What kind of job could I do?

[Marz]

Well, there are only so many assumptions you can make. Just because you dont have connections does not mean that line of work is out, it just means you will have to start somewhere lower than the executive offices. Take a day and go to your local sports venue and ask around or send emails, make phone calls ask the ticket booth people whatever it takes to find out how to get involved in that industry. It may mean working at a minimal job for awhile until you prove yourself and make those connections.

Maybe try to get involved with a local college sports program and find what it is in that industry that you like and move up to the big leagues...

You got to start somewhere and showing a little assertiveness and persistence can show alot to a potential employer.

Just make a commitment that every day you will spend a certain amount of time trying to get to where you want to be.

Just leave the excuses behind.

[D.A.L.U.I.]

Get a grip, you need to start w/ a organization that provides sports opportunities to kids and others who REALLLY have problems.  Take the NYC civil service exam and get into the recreation department, great money, NO, great rewards--fantastic because you will get far more than you give and you can give to the kids what you never got, positive reinforcement, etc.  Until YOU give, you'll NEVER get. 

Solution:
Shave that dying mop, put on a clean shirt, and go register for the exam.  Cover every mirror, except when you shave, and think about and work to solve other people's problems--they have real ones and you can help them.  While waiting for the exam results VOLUNTEER.  It's give, give, give, and believe me life will follow.  Giving is the fertilizer to help you get out of yourself and into life.  You are in control--if you really want to get on, quit kvetching, go get a life.

[yak]

persistance...get a snazy resume and go visit the sports teams regularly to introduce yourself. You may have to start off at the bottom and work your way up but getting a foot in the door is important.  Take anything they have then set your goals and work toward getting int he position that you really want to be in with them.

[Hp291]

I've been trying all that recently with the teams. Applying to almost any job (short of selling peanuts lol). I'm not against starting out entry level and moving up. It's all about getting in the door.

I've been sending my resume out the past 2 weeks and stuff. This is something I wasn't doing before. I mean it's all "easy" until I get an interview request. Then I'll see if I can go through with it. I'm almost trying to set myself up where an interview is set and I have no choice but to go. Might be my only choice.

I'll look into that civil exam thing and see if it's something I like and qualify for.

Thanks to the people giving suggestions. I know some might think "this guy is a loser and feels sorry for himself" and you are entitled, I'm just trying to move past it. But if I push too hard on myself, I do know I'll crash. Having self esteem is not something you can just create.

[Sgt. Pate]

I just have to ask... what is this "dwelling on being bald" stuff? 

Bro, ya gotta know it's not a bad thing!  That's why so many of us who have hair work so hard to keep it shaved off! 

As far as the job thing... I agree that liking what you do is important, very important.
I'd say, define your areas of interest, identify those jobs and go for it!  If it means school and a little debt so what?  You're going to be in debt one way or another so why not in debt to ensure a better future? 

Good luck on your search. 

[tomgallagher]

i agree with the sarge.

[buddha]

You mentioned having been in therapy as a result of an abusive childhood. I can relate. But the problem with a lot of therapists is that they are not comfortable with a client who is displaying anger about what happened. They would rather take you down the path of sadness and tears because it is easier for them to hand you a tissue than it would be to hold up a chair cushion or a punching bag and let you do a little "anger work". A lot of therapists, I suspect, were the victims of angry people as kids so when somebody starts punching a pillow in front of them they start to figure they might be next. They start looking for the Kleenex and they divert their client down a less dangerous road that usually involves crying.
It sounds like you have some anger work to do, bro! IMO that kind of $h!t has to be dealt with before you can make a whole lot of progress in other areas of your life. But you gotta get going on changing the way you see yourself in the world. You're no more and no less than any other mo-fo walking this planet. But somewhere along the line somebody convinced you that you're a doormat and you have chosen to believe it. Losing the hair is just a way for you to explain to the world how worthless you are and an excuse for you to isolate from everybody else.
My recommendation to you is to look up a thing called New Warrior Training. Look into that training as an adjunct to therapy. You get this "house-mouse" picture of yourself off your back and your life is gonna start to change.

[Timmay]

We are only trying to give you some good advice bro.  You dont have to live yoru life this way.  Wake up and realize this is your life...not your life of the past.  Every day is a new day....it all depends on what kind of outlook you have for that day. 

[nomad]

Yes I occasionally see bald guys around. What doesn't help me is being a white guy with fair skin. I'm also very tall so I stand out already.

Brother I have a pretty good idea of what you've been through, I went through my own similar demons. Dude pick yourself up, kick your self in the butt and go for it. I know it sucks and its not easy but anything worth having isn't easy. Don't worry about what others think worry about you.

As far as standing out, Brother, I'm 6'5" and 300lbs they don't stand out much more than that, I don't hide well, be proud of it, and big "F"ing deal.

[Hp291]

Yeah trust me, I hear what you guys are saying. I'm a very logical person. At the same time, I just have ZERO confidence because I just don't feel comfortable with how I look. I would give anything to feel it.

[Pshrynk]

Y NOT go back to school and get that biz degree in marketing?

You look pretty young in your pic???

Have you considered maybe seeing someone?  Counselor, pastor, psychologist, etc etc, etc,  to maybe help get you some direction and feel a little better about yourself? 

[Hp291]

You must have me confused with someone else. I did not post a pic.

And already talked about going to therapy experience before.

[Pshrynk]

sorry mixed your pic up.

Why isn't counseling or career counseling an option?

[skiking]

Here are some job option that you may or may not enjoy


http://www.jobprofiles.org/library/guidance/weird-jobs.htm

[Pshrynk]

Having self esteem is not something you can just create.

Actually self esteem IS something you can just create 

Usually with hard work, effort and a positive attitude.