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tryingtostaypositive:
I've just joined this forum because I think it's probably time I got some support regarding this issue.

I started losing my hair as early as 26, however the hair loss was mainly on the crown and hardly visible at the front. For the next 8 years or so, it started falling out fast.  Now at almost 34, I am bald. 
Clearly looking back I've had a severe case of MPB as my mothers' brothers are all bald.  So I knew it wasn't going to work out well!  Losing what's left of your hair is a difficult period as I'm sure it has been for most of you although I went through various phases of feeling very down about it to not feeling so bad.  Now, I am totally bald and I still go through those same phases of feeling ok with it to spending the day wishing I could have hair.

Anyway, my main concern with all this is probably the most common for a single guy - how it impacts on dating and attracting women.  I've had a fair few relationships in my life but still no luck in finding that one person.  I think I used to be a great looking guy when I had hair and with my buzzcut 5 years ago.  Now, as a totally bald guy, people still mention I'm a decent looking guy and some say I even look better without hair than with hair. What does help is that I'm 6"2, dark skinned (dark brown) and have the exact right head shape for the bald look. However I would give anything to have at least some hair again so that I could have my buzz cut again.   

As I'm still searching and looking for love, I'm getting the impression that baldness is an issue for women.  I've heard the usual "it's confidence that they find attractive etc." "women are more interested in other qualities"  This of course may well be true to varying degrees but what kind of women do you see the bald guys with?  Whenever I see a couple where the guy is bald, his gf/wife is not exactly anything special physically speaking.  How many bald guys do you honestly see with hot chicks?  On dating websites too, I don't have the same luck as I had before when I had that buzz cut and some hair.

I'm not the confident man I used to be and I believe the lack of hair/being single has played a significant part in this.

Magoo:
You have the idea that only" something special type of women "is what matters in life. Son you have so much to learn. You have lost all confidence about yourself, because you think all women think like you do. 
Real people that matter and can survive more than six months together don't have that philosophy on life.
You claim you never see bald men with good looking women , you must be kidding,get yourself some glasses.

invaray:
Confidence does not come from hair. Work on what is inside you head not what is on top of it.

AJ Q-Ball:
Man we're  around the same age. I'm 31 to be exact. Let me just tell you that when I starting shaving my head bald,  I gained attention from the ladies like never before. It was not because I was just bald. It was because  I had confidence radiating out from me. Shaving my head was one of the best decisions I've ever made as far as looks go. I couldn't get over how good I looked as opposed to having thinning hair.

 If a girl does not want anything to do with you because of the lack of hair on your head, then they don't deserve you in the first place. To answer your questions below, I see a good bit of bald guys who are with some pretty good looking women. I saw a couple today at church around our age where the guy was bald. The girl happened to be very pretty and attractive.

 Let me just give you some advice for the next time you go out anywhere. Dress nicely and in a way that  displays a little  bit of your personality. Also anytime you approach anyone, smile and be positive. You have to have the mindset that good things are going to happen. If not, you will continue to be stuck in a rut. Best of luck to you man! Don't get easily discouraged. Persevere and love will find its way.

Tyler:
I agree with what AJ and the other two posters said. If you're not having success with women, then it's likely how you interact with them, not your hair style. I have a shaved head and now only have one leg. Because of the way I carry myself, usually positive with a smile, I get a log of attention from women.

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