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My little rant on why I'm still single...

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Jer:
So I was talking dating and relationships with a girl I met recently.  She asked Why I'm still single because she said I'm 'such a nice guy.'  I've figured it out, and what it all comes down to the saying ‘nice guys finish last.’

The reason for nice guys finishing last is due to the a**holes out there that ruin things for the rest by using, abusing and hurting women.  For some reason many women tend to prefer the ‘bad boy’ stereotype, which I believe to be due to a natural attraction to the excess of testosterone they produce in doing whatever they can to become the ‘Alpha male.’  However the sad fact is, those deluded sh*t rats haven’t seen reality, matured, or learnt respect.  They get the cocky stuck up mentality that they are God’s gift to women and that they are the be all and end all that every woman is looking for.  Then they use abuse and drop the women that are drawn to them, which are oftentimes very kind and sweet, for the next that comes along.  Us good guys out here are left until last.  We are only noticed once women have been used to the point where they can no longer open up and trust as they view all men to be the arrogant, deluded, self-centered, stubborn, pig-headed pr*cks.

Now really, tell me that there is absolutely no truth to what I am saying, or is it just the area I live in?  So yes, I'm quite jaded, and know it, as I am one of those ‘nice guys’ who is in fact finishing last.

Sure I've been meeting ten times as many women now since going Sly, but it's still always coming down to this.

Opinions anyone?

jusbnme:
Welcome Fortin.  Glad to have you here.  I do think what you said pretty much hit the nail right on the head.  IMO anyway.  I'm in totally agreement with you.  At least that's been the case I hear from most of my wife's friends.  They are always talking about some scumbag they dated.  The stories they tell sound exactly like what you just mentioned about the "bad boys." 

bludger44:
so true....sometimes i wonder if i need to start being one of the bad ones

Mikekoz13:
Hey Fortin-

I believe there is some truth to what you say. many times the bad boy/arrogant types are very coinfident types and will approach women easily. The "nice" guys tend to be more reserved and not as aggressive.

My advice: Strike while the iron is hot. If you meet a cool woman and in ten minutes you're thinking "man I'd like to take her out".... Then ask her then and there, DON"T WAIT!! If she says "No", so what??

Women love to be "pursued" and just asking them out shows confidence.

I've said this on here before and I will repeat it for this thread:

I'm an average looking guy, good sense of humor, and an out going personality. When i was single i always had great looking dates/girlfriends (this includes my wife O0).
My friends used to ask "How do you get such great looking girls to go out with you?".

My simple response..... "I ask them".............

Mikekoz13:
One more thing...... If you go out and you are desperate to meet someone the women will know. They're like cats ..... they can smell the desperation on you and it's a turn off for them. Confident men are not desperate men..... that's part of the reason women like confident men.

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