is in his later 20's and has been bald for as long as I can remember (made the transition to sly since i last saw him).  So.... he is bald, he is quite overweight yet he has a really lovely girlfriend.  When we were chatting to him he was saying he had had a really tough year as his girlfriend had been diagnosed with MS.  He had decided to go back to university to study a subject that would enable him to get a better job so he could earn more money and support her to cover the possibility that she may not be able to work.  That epitomised for me why she loved him.  The unquestionable, undying love and support that he was prepared to show her.  How many people could you find who would offer that. 
  
  Sorry I digress....... Yes there is no doubt at all that some people will be turned off by men with a shaved head, to this day I am surprised that my wife likes me!  But equally there is a majority for whom other things are far more important.  Life throws challenges, many of them painful, when that happens what would you rather have, some hot arm candy or someone who really will devote everything to supporting you through thick and thin?  Unless you are lucky enough to have both, I know which gets my vote every time. 
  
  I personally think I am very very lucky.  I have found an amazing woman, really really amazing.  I met her when most of my hair had gone when I was 26 and it never posed a problem to our getting together.  The only problem was my own self consciousness.  In fact she never ever mentioned it! 
  
  So I suppose what I am trying to say is that there really is someone out there for the young single guys who post on here asking whether their dating days are over.  Many women love a shaved head, but even those that dont, allow them to dig deeper than skin and use your other skills to get under theirs!  Purely by virtue of the fact that you are posting on this website means that you have a positive, solution focused outlook to solving problems rather than wallowing in your own self pity (something which other hairloss sites often perpetuate). 
  
  I hope this makes sense.  I suppose I was just thinking about it as it is my first wedding anniversary tomorrow! 
• #1 by Razor X on 02 May, 2010 13:05
• Excellent post. You are 100% correct.  The thing to remember is that people's tastes vary.  What appeals to one person will not necessarily appeal to the next.  To be sure, there are women who don't find bald men attractive.  There are women who like men to have long hair, and there are women who won't date a guy with long hair.  Some women won't date short men, some prefer men with darker complexions, the list is endless. 
  
  The bottom line is it's just not possible to please everyone.  It's pointless to even try.  As has been stated here too many times to mention, confidence is essential.  In order to feel confident, you have to be comfortable with your own appearance, and not adopting a look for the sole purpose of trying to please others. 
  
  Not having hair is viewed as a big negative by a lot of people, but in reality, it's how you choose to deal with it that makes or breaks your appearance.  There are really only two viable, healthy options:  buzz your hair very short or shave it off completely.  You might still prefer to have a full head of hair, but at that point you need to deal with reality and accept that a full head of hair is no longer an option.  Hair isn't as important to a man's appearance as you might think.  Once it's gone, you have to look at other things you can do to make yourself more attractive -- experiment with facial hair, change your style of dress, work on getting into better physical condition, etc.  The end result may not be how you think you "should" look, but it can be satisfying nonetheless.
  
  I freely admit that for a long time I missed having hair, but I've finally gotten past it by focusing on other things.  I'd much rather be in good physical shape  than have a great head of hair.  I can honestly say that if I were granted three wishes to make whatever changes I wanted to my appearance, I'd jump at the chance to be a few inches taller or to have more sun-resistant skin, but having my hair back wouldn't even be on the list.
• #2 by D.A.L.U.I. on 02 May, 2010 13:30
• Great post Chris,
  
  From my perspective physical attraction and what attributes contribute to it or detract from the "package" are only the initial, and relatively short in sense of time, parts of any relationship.  Once past the what's the thing about this person that initially attracts me physically, a relationship moves on to many other things, common interests in life, music, art, interests in how to live--urban, country--the desire for predominately private times or public times--the list is extensive, but the physical part, the attraction part is short.  That's not to say anyone dresses up or puts lipstick on the pig, then once a relationship is started reverts to some visible "disaster."  No, but the essential function of physical appearance is only a short period in time.
  
  Bald, yes there are girls who prefer a full head of thick hair, and yes there are girls for whom a bald head is a sexual come on.  But then so are attributes of muscularity, or chunky, not fat, height definately plays a role in it.  But it is only the door, and past that door is where the relationship is.  One night stands--physical only, long term relationships--not so important as a giving personality, empathy for the feelings and desires of the other. 
  Among my assurances that bald was better, far better than balding and combover, was the friendly approach of a stewardess on a flight the day or day after I shaved.  My wife hated it from the start of buzz, still does.  But when that stewardess started a conversation, made sure I got her name, and I suddenly realized that I was attractive to a young good looking woman--yeah they're out there.  The lady who lip locked me on Mardi Gras, in front of my house--and I've got her picture.  Yeah, I know bald guys, even the older ones are attractive to the ladies. 
  But, the woman who hates my bald head, she's the one I share the rest of it with, and that's beyond the scalp.  Yes, she probably fantasizes about the days of hair gone by.  But, it will be 36 years come October, a few days before I begin my fourth year as a bald guy--bc I'm not ever going to be a balding man again. 
• #3 by Mikekoz13 on 02 May, 2010 16:38
•  I'm not exactly the best looking guy on the block but I have an amazing wife. Why?? It's about the Man not the looks.
  For me personally... a woman that wouldn't date me because of my hairline, or any other of my less than perfect physical traits, would just be shallow and a waste of time anyway.
  
  As the Saint said..... that physical attraction can disappear quickly....................
• #4 by fencer on 02 May, 2010 16:55
• I must say (and I know others may argue) I have the most amazing wife in the world! She is gorgeous and does not give a rat's ass about my hair (or lack there of). As she said to me this past week; she doesn't consult me about her hair styles. She want's me to be comfortable with ME. That is what it is all about. Do what is right for you, and you WILL find the lady for you. My wife has loved me for 27 years with a headful of thick, long hair and sly to the bone!!!
• #5 by Xanwolf1337 on 02 May, 2010 17:09
• Nice post mate!
  
  I agree that now i'm sly i go about my appearance alot differently...as i dont have to care about how having receding hair affects my appearance. But now i can think about how to make my smooth head look good with different clothes etc.
   
  As for girlfriends, i've been single for quite along time (years even ) but luckily that wasnt due to me feeling insecure about myself, it was down to a girl i was dating.
  
  I have to admit, since i've become sly ive become more confident, even in just a week...i've even started making videos to put on youtube for a laugh .
• #6 by Morthen on 03 May, 2010 08:04
• If having a shaved head is a "deal breaker" for a girl, I imagine thats not the kind of person you want to be with. Beauty is skin deep and fades over time, and i think hair is a bit trivial when it comes to dating, My current "love interest" or whatever you want to call it told me herself she doesn't care about my hair loss or what I decide to do with it and will "take me any way" at this point.
  
  Personality > appearance, unless the person is shallow(in this case who cares what they think) shallow people suck
  
  great post btw Argyle