For a 2nd date is a 4some a deal breaker?

[Lex Luethor]

Yes.

Nothing says "You're not interesting" like "Do you mind we if have two other folks along?"

I think, as a rule, foursomes are fine... in your 35th year of marriage.

If you're even thinking about it, give the guy a break and cut him loose.

[slyinglide]

FunshinePa...From what I gather from your posts here on the Sly Bald Guys forum, you sound like a very smart woman, and you seem to know what you want.  That said, I hope you want someone that just wants YOU.  Someone that wants to get to know everything about you, and his whole world would revolve around you, and your world would revolve around him.  That type of relationship is very hard to handle, but the effort is worth it.  I gather from your avatar that you are one hell of a beautiful woman, and you probably turn heads where ever you go.  If you were to find a man that would want to share you, then he isnt the one for you......I would never want to share my woman with anyone (sexually speaking, or emotionally).  And I would fight any man that would try to interfere with or relationship. 

What I'm saying is Don't sell yourself short.......there are real good men out there, WE are just hard to find!

[FunshinePa]

hehehehe the replies are very interesting. I've done several group situations. My ultimate relationship will be about me and the person I'm dating. When that recent situation happened the other guy was cut loose. We've actually gotten to be pretty good friends now. But really I have no intentions of selling myself short. If a man can't give me what I already give myself, he's gonna have a hard time snagging me. I go in spurts, sometimes I'm compromising and most other times I'm tough! But I guess thats why I'm still single after 8 years of being divorced/10 years single.

[Mikekoz13]

well look who stuck their nose in the door............

[FunshinePa]

Been busy my friend! As you can see from the other thread. :-)

[jrob]

I don't want a swinging relationship... I want my own man. It's just I feel the need to make sure that when I meet someone they know that most of my married friends have been sex friends while I'm single. But that is what scares them off and/or  they just want a hit and run. Which is fine by me if thats what they decide after hearing that, but I'm not always looking to ADD to those kinds of friends. Does that make sense? I don't need more sex friends. I want a relationship! But try to be honest and upfront. Sucks to be me!

Well, nothing is easy about relationships. It is best to be honest up-front instead of them getting upset later down the road. You just have to keep looking and eventually the right one will come along. Yes, I know it is hard to be that patient sometimes. Good luck.

[hammerdrill376]

Not to put a damper on the subject of swinging and I believe what anyone does in the privacy of their home with other consenting adults is their business but I was just curious if the concern of STD's ever comes into mind?

[jrob]

Not to put a damper on the subject of swinging and I believe what anyone does in the privacy of their home with other consenting adults is their business but I was just curious if the concern of STD's ever comes into mind?

I am sure it does, but most think it will happen to someone else and not me.

[FunshinePa]

Not to put a damper on the subject of swinging and I believe what anyone does in the privacy of their home with other consenting adults is their business but I was just curious if the concern of STD's ever comes into mind?

I am sure it does, but most think it will happen to someone else and not me.

Comes up the same as two people getting together... Just because there are more then one, doesn't mean that gets thrown out. Geez...

[hammerdrill376]

Hey if thats you thing...thats your thing!

[Brkeatr]

Hey if thats you thing...thats your thing!

Ditto from me also Hammer.....

[time2shine]

Hey if thats you thing...thats your thing!

Ditto from me also Hammer.....

Don't see any long term benefits.  But, as u said, if its your thing..