Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => Reactions to being Bald => Topic started by: Ghost1988 on January 06, 2009, 08:07:12 PM
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i have my on and off days about my hairloss and recently ive been ok about it for the past 2 weeks or so which is a record. but all of a sudden i seem to be back in the depression boat again over it :-\. im not looking for sympathy or anything because i know theres a lot of guys on here that need comforting about there hair and it just gets tiring having to repeat the same things over and over. so this is just more of a chance for me to vent, with a few questions.
i go on this site regularly to help people with their hairloss problems by giving them support and trying to make them feel better, but in all honesty, i cant seem to practice what i preach in my own life. i tell people what to do to deal with hairloss when i cant do it myself. its frustrating. i realize theres only so much people can say to someone about hairloss. its an unavoidable thing and when its gone its gone. since i joined this board i noticed my hairline has been receding even more. (even after i constantly shave my head!). it feels like a slow torture. i get on the site, feel better, go on with life, realize im losing more hair, then back to square one. its a never ending process.
its embarasing but im at the point where i feel like i need to turn to you guys for girl advice because the situations gotten so bad i have no "game" anymore. i was thinking tonight that with the millions of guys out there why would a 20 yr old girl choose a balding guy when she has a choice out of millions of other attractive guys WITH hair. and that has been the case. i used to be attractive, popular, and get plenty of girls in middle school and high school, but as soon as i lost A LOT of my hair and started college ive gotten NO ONE. its been over 2 years since ive had a g/f and to be honest its embarassing because no guy wants to go through with this. it makes me feel like a loser which im not.
i was talking to my mom tonight about getting hair implants or w/e and she said thats a stupid thing to do. you guys are more understanding than family. my family thinks its rediculous im depressed about my hairline. my sisters say "i need serious counseling" and my mom just completely doesnt understand what the big deal is. even my grandparents laugh when i say how unhappy i am about my hair. what am i soposed to do!?
i try to keep my chin up and make it through the days which obviously i am, its just hard. im finding myself not even being able to look people in the face when im talking to them because i notice they look at my head. the same when im in a crowd of people. i get extremely paranoid because i feel like everyones staring at me. its a horrible feeling. that was the case tonight when i was at the drug store. there was this attractive girl making conversation with me and smiling, and all i did was stare at the ground and not pay much attention to her because i didnt know what to do. stuff like this doesn't happen too much anymore, so my self esteem and confidence is pretty shot. i can only imagine how rediculous and self conscious i looked to her
is there anything i can do to make a girl attracted to a balding 20 yr old because i have NO IDEA and i hate this. girls now adays dont give me a shot. im sure some of it has to do with my confidence and my inability to talk to them, but i know my looks are a bigger issue. :-\
btw i do shave my head. these issues come even with a shaved head considering my shadows so dark. shaving my head doesnt cover much of the balding up :-\
i really enoy your guys company.
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Just hang in there, bro. Sometimes it is a long process to accept yourself the way you are. I think we all have our days. Just remember that we are all here to talk to if you need someone.
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Hey Ghost,
Just curious. Why don't you wear a hat when you go to places you feel people are staring at your head?
I say wear a hat at places you are not comfortable and take it off only when necessary or illegal to have a hat.
That way you will not feel that people are staring at your head. Do this until you get comfortable.
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thats a good question, but i dont wear a hat because as weird as it sounds it makes me feel more self conscious and paranoid. it makes me feel like im hiding something which i am. i feel like it would be better to meet someone without a hat and let them see that im balding than meet someone while wearing a hat and then have them find out im balding later in the future. cuz either way they WILL find out.
this way theyll just know that i wasnt trying to cover it up.
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Ok you have a point. But look at it this way. You seem to care about what people think of you, that's natural. So tell me which one you prefer. (1) not wear a hat, in which case the person notices your hairline (according to you) and notices how uncomfortable you feel.
(2) wear a hat, in here you have 2 cases. Case 1: you will see this person again. Well yeah maybe the first time you meet them you want to be without a hat. Do that if you want, but from the 2nd time on wear your hat. Trust me, they will understand. Case 2: you will never see this person again. Well with a hat on they will never know you have hairloss right? wear a nice baseball hat.
Ok, here is the thing. For the past 3 years I went to my university lectures with my baseball hat on. That was before I saw this site. I didn't have much hairloss but to me it was hair thinning & terrible dandruff people always asking me "don't you take a shower?". After I wore my hat I felt very comfortable because when I talked to other students I knew they couldn't see the dandruff that made me uncomfortable.
Why not give the hat idea a try? Now cheer up. O0
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Ghost,
I truly believe that it's your attitude that's getting in the way of you landing a g/f. Even in your avitar I can see that sad look on your face, and that's not going help you get the girls.
You seem like a good-looking guy and I think the sly look suits you very well. Dude - stop feeling sorry for yourself and be grateful that you've got a hairloss issue at a time when it's very fashionable to shave your head.
I think a more confident outlook, along with a clean-shaven head, will result in plenty of girls. I know it's easier said than done, but perhaps your sister's advice was appropriate, in that maybe some counceling could help you come to grips with your hairloss and move on. If you're not interested in that, maybe get some good self-help books.
When I started my business 13.5 years ago, and was pretty nervous about it, I read several books by Anthony Robbins, and they resulted in a giant confidence boost for me. It might be worth checking out a few of his books.
Andrew
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i do occasionally wear hats. but only if im too lazy too shave and im only leaving the house for a little.
the only other time i wear a hat is when i dress up really nice. and these hats arent baseball caps theyre the old english style kangol caps.
one of these...
http://www.kangolstore.com/
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Ghost, I dont see anything wrong with ya bro`, you look perfectly fine to me.You look like a normal guy with a shaved head, I love when people look at my shaved bald head.Things will turn around for you ,sometimes we all get in that rut you just have to keep plugging along and soon enough bamm chicks are all over you.However, I do think attitude( confidence) plays a large role.Keep in touch with me and let me know how things go.
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well there you go. That's even better than a baseball hat. I know you say it makes you feel even more self conscious but I disagree. You will not feel as self conscious as you do when you look at the person right in front of you and (again according to you bro) the person is staring at your hairline.
Here is the thing. We see many many people coming online (at this site & elsewhere) complaining about how they HATE hairloss, that it doesn't look good on them,etc. So the people you meet will understand that you are just like most other people. You don't like to have the hairline you have. So they will not "judge" you for wearing a hat.....................unless, unless you are judging yourself. People might observe your hairline and out of curiousity look at it, because let's face it to people without hair loss it's weird to see people with lack of hair.
But when you are wearing the hat that curiousity is sort of gone. What's left is why is he wearing a hat? Most likely they will deduce that it's because you have hairloss that you don't feel comfortable showing and they will understand. But you have to also understand that bro. It's not just people having to understand that a guy who doesn't feel good about his hairloss is wearing a hat, it's you that also has to understand there is nothing wrong with it. I don't know if you quite get that. And no you will not look like a total idiot for wearing a hat, if that's what you are thinking. Maybe when you get older you will know what I mean.
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ya i understand your point of view. i just dunno......i do wear hats in front of people ill never see again. but the people that i meet the first days of class and stuff i try to not wear a hat so it gives them a chance to get used to my lack of a hairline.
im the exact opposite in the summertime though. i always wear sunglasses on the top of my head, cuz that way they can at least tell that i have a shaved head without noticing my hairline so its a win win.
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I don't think anyone will think less of you if you wear a hat, even first day of class. People have too much going
on in their minds so they don't necessarliy have that much time to think about why in the world wouild a guy wear a hat. In that case you are actually in a win-win situation if you think about it. If they suspect you are wearing the hat for fun then they think ok it's his style. If they suspect you have hairloss they will think oh ok he doesn't feel comfortable with the loss of hair and again they will understand. It's no big deal. It's a hat.
Even in the summer if you don't feel comfortable simply wear a hat. Here is your situation. You are like a soldier that's been injured in the war really bad. He has 2 options, to go back to the battleground without any weapon (i.e. no hat) or go with a weapon (the hat). It's all in your hands. I think I have spoken enough. Just think about it, and I hope things work out for you.
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Ghost1988 - I just wonder, are you sure people are constantly staring at your hairline? I mean, I can't imagine what there is that's so interesting to see. You're not the first guy to have had hair loss, and I really don't think it's such a big deal for other people. That said I'm in two minds about this and can sympathise. I'm going through a similar thing with the ladies, but I'm mostly convinced the problem is psychological. I'm further convinced by this when I see mates of mine, that frankly aren't that good looking (understatement), with very (emphasised) attractive women. At the same time, I do feel I have been getting less attention from younger women since shaving my head. Older women have given me a lot of compliments about it. It's tough, as I read earlier maybe younger women have an idealist view of what their men should look like, and a bald guy doesn't fit with that. I'm 23 btw in my second year of uni.
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HI. I was your age once and felt the same about people not liking me becasue of thin hair or acne or one thing or another. After many years of life on this crazy planet I finally found that there are always people who will LIKE you for the same things you DONT like about yourself... and some people will NOT like you for those same things! For example I have a super hairy chest. Some people go crazy for that and it bores me and I buzz it down. Others like it buzzed down. The point is I LIKE it buzzed down and am confident that way EVEN though people beg me to let it grow out becasue THAT is what THEY LIKE. Guess what, I am now confident enough to have it the way I LIKE it. The fear of what happens when I encounter people who dont like it has faded. The FEAR you have about some girls not LIKING you because you are balding, shaved bald, shadow bald etc. is just a very limited belief or way of looking at your world. If you go online to a dating site and post how you want ONLY girls who LOVE BALD SHAVED 20 year old MEN you would be overwhelmed with responses. YOU JUST HAVE NOT MET ONE YET !!!!!!! Being bald is there to teach you something....to learn across your life how to be more confident. Now repeat 10 times per day- "what I want is a girlfriend who loves me bald and I love her". Do it and you will become more confident each day and one will find you.
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Hey Ghost, I think there are a few ways to look at it. 1) People see your hair line and know your losing your hair then they see your head shaved and know you took charge. 2) They don't even notice your hairline and look at your shaved head which seems to be the case 98% of the time.
Sure some people will notice it, but it's unlikely they would say anything to you, because you look like a bad ass!!! ;)
Have you ever had someone say something to you about it? Does this girl that was chatting you up in the drug store work there? And i guessing you didn't have a hat on so she more then likely saw your hairline and she didn't seem to care. You really need to work on yourself esteem. Even if your feeling down in the dumps keep your head up, shoulders back,chest out, and do you very very best at making eye contact. DON'T LOOK AT THE FLOOR!!! your just making your hair line more visible. It really is about confidence.
Your a good looking guy! It is nothing to do with your looks or the fact your losing your hair it's about your confidence!!!!!!
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Alright man, when I came back to SBG, and I saw you posting, what was the first thing I noticed? How BADASS you look with a shaved head. I didn't even notice your hairline. Straight up, I don't bullsh*t. I'm NOT telling you this just to make you feel better. I mean it. Keep your head up, everything will work out, but it has to start with you.
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i appreciate the feedback guys. i cant explain how well this site helps. if i never found this site and got a chance to vent to people who are in the same boat i think ide be feeling 10 times more helpless. thanks
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hey ghost: as some of the sly brothers have said... it's not about your looks. it's about the big C: confidence. once U get that confidence... everything will follow. U will no longer have negative feelings about yourself. self-confidence & a slick noggin' is an unstoppable combination. i hope & pray that U will find it. O0 O0
WARHAWK O0
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Ok...first off, plugs!?!
Bro...talk about feeling like a loser...what if it goes bad...which most do..then what, a scarred "kinda" hairy head you wont want to even shave cuz of the scars!
You're a hip lookin' and nice lookin' bro...
and really.....you do not want a girl that digs you because of your hair...
it's attitude bro...
at our gym the coolest most confident dude (and lots of girls are around him) is shaved smooth with a very dark horseshoe shadow...the bro oozes stud tough...
girls want confidence and some one they feel can take care of them ( I know womens movement and all)..but they look at confidence, faces and whitt!
Remember though, in club scenes and in life...most bro's just fake the confidence and hope someone notices them..
if you don't got it...fake it!
Big one though...to the right, cool girl (and that is what you want)...a shaved slick head..
ONLY says confidence!
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Well, I don't know what you looked like with hair and I'm not a 20 year old girl, but a 24 year old one... I think you look attractive just how you are now.
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Well, I don't know what you looked like with hair and I'm not a 20 year old girl, but a 24 year old one... I think you look attractive just how you are now.
Now there ya go! O0
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haha ok. i appreciate it. and like i said.......some days are better than others. thats just how it is. but im gonna make that my new years resolution. to have more confidence and not be so worried about what people think of me or my hair.
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Cam: you're a lucky guy!
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Cam: you're a lucky guy!
O0 Yes I am! Thanks!
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GHOST-
You ask why a girl would go out with you when there are millions of guys with nice hair.
My friend, you've sort of answered your own question with that statement. That is the EXACT reason why a girl would go out with you....because you are different.... because you look great while looking different.... because the confidence it takes to be a little different from the crowd shines thru.
I've seen the photos of some of our members girlfriends/wives on this Forum and there are a lot of fine ladies clinging to these guys.
Like Andrew, I believe that your own insecurity over your hair loss is getting in the way of everything else. Women like confident men. If you are not confident they will smell that stink on you and go somewhere else to get what they want.
Stand tall and proud..... project your confidence...people will be drawn to you.
Good energy, karma, whatever you want to call it...... it's one of the great assets in life.
Confident people are successful people.....whether it be in their jobs, their relationships, or in the other things they enjoy in life.
Quit living in the past, be confident, and most importantly be proud of who and what you are.
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Hey, I'm new to the sly fraternity, I'm also 20 and sly due to MPB like you. I can relate to what you are talking about... Walking around the uni campus there are not many sly brethren around and there are girls who reject us for it, however such girls are not worth your time anyway. I honestly think you pull off the sly image very well, i'd advise just to go out and have some fun make the most of being 20 and eventually you will come terms with who you are = confidence :)
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Hey, I'm new to the sly fraternity, I'm also 20 and sly due to MPB like you. I can relate to what you are talking about... Walking around the uni campus there are not many sly brethren around and there are girls who reject us for it, however such girls are not worth your time anyway. I honestly think you pull off the sly image very well, i'd advise just to go out and have some fun make the most of being 20 and eventually you will come terms with who you are = confidence :)
Welcome to the Forum SLYBRO1988! Post an intro in the INTRODUCTION section so that you can get a proper SBG Welcome. Tell us a little about yourself in that intro.
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lots of people get depressed about hairloss... it may seem dumb to other people who aren't going through it. but here at this forum, many of us understand what it feels like, and many have overcome this obstacle( depression is the obstacle not hairloss).
I can only speak for myself, but hair transplants are not a solution that would really help. me. because it would appear that I am at the beginning and I will most likely lose more hair than they can transplant.... you situation is different, but you don't know how far you are going to recede. what one surgery will do today won't help the hair you might lose in the future.
I too have insecurities about my shadow.. getting a close shave and getting tan are ways to reduce visibility of shadow...
this past sunday as I was driving to a girl's house to pick her up. I wondered why this girl even wanted to hang out with me. as the night went on it became apparent to me that this girl, while she does care what I look like, does not give a damn about my hair or lack of it. she cares much more about my personality, ability to have conversation, and most importantly the way I make her feel when we are together... hair doesn't make a difference to her...
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I imagine it would be tough attracting a girlfriend if you end up looking away any time they look at you. I'm also not one for self deprecating humor. I never feel the need to poke fun at myself for a shaved head, especially around women. If anything, if there are comments I smile, rub my head while saying something like "Thanks! It's freakin awesome! I love it" and continue whatever was going on. When I see people pick on themselves like that, other people appear to smile along out of courtesy and it's usually followed by a little bit of awkwardness. Good luck explaining to me how this would actually help you. That strategy won't help you mentally and won't project the image of confidence to whoever you're around.
I understand that this is dealing with women and not 20 year old "girls". I have yet to meet a "woman" that made any kind of deal about the hair on my head or lack of. I've had it long, bad, shaved, buzzed... they still want to experience the power of cheese.
Ghost... Brother... You need to pick yourself up, GRAB YOURSELF BY THE STONES and realize that you're a good looking guy. Your looks are attractive but your aura and confidence is not. Once you realize and accept that fact, all your self-esteem problems will be behind you.
? Could you be consumed about the hair loss and how it LOOKED and not how it looks now? That process seems to have been rough for you. Now what are you going to do? Sit around and feel sorry for yourself over something 50% of the male population will deal with at some time or another OR be a man, accept it and use it to your advantage. Women and people in general find belief in oneself is extremely sexy. Whereas doubt indicates weakness, confidence shows strength. It's human nature; pre-programmed into our DNA.
Try this: Think about what you’re good at. Ask yourself: what are the things people like about me? Begin focusing on these qualities every day. Thinking about your attributes will help create a positive image of yourself in your own mind.
Visualize yourself as the man you want to be. Every day, project to yourself the image of the confident guy you wish to be. Close your eyes and see yourself getting whatever you want. Imagine yourself in different situations; See yourself striking-up conversations with hot women who are all over you. Picture yourself standing tall, feeling bold, powerful and confident. Focus on how easy it is to have these women pursuing YOU.
This kind of daily exercise might seem silly at first but believe it man. You can convince yourself anything you want. Your brain, not your shaved dome is what's holding you back.
Take control. If you WANT to be a confident person, you will be.
Listen and understand what Duff said above.:
she cares much more about my personality, ability to have conversation, and most importantly the way I make her feel when we are together... hair doesn't make a difference to her...
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I imagine it would be tough attracting a girlfriend if you end up looking away any time they look at you. I'm also not one for self deprecating humor. I never feel the need to poke fun at myself for a shaved head, especially around women. If anything, if there are comments I smile, rub my head while saying something like "Thanks! It's freakin awesome! I love it" and continue whatever was going on. When I see people pick on themselves like that people appear to smile along out of courtesy and it's usually followed by a little bit of awkwardness.
I understand that this is dealing with women and not 20 year old "girls". I have yet to meet a "woman" that made any kind of deal about the hair on my head or lack of. I've had it long, bad, shaved, buzzed... they still want to experience the power of cheese.
Ghost... Brother... You need to pick yourself up, GRAB YOURSELF BY THE STONES and realize that you're a good looking guy. Your looks are attractive but your aura and confidence is not. Once you realize and accept that fact, all your self-esteem problems will be behind you.
? Could you be consumed about the hair loss and how it LOOKED and not how it looks now? That process seems to have been rough for you. Now what are you going to do? Seems pretty cut and dry to me. Sit around and feel sorry for yourself over something 50% of the male population will deal with at some time or another OR be a man, accept it and use it to your advantage. Women and people in general find belief in oneself is extremely sexy. Whereas doubt indicates weakness, confidence shows strength. It's human nature; pre-programmed into our DNA.
Try this: Think about what you’re good at. Ask yourself: what are the things people like about me? Begin focusing on these qualities every day. Thinking about your attributes will help create a positive image of yourself in your own mind.
Visualize yourself as the man you want to be. Every day, project to yourself the image of the confident guy you wish to be. Close your eyes and see yourself getting whatever you want. Imagine yourself in different situations; See yourself striking-up conversations with hot women who are all over you. Picture yourself standing tall, feeling bold, powerful and confident. Focus on how easy it is to have these women pursuing YOU.
This kind of daily exercise might seem silly at first but believe it man. You can convince yourself anything you want. Your brain, not your shaved dome is what's holding you back.
Take control. If you WANT to be a confident person, you will be.
The Cheese speaks the truth!! Complete genius PoC - I think I will try to apply this to my outlook as well!!
Ghost - gotta be honest your post in the "to be or not to be....bald" was one of the reason for me a. joinin this site and b. shaving my head! Your a young guy, a good looking dude and you tottally pull off the bald look!
I can't add anything to what the cheese said, but I have up and down days, it sucks, but both you and I seem to be guilty of letting our hairloss define who we are... thats total BS dude, we are so much more than a receeding hairline! I happen to also be a pretty cool I think and I am sure you are too, hell I would hang out with you!!
Once you accept that things are not going to get any better and accept that you are one cool ass sly mofo you can start building the confidence you once had!!
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Methinks Cheese & Duff are the voices of reason here; maybe they can take over for Dr Phil? (after he retires)
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Ghost... I want you to change your avatar picture to something that doesn't look sad. You see yourself every day like that when you get on here. Take some new pictures, try different kinds of lighting, flash, no flash... be creative.
Lets see something that projects an image of confidence, even if you have to fake it for now.
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You look fine to me. But I know what depression is like cos I have been there. If I can help send me a personal message
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Methinks Cheese & Duff are the voices of reason here; maybe they can take over for Dr Phil? (after he retires)
Dr.Phil needs to shave his head! If you're already balding, I think it looks much hotter if you just shave it all off!
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Bravo! for Wil87's "....we are so much more than a receeding hairline!"
I know as a middle-aged man I'm not in the same place with hair loss as you younger fellas who are letting mpb get you down. (I was young once, too, though.) But if I could reach inside your heads and turn off the switch that says "My value is in my hair" or "My hair is me," I'd be flippin' switches right and left.
The only way out of the dumps over mpb that I know of is to accept the reality of it, and then do your best from there. For many of us the best is to be rid of it, by making the bold choice to go Sly. Ghost, you've done that and you look great. You are genetically programed to go bald. You can't change that. But you can change your attitude. Your bald head is not holding you back. Your attitude is. I don't mean for that to sound harsh, but the reality is that only you can change what goes on between your ears. And when you do, everything else will fall into place. Hang in there and keep working on it. O0
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Big pecs and biceps are a great distraction from the shadow on your dome. Trust me, no one will even be looking at your head!
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Big pecs and biceps are a great distraction from the shadow on your dome. Trust me, no one will even be looking at your head!
true, I found that alot of girls will take muscles over hair
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Duff is right. At my gym; the bald guys (could be ages 20-30) are always being surrounded. My two trainers are bald and the women (besides those looking for a free workout tip or two) are always hanging around them.
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Ghost you have a very cool look. Bro I know guys who would love to be bald, but they don`t think they have the dome for it.Bro you pull it off big time!
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Ghost you got nothing to worry about man. Your a good looking dude...you look like you could be in a band or something. I agree on taking some new pictures...Ive seen better ones of you.
As far as girls are concerned...try dating someone older than you...like mid-20's...girls who are older and a little more mature are way hotter than some of the 20 year old bimbos...(plus they are still hot :))
And they will care a hell of a lot less about your hair loss. Just act confident. Even if you dont feel it...just act it and soon you will be it. And I agree with RazorX...hit the weights...you will instantly feel better.
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Hey Ghost I know exactly what your going through man Im 22 and my hair is falling out, and I was flipping out about it man, i wore a hat everyday cause i thought i looked better with it on then off. I talked to my family about the transplants believeing that was my answer for my confidence and looks.... i Had actually signed up for the proceedure! but i droped out of it 2 days before and I have never been happier, Those transplants would have ruined my life!! Im talkin about scars and the other natural hair fallin out...
After joing this site I had found new confidence in myself and I know people always look at me and I too think Oh god they are lookin at my head, but I ignore that voice same as when i think people are starin at me when im buying under eye diminishing creame or face exfolient (yeh im tryin to take care of my skin so what? lol)
But lemme tell you a short story... Last summer I worked for a special ed school working the summer school program, I had my head buzzed, not as short as people are doing it here and u could def tell i had MPB but my hair was fairly light. When i looked in the mirror i cringed when i saw a bald streak goin up the middle of my head front to back.... But anyway back to the story There where ALOT of good lookin girls there and only 4 men in their 20s... so thats pretty good odds. One of those guys prefered the same sex relations so I know he wasnt gonna try hittin on these girls... Tho the other 2 are both Lacrosse players Lean buff and had great hair... I felt super insecure on the inside, but on the outside I always was happy upbeat and always tried to make good conversation and oozed confidence. One day one of the gym teachers stops me and says one of the girls thinks im cute and funny.
This blows my mind! im like who! It was this girl Rebecca the hottest girl there! so i talked to her after work one day and she said she thinks im cute and sexy and way more intresting then the other guys who really had no personality and all were quiet. So i Dated her for the rest of the month but had to call it off cause she lived nearly 1 and a half hours away and i couldnt afford the gas...
All im sayin is keep yer head up man, always show confidence trust me my friend!! If u need any more boosting stay here we got ur back lol!!!! Sheeze i wish u lived here we could do some damage at the bars! those women won know what hit em!
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Hey Ghost I know exactly what your going through man Im 22 and my hair is falling out, and I was flipping out about it man, i wore a hat everyday cause i thought i looked better with it on then off. I talked to my family about the transplants believeing that was my answer for my confidence and looks.... i Had actually signed up for the proceedure! but i droped out of it 2 days before and I have never been happier, Those transplants would have ruined my life!! Im talkin about scars and the other natural hair fallin out...
After joing this site I had found new confidence in myself and I know people always look at me and I too think Oh god they are lookin at my head, but I ignore that voice same as when i think people are starin at me when im buying under eye diminishing creame or face exfolient (yeh im tryin to take care of my skin so what? lol)
But lemme tell you a short story... Last summer I worked for a special ed school working the summer school program, I had my head buzzed, not as short as people are doing it here and u could def tell i had MPB but my hair was fairly light. When i looked in the mirror i cringed when i saw a bald streak goin up the middle of my head front to back.... But anyway back to the story There where ALOT of good lookin girls there and only 4 men in their 20s... so thats pretty good odds. One of those guys prefered the same sex relations so I know he wasnt gonna try hittin on these girls... Tho the other 2 are both Lacrosse players Lean buff and had great hair... I felt super insecure on the inside, but on the outside I always was happy upbeat and always tried to make good conversation and oozed confidence. One day one of the gym teachers stops me and says one of the girls thinks im cute and funny.
This blows my mind! im like who! It was this girl Rebecca the hottest girl there! so i talked to her after work one day and she said she thinks im cute and sexy and way more intresting then the other guys who really had no personality and all were quiet. So i Dated her for the rest of the month but had to call it off cause she lived nearly 1 and a half hours away and i couldnt afford the gas...
All im sayin is keep yer head up man, always show confidence trust me my friend!! If u need any more boosting stay here we got ur back lol!!!! Sheeze i wish u lived here we could do some damage at the bars! those women won know what hit em!
Great story Cat..... once again proving that the hair doesn't make the man.
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Ghost - I was reading your story and like a lot of guys here, I also started losing my hair at an early age. It was definitely tough for me to deal with, too. My dad (who was balding) wasn't very constructive with some of his comments and I worried about my hair a lot.
I dated a few different girls, only one of which told me "If your hair falls out, I won't love you anymore. I can't love someone who's bald." She was so not worth it (trust me - she had her faults - I just didn't bring them up to her). The girls I dated before her AND after her (obviously, including the girl I married) NEVER once said anything about my hair or it falling out. Girls worth keeping are the girls that are more concerned about how you treat them, rather than how they can use you as some type of accessory (but don't get me wrong - you're a handsome guy).
I've only really lamented my hair loss over the years because I have a really fair complexion and there's generally no tanning - just burnt or pale. So... from a protection standpoint, yeah, I missed my hair. As far as looking better when I had hair or I didn't, I don't see it. I know I was better looking when I weighed 35 to 40 lbs less than I do now. And that, I can do something about! O0
I strongly urge you not to go the way of hairplugs. I've known two guys that had hair plugs. With all due respect to the guys that do this, the first guy I knew - his was bad; it looked like they inserted armpit hair onto his scalp. The second guy's hair looked slightly more natural, but when he'd sweat these gnarly, "V" shaped scars would show through the hair on the back of his head. I think as some other guys have posted, it limits the way you can wear your hair - can't really go back to shaving due to the gnarly scars and you can have other hair fall out around the plugs.
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yeh oldkookskater ur right, i almost went that route and then i got wise and did reearch on em... plus i had some words of wisdom from marty here on this site
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And have my words of wisdom worked out so far, Cap? LOL
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oh yeh, ive steered very clear of any transplant proceedures or anything... i think i have embraced my MPB now i just need to take that step to fully sly and embrace that!
Btw thanks marty!
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now i just need to take that step to fully sly and embrace that!
hey capt: dude... U would rock the chrome dome. so... when R U gonna "do the deed"?
WARHAWK O0
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I've been gone for a while- I'm back
Anyways,
Ghost, you just gotta get your head in the right place. Hair has nothing to do with it anything! I was 21 when I started losing it, 22 when I started noticing it. I did little things; I grew my hair out a little longer than before, and carried a small brush around with me to keep the coverage up. But that wasn't me, I was a grown ass man who was not going to carry a brush around! My friends and I rallied around Prison Break (a huge "Bald Power" show), and decided to all buzz our heads- I just took it down to the skin. 22 is when I shaved it- haven't looked back since. I still get women, and it's because of one thing- confidence.
Chicks are not like us, they have an amazing ability to not be shallow. They want us to make them feel like they've never felt before. Our hair has nothing to do with that...
Here's what you gotta do- take the energy you spend worrying about what women are thinking, and just put it toward having a good time because women just want to smile!
Hope that helps, you're a cool dude and you know it, take control my man!
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hey warhawk im hopin this weekend! just got it shaved to a 1 or a 2 and im liking it :) i think im ready to go sly now i jst need to go get some good shaving cream and afta shave
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Hey Ghost, if it makes you feel better, I am envious of your good looks. I am not a very good looking man. Of course age has a lot to do with it. If I had your looks I would be crawling with women. As the guys have said, confidence! Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You are not the only bald guy in the world. You are what is on the inside. I suspect that you are a great and caring person. Any worthwhile woman would be lucky to have you beside them. Very young girls tend to want a man that makes them look good-sort of look at what I caught. A woman wants a soulmate.
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amen papa! amen