Hey fcb,
It definitely seems like your on the right track, have a realistic time line is key when anyone is looking to lose weight. You can effectively throw out anything the tv says. It's going to be a gradual thing that happens over time.
So what I suggest is not worrying exactly how much you weigh, but more so think about your overall fitness and health. The rest will come later for sure. I was up around 225 just after high school, and I've shed just about 25 pounds since then. I like you have started to think about how I can bulk up a bit on weight training. I know I have to cut more before I see the effects I want but I'm going under the idea that it doesn't hurt to start building muscle while I'm still trimming a bit of weight off. Right now my weight regime is kept pretty simple (I'm still concentrating mostly on my cardio); I may hit the gym once a week, but for the most part I'll do a small workout at home (crunches, push-ups, lunges, dumbbell exercises).
Here's where I get most of my weight training advice;
http://fitness.scoobysworkshop.com/index.htmThe guy running the site gives pretty sound advice, that being said it's always important to tailor any regime to the way you feel comfortable with it. If there's one thing that I'm certain of, is that if you don't enjoy your workout regime you won't stick to it.
When it comes to eating, I don't always have my best selection since I eat at a dormitory meal hall. But they always have a fresh supply of yogurt, peanut butter, cut vegetables, rice, cereals, etc...
Here's a few things I always keep in mind when approaching any meal:
1. Brown's are always good (the site Tyler gave was good for nutrition I found)
2. Water is the best drink, by far. To spice it up a bit you may consider pouring half/quarter a glass of cranberry/grape/orange juice into it. It's not as good as the real thing, but sometimes it's so hard to get water down. Plus, although juice's are always packed with sugar you can at least count on getting some vitamin c.
3. Meat should always be the smallest portion on the plate, my mom has always gone by the deck of cards rule. Though I think it's certainly ok to add some extra protein after a particularly hard cardio/weight workout, this can be done in meat alternatives though to avoid the extra calories and maybe even gain some fiber (beans, cottage cheese, etc)
4. Brown rice is always a good substitute for potatoes as your main source of carbs, sometimes it's hard as heck to get down but it fills the void ultra-effectively.
5. Dessert should include fresh fruit, or yogurt with a half cup of dry bran cereal. (Any chance to sneak in a bit of fiber is always good, staying regular is pretty important, as William Shatner has let the world know.)
6. Variation is going to keep things interesting, try baked salmon one day, chicken fajitas the next (with brown tortillas of course), spaghetti (whole wheat) and baked chicken with a tomato sauce the next, etc...
7. And to finish just a note of some of my, "Super-Foods": Fish, salsa, skim milk! always great, and great for you.
Ok that's it! I think? Best of luck and stay strong! I'm off to class!