Bad reactions

[oakdan5]

Been getting some bad reactions to the shaved head. Mostly from girls, saying how I look much better with hair, others being shocked and confused. I tried updating my dating profile with me of a band pic and get very little views and responses. I actually don't look terrible bald, but with being 5 ft 7 already I have two major disadvantages. Not feeling it for now, contemplating growing it back. Hairline is receded, but can grow out decently. Honestly hate this feeling. Like it's taking me out of the game so to speak. I have tried to pysche myself into feeling good about it, but it wanna thin with how people respond to it.

[Big Jon]

Can you post a picture of what it looks like? I think the important thing is that you like it. Confidence is the key.

[jbrit25]

Bald is going to happen for you eventually. If you like being bald now you should look for a girl who doesn't mind it. It would be worse to end up marrying a girl who doesn't like bald men and then having her be not attracted to you after 5-10 years of marriage.

[TheSlyBear]

There is nothing wrong with being 5' 7" either, unless you make it a problem.

Keeping a positive attitude is key, but you seem to already know that. So keep that up/ How you feel about yourself is the most important first step.

[Nickd]

There are going to be a day or two in the beginning when you're not going to be ridding a wave of confidence because someone thought you wanted their negative opinion. It only matters what you think and feel of yourself as a bald guy. If you truly like it, then others around you will see that and support you. There are plenty of woman who like a bald guy and I'm sure you'll find them soon enough. I'm 5'6" so don't freak about being on the short side. It's truly no big deal. Another thing is after a while of you being bald, people in your life will have to make a choice to either except you as a bald person and be happy for what you want and like or move on. Honestly if after people have time to adjust to your new look and they are still being negative, maybe you should move on from them. I couldn't imagine waisting my time with people who can not accept me for me.

[oakdan5]

Make some good points. It certainly goes back and forth. I've been keeping it at about a 1 guard for a month or so. The one girl who made the biggest deal is more than a decade younger than me, so I mean I shouldn't care, it's just that she was attracted to me before and doesn't even seem to want to talk to me, which is pretty shallow. People at my work don't care, I did it once before so that initial shock is done with, and of course the other bald and balding guys love it. I will see whether I keep it or not, I might change it to be a summer thing, until it goes to the pint of no return. Here is a pic. I actually had an older women approach me this wknd and was just staring at me and ask me to go home with her, I don't get reactions like that with hair even from older woman, she kept telling me how cute I am and was trying to kiss me. Just want that with girls around my age range.

[chgobuzzbald]

Dude you look great bald in your pic. Never let anyone rob you of your self worth for any reason. There are plenty of women who think a bald guy is hot.  Know that and act with high self worth the next time you go out. Act like you love it and its part of you and it will make you more attractive to women than you can imagine. You will never want hair again.

[tobler1]

While I am admittedly biased, the bald head looks very good to me.  Embrace it.

[buddha]

Your post about keeping it as a summer thing strikes me as being written by someone who has an almost desperate need to avoid rocking the boat. You sound overly conscious about what others are going to think of you if you do a certain thing or say a certain thing or tell a borderline inappropriate joke in mixed company.
Of course, that's just my opinion and I could be horribly wrong.....but I'm not getting that vibe.
Think of your life this way and you'll never go wrong.
Death is certain, Life is not.
From what little research I've done the things that I will regret at the end when I'm gasping for just one more breath as my last heartbeat is working its way down my blue veins right under my parchment like skin is the things I should have done but didn't do. Kinda like a bucket list kind of thing. And if I let those around me, who may be totally negative a$$holes, influence my choices before I get to that last gasp point then those are the things I'm going to ponder at the end.
What I like to visualize when making a choice like this, where my choice affects no one but me, is that by going against what a couple of tight-a$$ed individuals have counseled is that I'm giving them a big, bold finger right in their puckered up little face. Once they see that I am one of those people who remains unaffected by their well thought out and reasoned advice they will begin to see me in a different light. True, some of them will see me as an uncooperative jerk-off and want nothing to do with me. These are the ones that I don't need. The others will see me as an independent minded maverick, much stronger for having weathered their crap, and maybe start to regard me as someone they want to associate with. In either case, all these outside associations are impermanent. Friends can come and go like busboys in a busy restaurant and it's a mistake to structure my life around what anyone other than me truly wants when my life is really only my concern and I'm the one who has to live and die with the regrets at the end.
So go stand in front of a mirror and have a good long talk with yourself about the things that you want in this life and then, in spite of what others might say, just go and do what you want.

[oakdan5]

Your post about keeping it as a summer thing strikes me as being written by someone who has an almost desperate need to avoid rocking the boat. You sound overly conscious about what others are going to think of you if you do a certain thing or say a certain thing or tell a borderline inappropriate joke in mixed company.
Of course, that's just my opinion and I could be horribly wrong.....but I'm not getting that vibe.
Think of your life this way and you'll never go wrong.
Death is certain, Life is not.
From what little research I've done the things that I will regret at the end when I'm gasping for just one more breath as my last heartbeat is working its way down my blue veins right under my parchment like skin is the things I should have done but didn't do. Kinda like a bucket list kind of thing. And if I let those around me, who may be totally negative a$$holes, influence my choices before I get to that last gasp point then those are the things I'm going to ponder at the end.
What I like to visualize when making a choice like this, where my choice affects no one but me, is that by going against what a couple of tight-a$$ed individuals have counseled is that I'm giving them a big, bold finger right in their puckered up little face. Once they see that I am one of those people who remains unaffected by their well thought out and reasoned advice they will begin to see me in a different light. True, some of them will see me as an uncooperative jerk-off and want nothing to do with me. These are the ones that I don't need. The others will see me as an independent minded maverick, much stronger for having weathered their crap, and maybe start to regard me as someone they want to associate with. In either case, all these outside associations are impermanent. Friends can come and go like busboys in a busy restaurant and it's a mistake to structure my life around what anyone other than me truly wants when my life is really only my concern and I'm the one who has to live and die with the regrets at the end.
So go stand in front of a mirror and have a good long talk with yourself about the things that you want in this life and then, in spite of what others might say, just go and do what you want.

Well not quite that accurate, but you do point out a couple of things. I do have a tendancy to be overly sensitive of others comments and like to look good toe everyone. It is something I am working on and this transition is a constant test of that. 

[Razor X]

Negative comments are peoples' attempts to get you to do what they want you to do.  Don't give other people that kind of power over you.

Your picture looks just fine.  Your hairline is receding so you are going to have to deal with baldness one way or the other.  In fact, you've already dealt with it - why take a step backward?  I can guarantee that if you grow your back you'll end up shaving again somewhere down the road.  Why go through all of that a second time?

[buddha]

Negative comments are peoples' attempts to get you to do what they want you to do.  Don't give other people that kind of power over you.

 

Plus, if you do what they want you to do then the terrorists have won.

[palmerproject]

the only thing that matters is how you feel about it. i totally feel you on the girl thing, i've pretty much been slick since i was 22. and i had A LOT of girls in my age range shoot me down  (idk if it was because of me being bald). but on the other hand i did have just as many girls say they liked it, and my wife loves it so much that when she saw a pic of me with hair she said that she thought i looked worse with hair not because i was ugly with hair but because she can see that i like being bald. it's your life do what you want. the people who are supposed to be in your it will prefer what makes you happy.

[baldbob]

I'm with Razor. Your hairline is receding and you're going to have to deal with it down the road anyway. Why not keep it now, if YOU like it? The back and forth thing didn't work for me. Once I went slick, I couldn't stand it for long any other way. Good luck man. I think you're over-thinking it. Just my two cents.

[SlickChromeDome]

Diggin' the bald look on you...screw those people! If you have confidence in your look then people will naturally mimic your attitude towards it. When I first went slick I HATED it, couldn't stand the way it felt (cause it wasn't what I was used to) I hate it now when my hair grows out and LOVE the slick feeling. Being bald definitely takes some getting used to. Eventually you'll get used to the new 'normal' and so will everyone around you.