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No one likes it - just me
by
amess_1999
on 21 Dec, 2008 06:12
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Hey guys,
it's quite hard: I want to be bald - and I have been bald on and off. But no one, really no one, does like it. To get an impression, look at the pix. I dont know what to do. Is it that bad? I want to shave it all off, but I cannot stand the negative feedback I am getting.
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#1
by
SLYinKC
on 21 Dec, 2008 06:17
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Welcome, amess. It sounds to me like you are listening to the wrong people. You look good with a smooth head. But either way, it looks like you have a fullhead of hair, so you can do what you want. Try it off and on if you like. But you really should give it at least 30 days or people will not have a chance to get used to the change.
Best of luck,
Rick
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#2
by
Mikekoz13
on 21 Dec, 2008 06:33
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Welcome to the Forum Amess! I think you look good shaved. Listen to your own heart........ it's your life, nobody elses.
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#3
by
joergHH
on 21 Dec, 2008 07:12
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Welcome, amess.
Both looks are good for you. Do what YOU want, change, shave, let it grow, have a beard or not... - it's you!
J
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#4
by
Brkeatr
on 21 Dec, 2008 07:34
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Welcome to the forum !! I agree with J, I think you look good either way....
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#5
by
Paul
on 21 Dec, 2008 07:36
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Hey amess, in the words of the old song, "You can't please everyone, so you've got to please yourself" You rock the look, if you want it, keep it. There are a lot of people out there that are insecure about someone secure enough to walk a different path.
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#6
by
The Scottish Ambassador
on 21 Dec, 2008 08:10
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You look fine either way to me buddy. So as the saying goes - you cant please everyone so just please yourself.
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#7
by
tomgallagher
on 21 Dec, 2008 08:16
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It's about how you feel with it my friend. Like Paul said "you've got to please yourself". Oh, and welcome to the group.
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#8
by
Razor X
on 21 Dec, 2008 09:44
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I agree; don't listen to the naysayers. I know it can mess with your mind when you get negative feedback, but you have to learn to tune it out. If you stick with it for a while, people will get used to the new look and the negative remarks will stop. It's when you go back and forth that you get more flack, because every time you shave it starts all over again. The naysayers feel emboldened because they think they convinced you to grow your hair back the last time, so they'll try again. I've been down that road, so I know.
Give it at least 30 days, and when the 30 days are up, reassess. When I finally stuck with it for 30 consecutive days, when they were up I decided to see if I could go another 90 days, and when the 90 days were up I never went back. Hang in there; it does get better.
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#9
by
BALDANDRE
on 21 Dec, 2008 10:49
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You Look GREAT bald!
If you like yourself bald...shave it all clean bro...
it's your life, live it for YOU!
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#10
by
choochman
on 21 Dec, 2008 10:52
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Welcome, Brother!
You have that look in your eyes. Both pictures show it. It's that look that conveys the confidence it takes, to know that your self-esteem and your ego, are strong enough NOT to go running off into the corner to cry.
Look at the pics of every member on this site. See something in common?
That same Look.
Again, I say welcome.
You are here because you know you belong here. Here, with Brothers in Arms. Here, where the Sum of the Parts AND the Whole, combine to create the type of strength you were looking for when you found us. The same type of strength that you yourself possess.
Too many times, we find ourselves surrounded by those who lack the strength to change. Kudos to your efforts. You wouldn't be here, showing us your BEST SLY LOOK, if you didn't already know the answer to your own question.
So YES, Brother; we are here for you. YES, you are amongst Friends. YES, you look good with or without hair. YES, you have the strentgh to brush off what other's think; as they find it easier to bring YOU down, then lift themselves. YES, You have come to the right place, and finally, YES, they will try to steer your decisions and that can be a bit painful to overcome but remember, pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional...
Once More, I say WELCOME!
Regards,
Chooch
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#11
by
wpruitt
on 21 Dec, 2008 11:03
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The negative feedback can only get you down if you let it!
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#12
by
BALDANDRE
on 21 Dec, 2008 11:10
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Welcome, Brother!
You have that look in your eyes. Both pictures show it. It's that look that conveys the confidence it takes, to know that your self-esteem and your ego, are strong enough NOT to go running off into the corner to cry.
Look at the pics of every member on this site. See something in common?
That same Look.
Again, I say welcome.
You are here because you know you belong here. Here, with Brothers in Arms. Here, where the Sum of the Parts AND the Whole, combine to create the type of strength you were looking for when you found us. The same type of strength that you yourself possess.
Too many times, we find ourselves surrounded by those who lack the strength to change. Kudos to your efforts. You wouldn't be here, showing us your BEST SLY LOOK, if you didn't already know the answer to your own question.
So YES, Brother; we are here for you. YES, you are amongst Friends. YES, you look good with or without hair. YES, you have the strentgh to brush off what other's think; as they find it easier to bring YOU down, then lift themselves. YES, You have come to the right place, and finally, YES, they will try to steer your decisions and that can be a bit painful to overcome but remember, pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional...
Once More, I say WELCOME!
Regards,
Chooch
Nice words my bald bro!
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#13
by
PowerOfCheese
on 21 Dec, 2008 11:27
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Why bother caring what other people think especially when they're being critical? That's such an easy thing to do.
Before the election I had to listen to everyone's opinion about who is better than who and who sucks... meanwhile, these people know close to NOTHING about politics.
The quarterback sucks, the CGI didn't look real, you didn't do the dishes right...
How much easier is it to critique than to actually do something that generates criticism? Critiquing is the easy part and generally involves very little forethought.
This is your hair, your head, your body. You know you look good either way so do what makes YOU happy. Tell your critics not to quit their day jobs.
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#14
by
amess_1999
on 21 Dec, 2008 14:26
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Thanks guys, waht a great support! And nice to hear i can go either way, because: The echo on being bald always suggested NO WAY. I know that some of u might be a bit biased
, but well ...
I am getting closer to being convinced that i should dump all that negative talk and go ahead back to where i had been several times: