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Help Guys!! --- When Religion and Personal Style Collide!! by baldtribesman on 24 Apr, 2010 14:09
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Hi I can almost imagine being as supportive as you guys are you will tell me that personal style should come first, but the problem I have is that in my religion guys are supposed to have sideburns and not shave them off. If I go to certain places where there is religious people of my faith my parents are embarassed and I do stick out like a sore thumb. Having a shaved head while growing and keeping a beard is not a good option for me because I feel I look very menacing with my dark thick beard growth. What do you guys think about my religion which states that I should have sideburns versus being slick and hairless from head to face. Thanks for your input.
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#1 by Mikekoz13 on 24 Apr, 2010 14:27
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Hi Fred-
This is such a personal decision. You have to be the one that feels comfortable with your Faith. If you are comfortable being shaved and still being a part of your religion then all should be well. If not.... then YOU have to Pray on the situation and come to terms thru that Prayer and your committment to your Faith.
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#2 by chaucer on 24 Apr, 2010 14:50
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Not a question I can help with....I have no use for religion at all...but it's all personal.
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#3 by D.A.L.U.I. on 24 Apr, 2010 15:02
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Might I suggest you reconsider the beard option, a well trimmed beard, particularly if you're graced with a dense growth could look rather sharp and not threatening at all--imo. Certainly when the Creator dealt out the genes for slyness, he was most generous, and there are few ethnic/racial/religious groups that don't have at least some of the slyness that was part of the process--so when the rules were written they had to be broad enough to fit all that was created. So probably there are other men in the group that are also graced w/ very bald heads, naturally. Their sideburns, probably aren't so neatly and sharply trimmed, but from the seat as far away as the Creator seems to be some times, who's to notice? Once your beard is grown & nicely trimmed--this could be as little as three weeks if you do have such a nice dense growth, I would approach the local head of your religious group, one on one, w/o your parents. Ask him if tradition mandates any particular length of sideburns in terms of hair length, my feeling is that if he/she knows the rules--somehow your beard, neatly trimmed will get the blessing. And, your parents, who learn of the blessing after its given, can't complain--or they offend, not your nice looking noggin. It may be worth a try.
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#4 by baldtribesman on 24 Apr, 2010 16:56
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Thanks SaintC and others that gave input or read my post thus far. As of now I have my head hair back for the last three weeks, I have caved to pressure from my parents as well as suffering from depression has led me to lose confidence in having a shaved head, also its a lot of work to both shave my face and head. But the main reason I grew my hair out is so I am not seen as rebelious and an outcast in my religious community that requires that men have side burns.
I am going to throw some options out for myself, guys sounds off what you think and then I will put up photos documenting my transformation.
1. As in my current photo shaved head and shaved face.
2. Just shaved face and a 2 or 3 for my head
3. beard and 2 or 3 for my head
4. Goatee and 2 or 3 for my head.
5. Shaved head and beard
6. shaved head and goatee
7. shaved head and side burns - meaning that the only hair I do not shave is the sideburn area.
SOUND OFF GUYS I LOOK FORWARD TO HEARING FROM YOU, I WANT TO COME BACK TO SLYDOM HELP ME!
Fred Man -
#5 by D.A.L.U.I. on 24 Apr, 2010 17:34
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Fred Man:
Perhaps you need your parents & religious community support more than anything else--and if you didn't that would be a really bad thing. H/o, religious requirements are imposed by tradition, history and scholarship--also a little plain bigotry and self-identification issues, but put those aside for now.
The Creator gave you brains to find a way to comply with the society and religious requirements w/o compromising the necessity to be you--bc he/she created you in his/her own image, yada, yada etc.
This is really a problem we can't handle as a vote, because among the Creator's "elect" our ideas don't count, only the Creator's, we don't have ballots--and to presume to know those ideas in their entirety is just not possible--you just need to understand them well enough to present yourself as you really want to be & yet be within the legitimate community of believers in your tradition, not just thoughtless mouths, expressing the limits and not the possibilities. Those who do limit their thoughts, they're not true followers either--and you know that.
You need to find a way, I have suggested only one, to get within your community, and still be you.
The Chosen, clearly comes to mind--read, mark and learn how that worked. If you haven't read the works of Chaim Potok--but I think you might have, you really need to now, and also his life--a guy who dealt with really serious issues like this and came out okay. And I believe that there are some who consider his work, thoughts and life to be "forbidden." That is a choice you need to make now. We can't do this for you. It's work, get to it. -
#6 by aarrggh on 24 Apr, 2010 17:44
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Yep ; The deck is stacked against ya...
grew your hair back - - caused depression - - its too much work
caved in too the wishes of your parents and religious community
" its almost time too pack it in " - - or -
#7 by ozzie on 24 Apr, 2010 17:57
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What do you guys think about my religion which states that I should have sideburns versus being slick and hairless from head to face?
Well mate .... since you did ask ... I'd say there were WAY more important things "Religion" should concern itself with.
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#8 by Xanwolf1337 on 24 Apr, 2010 19:10
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In my opinion, if you feel strong in your faith, you should be allowed to have your appearance as you wish
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Although you may consider talking to some people from your community about how you feel, as im sure there are others that do not have sideburns or maybe not be able to grow them due to medical conditions/genetics.
Hope all goes well
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#9 by marshd1000 on 24 Apr, 2010 19:32
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If you are worried about looking menacing while having a beard and a shaved head, you might want to try smiling a little more to make people feel at ease. Also I would encourage you to take a look at several of us full bearded sly guys and see how we look! As long as your religion doesn't have a prohibition against a shaved head, I would do the full beard! It can be a look that would work for you! That way you can still keep the head totally bald!
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#10 by baldtribesman on 24 Apr, 2010 19:39
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Guys I wanted to shed some more light about my predicament I am pasting below the common question about why as a jewish man I am supposed to have side burns:
Question: Why do male Jews have to have sideburns?
Answer: The Torah says, "You shall not round off the peyos of your head" (Leviticus 19:27). The word peyos refers to sideburns -- i.e. the hair in front of the ears that extends to underneath the cheekbone which is level with the nose (Talmud - Makkot 20a). The Talmud explains that this law only applies to men, not to women.
Maimonides explains that the prohibition of “rounding” prohibits the removal of sideburns, by razor, tweezers or any other means. Though it is permitted to trim the sideburns, even very close to the skin, using scissors.
From a mystical perspective, peyos otherwise known as sideburns separate between the front part of the brain which is used for abstract thought that can be used for holiness, and the back part of the brain that governs the body. -
#11 by D.A.L.U.I. on 24 Apr, 2010 19:57
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Thank the Creator that it doesn't apply to women, but, then again, why should that surprise us--the Jewish people, Greeks, Italians, etc.--who wants to look at their women with their natural growth--He is merciful!
Answer: The Torah says, "You shall not round off the peyos of your head" (Leviticus 19:27). The word peyos refers to sideburns -- i.e. the hair in front of the ears that extends to underneath the cheekbone which is level with the nose (Talmud - Makkot 20a). The Talmud explains that this law only applies to men, not to women.
Maimonides explains that the prohibition of “rounding” prohibits the removal of sideburns, by razor, tweezers or any other means. Though it is permitted to trim the sideburns, even very close to the skin, using scissors.
Now, back to your problem, if the Second Moses doesn't have a problem w/ trimming w/ sissors, a nice tight and sharp trim on a nice beard--presuming a dense growth why should you be more "royal than the prince?"--it would look good. If Maimonides is satisfied, your Mother & Father, let alone your community should be presumptuous and see themselves as wiser than him? Live a little, grow a nice beard and be glad you can, satisfy the Law, befuddle your parents & community, and enjoy life. Come on--you can do this. -
#12 by Gambrinus on 24 Apr, 2010 21:32
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Well... since you ask my opinion. I will have to side with Jesus. Luke 10:26-28
25On one occasion an expert in the law stood up to test Jesus. "Teacher," he asked, "what must I do to inherit eternal life?"
26"What is written in the Law?" he replied. "How do you read it?"
27He answered: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind'[c]; and, 'Love your neighbor as yourself.'[d]"
28"You have answered correctly," Jesus replied. "Do this and you will live." -
#13 by Tennessee on 24 Apr, 2010 21:46
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I am a Christian and know very little about the jewish faith (which is pittiful, I know), but I seem to recall there are some laws to govern the shaving of the head for the purpose of an oath. Not sure on the details or implications of that.
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#14 by baldtribesman on 24 Apr, 2010 22:20
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Thank you guys I have made up my mind I am now at this moment going to the bathroom and will one again shave my head and will grow a beard I will post my pics tommorow and will post more pics as my beard grows in. Problem solved.
Btw I am looking forward to meeting up at convention the summer is coming!!
thanks guys grabbing my clippers and then my razor.
Fred Man