Meeting women in school?

[cory_rudy98]

Alright, so I am in college for about one more year.  There always seems to be many good looking girls in my classes (especially since I am an English education major).  My main problem comes with how to exactly approach these girls.  In the class itself, I am usually pretty witty and the professor loves me (and everyone laughs, so I assume that is good). 

I know the old advice is to just talk to them and if they blow you off, so what.  Well, if they blew me off in class, I would have the entire class to be awkward in with them.  My classes are no longer the giant lecture halls; most of my classes are about 25-30 students.  So, my question is: what do you say/how do you ask the girls out without any post-embarrassment if she would blow me off?   

[skiking]

I am sorry that i am unable to help, none of my classes have ever had many females.  you don't see too many in the civil engineering/ land surveying classes that i took/am taking.  When i was getting my degree in land surveying, we had 1 girl in the classes, and in my engineering classes there are only 2 or 3.  It is a sausage fest.

[Jdogs Better Half]

You seem to focus on the negative, why are you thinking they would blow you off??

Why not change your thinking be confident and right now as you sit there imagine you chatting to one of the girls and her being really interested right back.

Your life is shaped by your thoughts......so you need to change your thinking to the positive!

I bet you if you talk to one tomorrow it will be successful!

[Tyler]

Talk to them outside of class.  Think of anything to talk to them, but make sure you can hold a conversation once you break the ice.  Don't worry about being witty, just be you.  Take this opportunity to let her tell you about her.  Have a few questions ready; How are you doing in class?, What other classes are you taking?, etc.

Here's one story I have about meeting a girl that was in my class that I really wanted to meet.

I was hanging with some friends and this girl (mentioned above) walked by and went into the cafeteria.  I knew she would as she walked by everyday and tortured my friends and I with her amazing looks.  After she was in the cafe' for a bit, I told my friends I'd be back and went in to see if she sat down.  I found her at a table all by her self.  It was a large round table that held about 8 to 10 people.  I then bought something to eat and headed over to her table and asked her if I could sit at the table.  She said yes, so I chose the seat right next to her.  I introduced myself and told her that I had seen her in our film class and wanted to introduce myself.  I noticed she had a book open, so I asked her if she was studying?  She said yes.  I then asked what subject (though I could clearly see it was math).  She said math.  Being a math tudor, I offered to help her, to which she said thank you, but she was doing ok.  I then told her that I didn't want to bother her while she was studying, but that it was a pleasure to meet her and I looked forward to seeing her in class next time.  She said likewise and I left.

I didn't realize it until later, but there were a couple key things that worked in my favor there; one being that I didn't try to hang out with her the whole time.  I make my intro, showed her I was a nice and interesting person, and then set the opportunity to talk to her again. 

Next class I happened to end up walking right by here on the way to class.  I said hello, asked her how her day was going and other small talk, and then ended up sitting next to her in class, where she started writing notes to me on her notebook about how bored she was (this was a large lecture class and the lights were always off because we were watching films). 

Well, long story made shorter, I ended up dating her for a couple of months.  She later confessed to me that she had never had a guy approach her before.  The few guys she had dated were guys she had worked with and she basically had to put the moves on them.  This girl was the most beautiful girl I had ever dated prior to meeting my wife.  So, it just goes to show you that it's often that the most beautiful women have a hard time dating just as some guys.  This is why you often see some meathead (like myself) with a hot girl.  They really just happened to be the guy that was willing to talk to the beautiful girl.

[PBurke]

cool story tyler. it just goes to show that being a nice guy can actually pay off. a question for the lay-days:   would it be better for a guy to be a confident "nice guy", or a self absorbed arrogant guy? i already know what the answer will probably be but i want to hear your opinions.

[Jdogs Better Half]

cool story tyler. it just goes to show that being a nice guy can actually pay off. a question for the lay-days:   would it be better for a guy to be a confident "nice guy", or a self absorbed arrogant guy? i already know what the answer will probably be but i want to hear your opinions.

What the heck kinda woman likes self absorbed arrogant guy. I cant stand the "cocky - thinks they are shi* hot" types.

No question  - Nice Guy wins hands down, if they are honest, down to earth and can be themselves - whats not to like.

Nice guys can still have an edge to them!

I think there are woman out there who like guys who treat them like crap but they are MENTAL!!!!!!!!!!!

[PBurke]

thank you mamm. to go a little further with it. Not in perfect shape but great personality, or in super shape with the personality of a rock?

[Jdogs Better Half]

haha both would be nice! But really personality wins hands down  - if they can make you laugh then your half way there. Hold an interesting conversation then woohooo.

What's in perfect shape anyhow?? That all comes down to perception - what you may think is out of shape and maybe not so good, to me may seem in-shape and normal???

People who are super attractive at first glance can becomes very very unattractive once they open their mouths and start talking, and some times the ones who you were not attracted to at first become more and more attractive as you get to know them because they have charm and personality.

[Mikekoz13]

One thing I remember from my dating days...... always seeing a lot of very attractive women/girls alone. I found out why over the years.... because most guys are either too intimidated by an attractive woman's looks to approach her OR they think she is probably already spoken for because she is attractive. Well that leaves all those nice ladies to the guys who know how to put two sentences together and treat a woman the right way. I never had a problem getting dates with attractive women...... the key is to ask!!!

Quick story from my dating days:

I was hanging out with some of my friends in one of my favorite pubs. In walks this gorgeous woman alone. Every guy in the bar stopped and looked at her as she walked thru. I was laughing it was so comical. So she got herself a drink and went and sat down at a table by herself. The guys kept going on about t how great looking this woman was. After about half an hour I said I was going to go talk to her. They all laughed saying she was way out of my league.
So I went over and politely asked if she was alone. She responded yes and i asked if she would mind if i sat with her. Her pleasantly surprised response was, "No, i'd like that". So I sat where I could see my boys just over her shoulder..... all their mouths hanging open.
I introduced myself and we talked for a while (always ask her about HER.... don't sit there and tell her how great you are). After a little while I asked her why she was alone. Her response..... "many guys just don't approach me".
I wound up dating her for about 4 months or so. Stephanie was a cool, great gal who i just couldn't give what she wanted from me at that time in my life ( I was still working out my own issues at that time).

Just a little extra bit of the story here (the ladies may want to skip this portion of the show)......

         I lost track of Stephanie after we stopped dating..... but a couple of years later when i was getting married my friends had a bachelor party for me. They said they had something special for me. this worried me because these guys were capable of anything. I tried for weeks to find out what the "special" thing was but the boys kept it quiet.
        So on the night of the party we're out at a bar I used to hang in just warming up for the evening. In walks one of the most beautiful women i have ever seen. The guys were all gawking. She walks straight up to me and says "Hi Mike". I said "Do i know you from somewhere?" And she says, "Stephanie sent me for you". She was a friend of Stephanie's and a top notch stripper. Actually laid me down on the floor in the middle of the bar, put a dime on my nose, and removed it (using no hands, toes or breasts) without ever touching me. Stephanie wanted me to go out in style. (Man she was cool.)

           **** Hey Tyler..... you'll like this..... this girl was Hawaiian.... absolutely an 11 on a scale of  1 to 10***



                 All this from an average looking guy.............

[Mikekoz13]

Note to JDog... After reading Mrs. JDog's rsponses in this thread, I would say that you have a good solid "10" on your hands. Kudos to Mrs. JDog!!!!