Sly Bald Guys Forum
Discussions About Being Bald => To be or not be...Bald => Topic started by: sanctified on September 19, 2011, 10:54:25 PM
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I am having a rough time emotionally these days and like usual when things go bad in school or in work I judge myself.
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Dude, you look fantastic shaved ! Perfect skin, great facial structure. You do not need hair to be good looking. You already are, no reason to doubt yourself. Keep it shaved every day.
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yeah man... you're freaken hot...
LOL...
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I don't know what you're talking about. You look great to me.
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If your looks are the core issue (which I doubt), then there's nothing wrong with the way you look, and you certainly dont have the ugliest cone egghead known to man.
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You may have other issues than your looks, but I see a good looking young man. The bald look is you, bro.
O0
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Chill, call the eye doctor, it's a problem that can be solved with properly fitted corrective lenses.
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Chill, call the eye doctor, it's a problem that can be solved with properly fitted corrective lenses.
Im not sure about that. I think there might be another issue at play here, but however you look at it, he's not a bad looking kid. I wish I looked like that without a shirt.
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Wow man, you are a fine looking young man. I can't imagine anyone having a problem with those looks. Do you have a mirror by any chance. Check it out dude, it might help. Seriously you look great bald. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your looks or the shave head. I can't seem to find the egghead either. Keep it shaved daily man you lookgreat
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I agree with all those who posted before me. You have no reason to feel down with how you look. You have the head and the face that gives justice to the sly look and that amazing head is attached to a finely built body. What more could you ask for?
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I have to agree with the guys you are a very good looking young man with a great shaped head (shaped kinda like mine) believe me when I say, and this is coming from a gay man, you should not be down about your looks and I will say again you are very handsome you have a great smile and a great head shape. Don't be down pick your head up and go forward with you life. Cheers Daniel
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I don't know what you're talking about. You look great to me.
Yup, what he ^ said....
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As everyone else has already said, You pull it off man! No worries, Hang in there and this 'low point' your currently experiencing will soon pass, I guarantee!
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In my opinion, you have absolutely nothing to worry about. You are a very nice looking man. You look hot, dude! Makes me kinda jealous actually ;-)
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I have to agree with the guys you are a very good looking young man with a great shaped head (shaped kinda like mine) believe me when I say, and this is coming from a gay man, you should not be down about your looks and I will say again you are very handsome you have a great smile and a great head shape. Don't be down pick your head up and go forward with you life. Cheers Daniel
I go right along with balddaniel
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I agree. There is nothing wrong with the way you look. You look frickin AWESOME.
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Thanks for the positive feedback.
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Dude, you look great. As far as analyzing other people and comparing them to you, few people are going to have 100% perfect features and for each person you notice having "perfect" headshape or whatever, they probably have an attribute that also affects their confidence. You definitely rock the look, though, and have absolutely nothing to worry about.
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Underdog 2 You look great.
Keep the dome shaved. You don't have a cone head. I would keep it shaved if I were You.
:)
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Have my hair grown out and im looking back at these pics with anxiety. Hate my hair now but hate my headshape.
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I did not notice this thread back in September. Went back to check the photos and comments. I have to agree with the guys here on SBG. The bald look is YOU. You may thing 'pointy head'. I see a slick bald guy with a very nice head. Looks great without hair. I'd be proud of that look and want to show it off.
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Have my hair grown out and im looking back at these pics with anxiety. Hate my hair now but hate my headshape. God damn pointy head. No remedy.
Maybe you are too hypercritical to yourself? I cannot see anything bad or ugly in your headshape. You can believe me and the others. I assume none of us would have any reasons to deceit you :}
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Have my hair grown out and im looking back at these pics with anxiety. Hate my hair now but hate my headshape. God damn pointy head. No remedy.
Several bits of what you've posted suggest that you might seriously consider some counselling--seriously. There's no shame in it and you will probably find out what's causing all your negative attitudes. It's not your head, sly or hirsute, that's on your head--you need to take care of some stuff on the inside.
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I'm sorry to hear you are feeling down. You do look great sly and should be proud to wear it.
Are others in your life trying to influence your decision and thoughts? 8)
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Talk therapy works.
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We all have our own issues and cross to carry, in a way. It's how you carry that cross that makes the difference. If you don't like bald, then get a hair system (rug, toupee, whatever you want to call it) and hide under it. Who ever said bald guys have NO hair to worry about was blind ... LOL. Make the best of life as you only get one chance on this planet !
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Glad to hear you're working on it. Not easy but well worth the effort--keep it up. You will get through it.
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I am in therapy or counseling whatever you want to call it. Sorry for the negativity of my post. It is just what I'm feeling at the moment. Feel stupid caring so much about looks, but I just feel like I lost a chunk of my identity. Let's face it bald is not for everyone. If it was so easy Sbg wouldn't even exist would it?
I don't think you have anything to apologize for. Everyone has negative thoughts, and if you are able to speak about them, this is a very good sign.
For me, it seems that you are unsatisfied in general - if you have hair, then this makes you unhappy, but if you have no hair, you worry about the shape of your head, though you have no real reasons for it.
I know self-acceptance is a heavy task; even if you have a good therapist, you have to work much on it.
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Really need advice on how to move forward.
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It simply boggles my mind that someone who is so classically handsome can have a self image problem. Buck up dude -- it's all what's in your head, not what's on your head.
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It simply boggles my mind that someone who is so classically handsome can have a self image problem. Buck up dude -- it's all what's in your head, not what's on your head.
I agree. You look great. Don't be so hard on yourself.
I can understand the not being sure about whether you like it; it's normal to feel that way. I know I did. But the fact that you've returned to the shaved look should tell you something. I went back and forth a number of times before it finally dawned on me that I kept going back to the shaved head for a reason. !d3@
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You need to man up abit, you look great
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With a head and a face like yours, insecurity should be the least on your mind. O0
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So I did it again. Still feel very insecure about it. Not sure if I like it or not. I'm pretty depressed.
please....please.... seek professional help. there is nothing we can say or do 2 help with your "depression". i know that u will greatly benefit seeing a professional. don't get offended with my suggestions. i strongly feel that u must seek professional help asap.
WARHAWK O0
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Sly Bear, nailed it! You are a good looking man and shaved looks great on you.
O0
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OH.... Now that I see the current picture, I have to stand by my original comment. You look great with the bald head. 8)
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You look great bald. 8)
As others have mentioned it's all in your head. Since you had hair on your head your whole life this is a change. Change is good.
Best of luck!!
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So I did it again. Still feel very insecure about it. Not sure if I like it or not. I'm pretty depressed.
Now I am quite sure that being bald cannot possibly be a reason for you to be depressed. You can believe me - and the others -, you look damn good!
Though I see that it might be hard for you to believe. In a depressed state of mind, you can be convinced "I am ugly", "I am stupid", "no-one likes me", even if in reality, you could be very popular and successful. I know from experience that in a severely depressed episode, one can find ANYTHING a good reason for feeling bad about theirselves. In your case: I think if you let your hair grow out again, you would probably feel miserable because "your hair looks ugly", or anything. Depression is like this.
Have you read any help-for-selfhelp guides online? There are many good and clever sites whoch are worth to read and practice!
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It is not really the front of my head that I am concerned with but how I look at other angles, specifically the profile. I am really self conscious about it and hate to say but it ain't pretty. I feel more confident straight on then when people view me from the sides. Have a look and see!
And you say you are unsatisfied? Dammit, you remind me of a prince from the ancient Egypt! Honestly.
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Well, unless you can find a way to always have the rest of the world look at you only from the front, you're going to have to do what the rest of us do: live with it! You look fine, so don't worry about it.
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You look fine from the front and sides both. Handsome, in fact. So listen to what Warhawk said. You seem generally depressed and that is something that can be dealt with professionally, but not really by the people on this Board.
Having said that, I hope you stay on the Board, post often and begin to really enjoy being SLY.
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I'm so angry.
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Bald men with pointy heads are told that they can't pull the look.
Who, other than you, ever said that? And, you don't have a "pointy" head on the outside--it's only that way inside your head.
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Underdog2, you rock the bald-look. Be confident, mate. Straighten up those shoulders, lift up your chin and walk confidently, boy! You honestly have nothing to worry about. Try keeping to the 30-day rule on this site. It will really help you. It really helped me & the guys here will really encourage you.
Best wishes,
Bilko
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good pic Underdog2!
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Stop this madness! Your head shape falls well within the 'perfect' range for sporting the SLY look.
You have nothing to complain about in the shaved head looks department my friend.
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So I did it again. Still feel very insecure about it. Not sure if I like it or not. I'm pretty depressed.
Slyness is like clothes.
You look good only if you feel good.
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Slyness is like clothes.
You look good only if you feel good.
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You nailed it Cris
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Baldness complement whats inside the man's heart... Brother i don't see anything wrong with all your picutres, the only wrong i see is your misjudgement of yourself... Man cheer up there is alot of good qualities in you, you have just to focus on them... and then let the shinny head complement it. what do you think? O0 O0
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You are a nice lookin guy, and the heashave suits you very well.
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You look absolutley 100 % fine O0
This coming from a guy who had a HT 10 yrs ago
I envy you
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Yourjust awesome bald , i cant belive ur a single man
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Sorry--still only pointed on the inside. Deal with it, talk with your counsellor/therapist about what about yourself your really don't like and why you're trying to transfer that dislike to a non-existant pointed head. You're not a conehead--get it.
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I feel like the photos I posted or angles made my head look better than it really is.
Classic denial. Just like anorexia victims who look in the mirror and see themselves as fat even when they are just skin and bones.
The photos aren't lying -- it's your mind that's lying to itself. Takes saintc's advise and discuss this with a therapist.
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In the photos, I see a good looking young man with a very attractive young woman. I don't see a pointy head, so I agree with my brethren that there must be other issues you have to deal with.
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Like the rest of the fella's, I see nothing at all odd about your head shape, and agree that you really do need to seek counseling with a therapist. There has to be a deeper issue here. I hope you can work it out.
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I'm back. I have been seeing someone as most of you told me to do so ( I was already planning to for my depression anyways). I llearned to accept it a little more.
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Stick with the look - in no time at all you will be past the apprehension that you are feeling. It looks good on you - stand strong. 8)
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O0
You're on the right path--keep it up, keep it smooth!
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you look fine. welcome.
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My perception has not changed. I have however, learned to accept it a little more. Maybe a partially pointy head doesn't look so bad on me.
Acceptance is a good start. Once you accept that these things are beyond your control you tend to stop obsessing about them so much. It may take some time, but you'll get there eventually.
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Hi everyone, I just want to thank you all for your positive support.
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Well glad to hear you're working on the issue--and you will succeed because we've told you the truth and you'll learn to like yourself just like your friends do now. You will come to understand the issue, and in that understanding will be the essentials to learn to believe it.
Now, get out there and enjoy your sly bald life! O0
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Good Luck...We're pulling for you to pull through this.
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With all the support and encouragement from the SBG family, I hope you will overcome and conquer your condition.
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I know - personally - how difficult it is to reconcile one's inner perceptions versus the feedback you get from others (such as the guys here).
You pointed out the value of the opinions here - no one is getting paid (here) to provide counsel or encouragement.
Surround yourself with those who will speak to you honestly and without malice (here and in your real world).
Just keep working at it. Day by day, or hour by hour.
Whatever it takes.
And check in here so folks know how you are doing and whether there's some way that any of us can help.
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Hi underdog,
I could have written exactly what you have just said, it was amazing to read that.
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I don't see any photos... am I missing something?