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J Digory:
Argyle, my man. You look good. Your head shape is different than mine, cause yours isn't like a big watermelon. But I love my watermelon head, cause it's the only one I have. I can't imagine myself with a differently shaped head, cause I wouldn't be me. Granted, I have only seen so much of you, but you look NORMAL to me. I wouldn't think twice if I saw you before I went sly. If I saw you now (after going sly), I would honestly think, "This guy's smart. He wears the look well, too."

Finally, if you're already shaving your head, why does it matter how much hair you lose? Are you thinking about growing your hair out? Trust me, man: I'm NOT trying to be rude. I just don't understand why it matters how much hair you lose when you have already shaved it off. Unless you are uncertain about your look and you are thinking of going back. Which, if that is the case it's ultimately your decision, but I would wonder why you would want to do that. Imagining you with your hair grown out right now...and all I have to say is keep it clean, man. Keep it clean.

william:
I'm probably one of those depressive guys but I still wish to say something, hope you don't mind. And try to read it in a wider perspective because my English knowledge is not like yours.


I read somewhere that you had been a competive rower before and now after quitting that you have been more of a family man. I think you miss the daily training and the competive  side of you which must have been a big part of your daily life back then. I think that this might have had a negative side affect on your hair. You have been changing in a way you don't like or have thought of. With this your hair loss have become more visible/unacceptable for you. I think you want to have that control of yourself you had back then with training. I believe since sports seem to mean so much for your that you simply need to start training regulary, something that keeps you in shape.

I think you know you are good looking man because you are! But you are just not comfortable with the shape you are in. I say this because I was a very competive sportsman until I got my knee injury. I never realized or more that I didn't wanna believe it that my knee was this injured that I will have to operate it. Now that I know it will be better and operated, I feel so much better, this is something I have waited for.

What I'm saying is that you need to start training, something that keep you in shape. You know you are good looking. The problem is just that your hair loss have taken some control of you since you stopped training and when you stopped training you also lost your shape you was in. This is just my thoughts.

And when you think about what Magmababe said about that you got a wonderful daughter, wife, home , job and friends etc. What is it that you miss so much ? It can't be the your hair, right ? correct me if I'm wrong here!

Argyle:

--- Quote from: william on August 08, 2008, 07:04:06 PM ---I'm probably one of those depressive guys but I still wish to say something, hope you don't mind. And try to read it in a wider perspective because my English knowledge is not like yours.


I read somewhere that you had been a competive rower before and now after quitting that you have been more of a family man. I think you miss the daily training and the competive  side of you which must have been a big part of your daily life back then. I think that this might have had a negative side affect on your hair. You have been changing in a way you don't like or have thought of. With this your hair loss have become more visible/unacceptable for you. I think you want to have that control of yourself you had back then with training. I believe since sports seem to mean so much for your that you simply need to start training regulary, something that keeps you in shape.

I think you know you are good looking man because you are! But you are just not comfortable with the shape you are in. I say this because I was a very competive sportsman until I got my knee injury. I never realized or more that I didn't wanna believe it that my knee was this injured that I will have to operate it. Now that I know it will be better and operated, I feel so much better, this is something I have waited for.

What I'm saying is that you need to start training, something that keep you in shape. You know you are good looking. The problem is just that your hair loss have taken some control of you since you stopped training and when you stopped training you also lost your shape you was in. This is just my thoughts.

And when you think about what Magmababe said about that you got a wonderful daughter, wife, home , job and friends etc. What is it that you miss so much ? It can't be the your hair, right ? correct me if I'm wrong here!

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Firstly thanks to everyone i appreciate your words, and honestly speaking i feel fine this morning.  I just have moments, some more extended than others that get me down and it is that cycle that i have to break!! 

William you are right and very observant.  A few years ago i used to be an extremely competetive rower.  In fact I am watching the OLympics right now thinking how great it is to be linining up against 5 other boats.  I do miss that and also have lost shape since having my daughter.  I am no heavier but before it was considerable amounts of muscle whereas now it certainly isnt.  I am having a healthy eating drive though and have lost half a stone in the last 2.5 weeks just by reducing portion sizes, cutting out snacks etc.  I am also going to start running at lunch times from next week. 

Fundamentally and rationally I know that is just a bad photo.  I have photos that i am really happy with that equally show the level of MPB which is essentially what i am neurotic about.  That is the beauty of the human mind though, that the irrational forms rationally in your mind sometime. 

MB you are right I have everything really, a great girl who still insists she wants to marry me asap.  A cracking daughter who is noisy but delightful I live in a great place, in a great house with a great job.  I know i am extremely well off.  Also Magma, you have been a great mate - i think i will forgo my Yorkshire tendancies and the drink is on me eh? 

Right I am off to a wedding now (I am doing a reading) (finally found one Magma), and the guy getting married could really do with your advice.  He is heavily balding and has resisted the temptation to go anywhere near sly! 

Have a great weekend people - thanks for your support, sorry for the occasional negativity and i hope you dont mind too much ;) I will try and balance it with the occasional bout of british sarcasm!

MagmaBabe:

--- Quote from: Argyle on August 09, 2008, 03:20:02 AM ---
MB you are right I have everything really, a great girl who still insists she wants to marry me asap.  A cracking daughter who is noisy but delightful I live in a great place, in a great house with a great job.  I know i am extremely well off.  Also Magma, you have been a great mate - i think i will forgo my Yorkshire tendancies and the drink is on me eh? 


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K, I now have it in writing and I aint gonna let you forget it!  :D



--- Quote from: Argyle on August 09, 2008, 03:20:02 AM ---
Right I am off to a wedding now (I am doing a reading) (finally found one Magma), and the guy getting married could really do with your advice.  He is heavily balding and has resisted the temptation to go anywhere near sly! 


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Have fun at the wedding Argyle..you know what direction to point the groom... ;)
and let me know how the reading goes.



--- Quote from: Argyle on August 09, 2008, 03:20:02 AM ---
Have a great weekend people - thanks for your support, sorry for the occasional negativity and i hope you dont mind too much ;) I will try and balance it with the occasional bout of british sarcasm!

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British sarcasm... you? Never!
Have a great weekend yaself and don't forget that support is what this forum is all about.

Flatbadger:
Argyle,

Your good to go brother. Even the picture you think sucks is fine. I find that I get more attention and compliments from woman now that I have shaved my head. I know how it goes though. Right now, I fricken hate about 90% of the pictures I see of me........but screw it, MY HAIR IS NEVER MESSED UP :-)

Full shave is the way to go :popo

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