help with cousin who ridicules me because i shaved my head

[fcb2001]

My cousin who is 8 years older than me who has been using rogaine for 12 years and propecia for 6 years for his hair loss, he is going to use hair club, his mother and my mother were sisters, he totally makes fun of me for shaving my head, when he saw me last weekend for the first time in 14 years, he told me that i was a stupid fool for shaving my head, but i have since found out that he cant have kids because his sperm egg has bewen killed because of those hair loss drugs he has been using, my cousin is going to wear a toupee if hair club doesnt work for him, and he will still use the rogaine and propecia, i just dont know how to deal with him, he wants me to stop shaving my head, i told him that iam going to shave my head for good because it is my way of deafeating male pattern baldness becaue it it going to hit me real bad in about 5 years when i basically have horsehoe head, when i started shaving my head five years ago i had a full head of hair but since i started sahaving my head i started to notice the receeading and thining hair line.
any help form my other bald brothers in delaing with this cousin would be helpful.

[SBG Math Guy]

misery needs company

[TheSlyBear]

Let's see... he's infertile because of the drugs, is dependent upon those drugs, or "hair" club, financially and emotionally for the rest of his life, or will be wearing a rug that most people will see right though and twitter about behind his back.

What is it you need help with?

[fcb2001]

i need help with how he ridicules me for making the decision to shave my head, he calls me a stupid fool. i refuse to take any drugs, rugs or plugs, eventually i want to have kids, which i will be able to do.

Let's see... he's infertile because of the drugs, is dependent upon those drugs, or "hair" club, financially and emotionally for the rest of his life, or will be wearing a rug that most people will see right though and twitter about behind his back.

What is it you need help with?

[SLYinKC]

Brother, It sounds to me like this guy knows that he is a loser.  If you just stand up to him with self-confidence, you will win automatically. The problem is that you seem to care what he thinks. I would not worry about anything this guy says.  He obviously does not care about you or he would not treat you this way.

I would just give him a dose of SLY attitude and tell him that you are happy with yourself and once he finds something that makes him happy with who he is...then you will talk to him.

[fcb2001]

That what i will do the next time i see him which may be another 10 years down the road, and i only talk with him by telephone maybe once every two years

Brother, It sounds to me like this guy knows that he is a loser.  If you just stand up to him with self-confidence, you will win automatically. The problem is that you seem to care what he thinks. I would not worry about anything this guy says.  He obviously does not care about you or he would not treat you this way.

I would just give him a dose of SLY attitude and tell him that you are happy with yourself and once he finds something that makes him happy with who he is...then you will talk to him.

[SBG Math Guy]

Whatttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt?  You care confusing me now.  If you are not going to see him for another 10 years
why would you give a rat's ass about what he thinks?   

That what i will do the next time i see him which may be another 10 years down the road, and i only talk with him by telephone maybe once every two years

Brother, It sounds to me like this guy knows that he is a loser.  If you just stand up to him with self-confidence, you will win automatically. The problem is that you seem to care what he thinks. I would not worry about anything this guy says.  He obviously does not care about you or he would not treat you this way.

I would just give him a dose of SLY attitude and tell him that you are happy with yourself and once he finds something that makes him happy with who he is...then you will talk to him.

[fcb2001]

i only see him once a decade because my personality clashes with his personality, and i have nothing in common with him,

Whatttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt?  You care confusing me now.  If you are not going to see him for another 10 years
why would you give a rat's ass about what he thinks?   

That what i will do the next time i see him which may be another 10 years down the road, and i only talk with him by telephone maybe once every two years

Brother, It sounds to me like this guy knows that he is a loser.  If you just stand up to him with self-confidence, you will win automatically. The problem is that you seem to care what he thinks. I would not worry about anything this guy says.  He obviously does not care about you or he would not treat you this way.

I would just give him a dose of SLY attitude and tell him that you are happy with yourself and once he finds something that makes him happy with who he is...then you will talk to him.

[Mikekoz13]

I'm a big believer in sending bad energy away forever. Sounds to me like it's time to launch this one to the moon.

In a couple of years take your adorable kids over to his house and don't say a word. Just hug them and kiss them while you rub your nice shaved head.

[pharmer]

Sounds like a real jerk.  I usually run the opposite direction of these types of people. 

While I'm not necessarily a proponant of hair loss drugs, I would like to point out that there really isn't a known link between Propecia and infertility.  Because these types of drugs lower a man's level of active testosterone, there is always going to be the risk of side effects, including ED.  Maybe this guy was infertile to begin with.

The reason I point this out is that there are bound to be young guys on this site who at one time used Propecia.  I don't want anyone freaking out, and thinking they are now infertile.  As a pharmacist, I will be the first to admit that there are risks associated with pretty much any medicine.  Propecia and medications like it have their share of risks.  From what I have studied, infertility is not one of those risks.

[R o b 6]

Because these types of drugs lower a man's level of active testosterone, there is always going to be the risk of side effects...

That's great expert advice pharmer!...so, to clarify, not taking these drugs means you'll have more testosterone, right? And therefore, be more prone to be bald. Some of the commercials for these drugs say women should not even handle the medicine becuase it could cause birth defects. Sounds lethal.

[andrew]

Pharmer - Thanks for the professional clarification.

fcb2001 - Blow him off.  This guy seems like a complete dope.  I wouldn't waste any time considering his opinions.  Simply dismiss him.   

[Razor X]

Your cousin's opinion is not important.  Don't waste any energy worrying about somebody you hardly ever see.

[Tyler]

FCB - my pastor did a sermon on this a couple of weeks ago.   Basically, he's not a positive influence in your life.   You need to let him know that he can either stop giving you crap about your shaved head or he'll never hear from you again.  Then, if he doesn't stop, drop him.  If he does stop, great.

[SBG Math Guy]

hey Tyler, I haven't been here for a long time (4 months) so I don't know too much about you.  Is that little girl your daughter?  She is sooooooooo adorable.  I love kids (I hope to have some of my own in 4 or 5 years) and I have to tell you that child looks adorable.