My little rant on why I'm still single...

[Jer]

So I was talking dating and relationships with a girl I met recently.  She asked Why I'm still single because she said I'm 'such a nice guy.'  I've figured it out, and what it all comes down to the saying ‘nice guys finish last.’

The reason for nice guys finishing last is due to the a**holes out there that ruin things for the rest by using, abusing and hurting women.  For some reason many women tend to prefer the ‘bad boy’ stereotype, which I believe to be due to a natural attraction to the excess of testosterone they produce in doing whatever they can to become the ‘Alpha male.’  However the sad fact is, those deluded sh*t rats haven’t seen reality, matured, or learnt respect.  They get the cocky stuck up mentality that they are God’s gift to women and that they are the be all and end all that every woman is looking for.  Then they use abuse and drop the women that are drawn to them, which are oftentimes very kind and sweet, for the next that comes along.  Us good guys out here are left until last.  We are only noticed once women have been used to the point where they can no longer open up and trust as they view all men to be the arrogant, deluded, self-centered, stubborn, pig-headed pr*cks.

Now really, tell me that there is absolutely no truth to what I am saying, or is it just the area I live in?  So yes, I'm quite jaded, and know it, as I am one of those ‘nice guys’ who is in fact finishing last.

Sure I've been meeting ten times as many women now since going Sly, but it's still always coming down to this.

Opinions anyone?

[jusbnme]

Welcome Fortin.  Glad to have you here.  I do think what you said pretty much hit the nail right on the head.  IMO anyway.  I'm in totally agreement with you.  At least that's been the case I hear from most of my wife's friends.  They are always talking about some scumbag they dated.  The stories they tell sound exactly like what you just mentioned about the "bad boys." 

[bludger44]

so true....sometimes i wonder if i need to start being one of the bad ones

[Mikekoz13]

Hey Fortin-

I believe there is some truth to what you say. many times the bad boy/arrogant types are very coinfident types and will approach women easily. The "nice" guys tend to be more reserved and not as aggressive.

My advice: Strike while the iron is hot. If you meet a cool woman and in ten minutes you're thinking "man I'd like to take her out".... Then ask her then and there, DON"T WAIT!! If she says "No", so what??

Women love to be "pursued" and just asking them out shows confidence.

I've said this on here before and I will repeat it for this thread:

I'm an average looking guy, good sense of humor, and an out going personality. When i was single i always had great looking dates/girlfriends (this includes my wife ).
My friends used to ask "How do you get such great looking girls to go out with you?".

My simple response..... "I ask them".............

[Mikekoz13]

One more thing...... If you go out and you are desperate to meet someone the women will know. They're like cats ..... they can smell the desperation on you and it's a turn off for them. Confident men are not desperate men..... that's part of the reason women like confident men.

[Jer]

lol, don't get me wrong by my little rant, I'm far from desperate, and I have more than enough confidence especially since going Sly in January.  It's just I've seen it all too much lately, after meeting a girl the story comes out, and a good friend of mine was telling me the same thing recently too.

I'm just also getting sick of seeing so many really good women out there being hurt as they are.

[warhawk]

I'm just also getting sick of seeing so many really good women out there being hurt as they are.

fortin:  gr8 words from koz... i definitely agree with ya on that.  however... don't change... i know that U will keep being the "good" guy that U R... in the meantime... HAVE FUN!!!   Us married sly guys like me, timmy, rick, tyler, robmeister, marz, lance, andre, koz, pigpen, & schro live thru U single guys like baldrob, nomad, & champ.  SO.... keep posting those single stories and btw... i loved your post on "this is way better than a headrub" or something like that.

although... it seems that nice guys finish last but i honestly feel that nice guys finish BEST!!!   

WARHAWK

[Marz]

Hey i think you are skipping the women over on this one completely.

I agree that some men totally use women and broke their hearts etc.

But women have a choice, they dont have to jump head first into relationships with the delusion that they will "change" a guy. Guys that are good looking and have a wicked track record still have the women trying to tame them or they have the delusion that "I will be different". It BS on the girls side too... I know a few guys that are amazingly blunt with women and they just take every bit of it.

Relationships are a two way street and granted many men have tainted great women, many women refuse to even look at nice guys and continue to follow around a**holes regardless of how many times they get kicked in the face.

I actually know more men that have been screwed over by women than vise versa (but I am assuming that is uncommon).

[champ007]

Well hello Fortin..glad I read this post.
I have been called a nice guy by alot of women, but that doesn't mean I didn't take a few  of them home with me.
Lets break down your convo here...
She asked Why I'm still single because she said I'm 'such a nice guy. (response) Because variety is the spice of life, which do you prefer, mild or hot?
Once you get that answer you throw out your "figured it out" as a statement:
You know why they say "nice guys finish last", its because we have more stamina, just wait till I get you home tonight!
The key it to be quick! I have been single for 11 years and plan to stay that way until I need someone to wipe the drool off my chin.
Believe in yourself.... and if you use the stamina line you better perform and rock her world because they all know each other!!
Welcome to SBG!

[Nick912]

hey bro! great sly look on you! I believe that women naturally gravitate to the "bad boys". I used to be a guy that would let women walk all over me. 2 wives later I have wised up and not be such a good guy. I dont take crap from women now, and I dont play into thier BS. I think it is working for me! The trick is never act like you care!

[nomad]

dude don't lose who you are just to try to prove something to some cricket its not worth it

be the nice guy just grow a backbone to go with it, theres a time and place t be nice and a time and place to be not so nice

[JDog]

I'm just also getting sick of seeing so many really good women out there being hurt as they are.

fortin:  gr8 words from koz... i definitely agree with ya on that.  however... don't change... i know that U will keep being the "good" guy that U R... in the meantime... HAVE FUN!!!   Us married sly guys like me, timmy, rick, tyler, robmeister, marz, lance, andre, koz, pigpen, & schro & JDog live thru U single guys like baldrob, nomad, & champ.  SO.... keep posting those single stories and btw... i loved your post on "this is way better than a headrub" or something like that.

although... it seems that nice guys finish last but i honestly feel that nice guys finish BEST!!!   

WARHAWK

I'm a proud member of the Married Club too Mel 

But in my interaction with people be it at nightclubs,bars,parties and other social functions both with friends and strangers, I have definetley noticed a propensity for some women to be drawn to the ,for lack of better words, D**kheads. I've yet to figure this out