Hi Everyone!!!

[Marz]

Welcome Anton.

It is always difficult to take the plunge into something that will drastically change the way you look and cause people to notice and comment... especially when it is calling attention to what you are most self conscious about, your head.

I guess you would rather go un-noticed and blend in than be noticed for being bald, right?

Yeah, well that is pretty much the same struggle many here have had. I am not going to say its no big deal but from where I am standing, it isnt. From where you are standing it is. I have seen both sides, your side and the sly side and my presence at this site is enough to tell you where I stand on the issue.

Trust me and my sly brothers when we say your head looks fine and shaving off your hair will rid you of this complex you are carrying around with you.

You just got to put on some music, get pumped up emotionally and let her rip.

After all at least then you will know if it is for you and if it isnt you can grow it back to where it is now in about a month (but you need to allow at least 30 days to get the feel of it).

If you dont do it, plan on the obsession with your looks and loss of hair to dominate your life more and more...

I hate to see another man cheating himself out of the life he should be leading because he is stuck obsessing over a problem that can be gone in a few strokes of a razor.

Free yourself, you will be glad you at least TRIED it...

[anton86]

I guess you would rather go un-noticed and blend in than be noticed for being bald, right?

ye thats right. more than the actual shaving process itself,  im more worried about peoples opinions of it.

I would love to just not care and do it cause i want to. but then i just keep getting these mental pictures of everyones reactions to it and it kinda puts me off.

[Paul]

Welcome Anton.  Great to have you with us.   From the pic you posted and with your hair short already, I don't see any problem with the shape of your head.   As far as being concerned about the comments or opinions of others, if you check out the various posts here from other sly guys, you will see that we have all had concerns and worries before shaving, but once done it was received as pretty much a non-event by others.  Besides, if you already hate the way it looks now, what have you got to lose?  Take it down, it will only take a short time to grow back if you don't like it, but I don't see that happening. 

[D.A.L.U.I.]

Well you've admitted you're thinking about it, that's a step in the right direction.  Now answer this question honestly, when was the last time someone said that they really liked, or even just liked your hair?  My very confident guess is NEVER.  Now the next steps are easy, get the clipper, buzz to 1/8" for a week.  You're going to get comments, and lots of them aren't going to be, What did you do that for?, they're going to say "Cool" or nothing at all.  Having experienced that, cllip to 0, lather shave.  In the following 30 days, you're going to get so many compliments, "Makes your face look stronger"  even people saying, "I didn't realize you were that tall!" Believe the guys, that's what happens, it's amazing.  Quit beating youself up, buzz, then shave.  The worst is that you can always grow what's left now back, and ultimately nature will finish the job you should do yourself.

[Marz]

Well had others in this world allowed others opinions to dictate their actions, we would never have had Elvis, the automobile or flight.

Life is an adventure man, get out there and be a part of it.

[SLYinKC]

Anton, Almost every guy on this forum has been where you are right now.  I know for myself, personally, I stewed over what to do for serveral years and that knawing feeling that I had to do something would not go away.  I can tell you, (as well as every other guy here) that I had the same fears that you're having.  I can also tell you that it really is an over-exagerated fear that is much bigger in your mind than in reality.  I remember being shocked that nobody seemed to really notice or even say anything at all.  I got all most comments when I started buzzing down to a #1 than when I finally shaved.

You'll hear it said over and over again by everyone else here, I wish I had done it sooner and saved myself all the pressure and agony of those years I was on the fence and wanted to do it, but didn't have the b*lls to do it.  I'm just glad those days are over and I can get on with my life. 

You can do the same.  It just takes a small step of faith.  JUST DO IT!!!!

[anton86]

when was the last time someone said that they really liked, or even just liked your hair?  My very confident guess is NEVER. 

ur right, i've never had a compliment about my hair.

i think im just going to have to go for it then ain't i. and like most of  u said it will just grow back to the receding state its at now if i really hate it anyway so i might aswell give it ago. plus i'd really like to be able to go out when its windy or rainin without worrying about my hair.

[D.A.L.U.I.]

Slyly said, Slyly said.  Get your weapon of choice, lather up and LIVE.

[SlySurfer]

Anthony,
You're no fool, cause the reason your here is that you wanna be cool!
This is positive change and that's a good thing.
You're over-thinking and over-stressing about this. 

Now, you listen to the other Anthony here, that's me!
The guys are giving you the best advice and it's free.
You'll R-O-C-K the sly bald head.

Cheers,
Anthony

[Stu]

Anton,

Welcome.  You've received some good advice; I can't add much.  From your picture, I don't see where you are having issues.  You look like you have a full head of hair to me.  Is there something I'm not seeing?  I'll trade your hair and head shape in a heart beat.  I think you are too hard on yourself.  I have to agree with the gents here.  Your head is perfect for shaving if you decide to do it.  Some guys, including me, gradually buzzed shorter and shorter to see how it would look.  That's a safe way to try it before finally taking a blade to it.  Good luck, and keep asking questions if you have them.

Stu

[440satellite]

Anton, these guys are 100% right.  Do it for yourself and not for anyone else.  These guys walked me through it too less than a month ago.  Your hair loss and mine was similar in pattern.  I had been running a #1 buzz for ages and had a different obsession of running my finger and thumb up my head to see how far back it was (seems very pathetic now).  Since I've shaved mine it's liberating, scarey at first but awesome after that.  Being over 6 foot and sly turns heads when you walk in the room, slyness (confidence and look) makes the ladies eyes linger longer than before.

If your too nervous about work, buzz it down tight first. Plus start looking for shaved dudes in your work setting.  Noticed alot of them where I'm at.  Really it's not a big deal at all, the fence between where your at and us just seems like a mountain right now. 3 days later you'll laugh about being so scared.  Trust me 

[wpruitt]

Give it a try Anton ... It's only hair.  Nothing ventured, nothing gained

[Timmay]

OK everyone....if we dont get Anton to shave his head in the next few days...im gonna grow my hair back out.
And you dont want me to do that Anton....trust me.  Things could get ugly.
Timmay...

[warhawk]

anton....1st of all welcome 2 the sly fraternity.  glad that ya found us.  pull up a chair & let us shave your noggin' smooooth with a quality razor like the fusion, mach 3 , or headblade.  i'm not going 2 add anything because the sly brahs have hit the nail on the head.  your dome is perfect for a good headshave.  i promise u that u will not regret it.  as a matter of fact...u will thank us 4 encouraging u 2 "do the deed".  just embrace your baldness and the world will embrace U!!!

WARHAWK

[Phil Man]

Anton, listen to these guys. I lurked here for a loooong time before I finally made the decision. Just compare their attitudes and outlook on life to those people in other boards that are constantly thinking about their hair loss.

I understand that the initial step is the hardest since it IS a pretty big deal for you at this point and you are concerned about what others think and whatnot. But put your dome in the hands of these guys, they know what they are talking about and let them guide you to the promised land of freedom