Exactly what Andre said, thats why loosing weight first will change your perception of how much "bulk" you will need. a trim midsection will automatically make your arms and shoulders look bigger. Instead of looking like a barrel with two ropes attached, you will look like broom with two ropes attached. Then start sculpting the areas you want to improve with bulk.
Having been a gym addict for many years, I'd add that you also have to consider what your genetic "body type" is, some of us are lean runners bodies, some football defensive linemen, some the swimmer body, etc. You can only get what the genes give you unless you indulge in chemistry. But all body types, can generally lose some fat, even the skinny guys. Diet & sweat work well together, but it is a joint effort, and to lose a gut is a 6 month, not a 6 week process--both diet (and that's the tough part in my book, but I live in New Orleans where we live to eat) and exercise which can be addictive if done right. If you have the genes you'll also get big considering the exercises you do. Also remember muscle weighs a lot more than fat, so you'll lose size in inches around the gut but stay the same or even gain a little weight. That's what my years in the gym have taught me.Thanks; this helps a lot. What you say about working out being adictive; i have to get there. I've never gotten to the point where going to the gym was anything more than a chore. Any tips on making it more "adictive" ?
There are many to choose from. Google bodybuilding forums and see which one looks good. Alot of sites are geared towards chemical enhancment but there is still great info for those not going that route as well. Some of those guys on there know more about the workings of the human body than doctors.