Memories

[DannyBoy]

I was at a shopping centre a few days ago with my mom i been there many times since i was a kid many memories but bits off the place has changed though which is understandable...there is one area we went in (building) had peoples stores and there is a cafe there and few other stuff...there use to be a top floor but its now blocked (where the cafe us to be) you can still see the stairs...even though i know its been blocked for some time it still gave me this eerie feeling i guess knowing that behind that wall on the stairs where im sure the floor is still there just empty (obviously)...has not only my memories but many others up there and just weird knowing i may never go up there again and they are pretty much "lost in time" sort off speak now...anyone have that feeling? or get what i mean?

[TSE]

I think I get what you're saying ...

I get a similar feeling when I look at old photos (maybe even some not so old photos) of places around town.  There were places I used to go in my teens, 20s, even 30s; places that have changed or just don’t exist any more.  Sometimes, when I pass them I’d even pause to reconstruct those memories in my head.  Then I’d get that “lost in time” feeling like you mentioned … it’s like … those were very meaningful and/or memorable moments for me, even if they seem trivial to others.  Now place is either changed, gone, or (like you mentioned) off limits … and it can feel like memorable moments that happened there have gone with the changes or are feel inaccessible.  it's very bittersweet

[Goatee]

I get that feeling when my wife stands there with her bra on. I remember whats behind it but not seen it for years!!!

[DannyBoy]

Lol goatee but yeah TSE thats it its just a eerie feeling well its "weird" knowing behind that wall so many memories from me and others in there and now its blocked off as if it was never there.

[Magoo]

Yes Danny  I've had those same memories and feelings . It's a form of nostalgia,the older you get the more they happen.

[DannyBoy]

I just think its interesting to talk about.

[TSE]

I get that feeling when my wife stands there with her bra on. I remember whats behind it but not seen it for years!!!

ROTFL

[TSE]

It does make for a good conversation (IMO).  I agree with Magoo, the older one gets, the more it seems to happen.  Admittedly, another component of this could be how sometimes the memory could change. 

For example, my local mall used to have a movie theater ... it was vacant for the longest time.  A girl I was dating at the time used to go see flicks there all the time.  When we broke up and the theater closed, I use pass by and just sadly stew in the memories of just watching movies there with her.

After I've had some time to heal, I passed by the same closed theater and realize that maybe the relationship wasn't that wonderful (which is probably why we broke up).  Sure, there were wonderful memories of just watching films there with her ... but once time passed and other factors came in to paint more of the picture ... it felt as if the memory changed from bittersweet to indifferent. 

I have to wonder what I will look back on 10 years from now with the same nostalgic feeling.

[4fit]

I get that feeling when my wife stands there with her bra on. I remember whats behind it but not seen it for years!!!

OMG that is hilarious

[DannyBoy]

Its the same as this place called frankie and bennys its like an 60s theme restraunt i guess i call it...its shut down now but when i first saw it shut down i was like what the hell? since i didnt know...months prior maybe a year (didnt seem like a year though) i was there having fun with family and peeps i know and now its just left there to rot until someone takes over or it gets knocked down...there is another frankie and bennys near by but still (the one shut down was also near by)...its just knowing behind those closed doors who knows whats its like inside all those memories just "drifting" there sort off speak.

[DannyBoy]

It does make for a good conversation (IMO).  I agree with Magoo, the older one gets, the more it seems to happen.  Admittedly, another component of this could be how sometimes the memory could change. 

For example, my local mall used to have a movie theater ... it was vacant for the longest time.  A girl I was dating at the time used to go see flicks there all the time.  When we broke up and the theater closed, I use pass by and just sadly stew in the memories of just watching movies there with her.

After I've had some time to heal, I passed by the same closed theater and realize that maybe the relationship wasn't that wonderful (which is probably why we broke up).  Sure, there were wonderful memories of just watching films there with her ... but once time passed and other factors came in to paint more of the picture ... it felt as if the memory changed from bittersweet to indifferent. 

I have to wonder what I will look back on 10 years from now with the same nostalgic feeling.

Good question in 10 years i wonder what will be my next place i will look at in the same way...but the nostalgic feeling with your ex i havent had that feel yet i guess they maybe be one off them yet to come.

[slymyke]

I guess I get that feeling more if I were to go back to my hometown and pass by the house I grew up in.  I lived there my whole childhood and my parents lived there for another 6 years afterwards. 

Also, a house I lived in for a while with my wife and first child was torn down... the whole street became part of a church campus, so its kinda weird to remember where it even stood.

The house one of my grandmother's lived in for many years was also torn down along with the whole subdivision of homes to make room for the entrance to a small municipal airport.  It has been weird on the few chances I've gotten to be in that town and drive by it. 

[Sir Harry]

I can sort of relate to what you're saying, Danny. The bowling center where I spent most of my teenage years as an employee and as a bowler, closed in late summer 2004 roughly a year before Hurricane Katrina struck. The building survived, and is now split into a Bed Bath and Beyond, and an HH Gregg. It's nice to see that the building was able to be converted into something instead of being vacant and/or demolished altogether, but I still feel a major part of my childhood died when it closed...Oddly enough, I still have dreams about the bowling center and seeing many of my friends, but even after 10 1/2 years, especially after having a dream about the place, I tend to have a hard time realizing that it's gone and not coming back. But I do smile when I come in contact with some of my former fellow bowlers and/or former coworkers in other places. It's just that I don't get why I still have dreams about something that is no longer there....I do have dreams about my deceased loved ones, but that's for another thread....

[Magoo]

The church I got married in back in 1967 was torn down, and now is a public library.That's a strange feeling when I pass by.

[DannyBoy]

The feeling is strange indeed.