recently broke up with the girlfriend....now there's a confidence loss!!!

[babb4214]

Hey guys,
well, i've been in a long distance relationship for the last year and change. It turns out that our relationship wasn't going to work out, with me not wanting to move to the area where she's at and her not wanting to come up to the area where i'm at...so there's a big problem...Aslo, we got in a couple HUGE fights recently, sorta mending them up, but the last one this friday put me over the edge... she gave me all this attitude because i was being a DD for my cousin! of course i was going to go into the club and hang out, but she has NO trust in me and gives me all this attitude for nothing! when she goes out with her friends and i say nothing... so not only does she do that... when i get mad at her i just turn my phone off because i dont want to sit there and fight... she calls my relatives phone OVER and OVER and OVER again until she get's ahold of me... and she doesn't see anything wrong with that, i find that very disrespectful and rude.
Anyways, that's been going on for a while, like the last 4 months or so. we called it off then ( not like it hasn't been called off before and we worked things out), but this time feels like real.  She just finds ways to make me mad by doing things like calling other people to get ahold of me when i clearly dont want to talk to her.
anyways, since that break up, i'm kind of experiencing a confidence loss. i mean, she would boost my ego because she really is a very attractive girl and found me attractive. so that was a huge boost. Now im not too confident about much. What advice do you guys or ladies have that can help me get over this slump and get back in the game?

[PBurke]

bro, pick your chin up. i have been there recently. trust is a huge deal in a relationship. i am no proffessional but it seems to me, she is hiding something. that would be her way of dealing. by trying to find your faults, real or imagined. if she acts crazy cause you were doing a good deed. then hell with that. why is it ok for her to go out but not you? bro, you can do better. i promise. just take your time and move on when you are ready. but she does not desrve you to sit around waiting on her. the long distance thing is VERY hard to do. both people have to be very committed and patient. i don't know your age, but you are too young for crazy chicks. (meaning noone should have to put up with it)  go hang with friends and do stuff you enjoy. that will keep your mind off of all this. it helps.  paulie.

[champ007]

What advice do you guys or ladies have that can help me get over this slump and get back in the game?

Just go pickup another hot chick and have fun!
And if you persive it as a game, thats exactly what it will be. I myself don't do drama or play games.
Long distant relationships NEVER work out, unless she is Mother Teresa, and who wants that?
There are alot of really cool chicks out there, you just have to keep turning the rocks over.

[babb4214]

Thanks for the input fellas! You hit it right on the money there PBurke, there was a TOTAL lack of trust on her part, she would even pretend to trust me, but i know she didn't. That was probably one of the top 3 reasons i would get pissed off at her because i do ABSOLUTELY nothing to lose trust. i'm a good guy and extremely faithful. so it's crap. it seemed like all she wanted me to do was sit at home which is bs, i'm not going to do that. Even though i dont know many people here at all, bascially all just family, i'm still not going to be a hermit and say home 24/7.

What advice do you guys or ladies have that can help me get over this slump and get back in the game?

Just go pickup another hot chick and have fun!
And if you persive it as a game, thats exactly what it will be. I myself don't do drama or play games.
Long distant relationships NEVER work out, unless she is Mother Teresa, and who wants that?
There are alot of really cool chicks out there, you just have to keep turning the rocks over.

just going out and picking up a hot chick really isn't THAT easy, at least for me. haha, i'm not exactly the most outgoing guy out there. Give me a few drinks then maybe, but as for that, i'm actaully pretty damn shy!

[PBurke]

pretty much my story to a tea bro. but i am learning to be more outgoing with out drinkin. being around my friends helps cause i am comfy with them.

[nomad]

A very wise man(well maybe) on this site said it best ....

the best way to over one chick is to get on another one

game on.......next

[champ007]

Alchohol is ok but you gotta be able to strike up a conversation anytime.
Hell even at a gas pump!! Just notice your surroundings and comment on more than her breast 
(The breast comment can come later in the convo  )
All it takes is some practice... try on any female you meet to be interesting carry a small convo. Even when your paying her for your gas... but make sure theres not a line behind you 

[jrob]

Without trust your relationship is doomed. It is hard, but there are plenty of other fish out there. You just need to find the right one for you. Just don't select anyone for companionship, but someone you can build a good relationship with. Good luck