I am having a hard time accepting my impending baldness

[Senior Cheesecake]

Im 29 and was losing hair from the front. Shaving it all was the best thing ive done. Confidence skyrocketed and the mrs absolutely loves it!

i hated it when i always had to combover and hide it only for it to show again when its windy.... now i am free and getting looks from women even when they have their fellas around am a total stud lol

First post btw.

[Tyler]

oh man, you can't be serious. the least thing helping a young balding man are these forum threads and studies about women and their opinion on bald guys. this is just ridiculous, especially the videos where a BALD guy is asking women how they feel about dating a bald guy, hilarious lol. has it never occurred to you that their opinion is biased when a bald guy is standing next to them and that they would feel incredibly uncomfortable telling the truth? think about it.

the next problem with these studies or forum polls is that you never know how these women who say they find bald guys attractive actually look like. and that plays a huge factor, because most of the time, these women would settle for anyone OR they would not suit your personal taste in women 9 out of 10 times.

don't get me wrong, bald guys can and do get laid. but you have to have other positive features and i found out that working out (you don't have to be a body builder) and eating clean, getting a slight tan and stubble, dressing nicely is a must in order to score. because confidence isn't everything as some say. they say it like confidence was some kind of magic potion that seduces every living female human being on this planet. i hope you get what i mean.

This is so off base that I want to throw up 

Women don't care about your hair style...PERIOD!  Instead they care about confidence and knowing that you will be able to take care of them, but you have to know how to communicate this to them. Does it help to be in shape and dress nicely, yes, it does.  But just because you are buff and have on nice clothes doesn't mean girls are going to give a sh*t about you. 

[Sir Harry]

Im 29 and was losing hair from the front. Shaving it all was the best thing ive done. Confidence skyrocketed and the mrs absolutely loves it!

i hated it when i always had to combover and hide it only for it to show again when its windy.... now i am free and getting looks from women even when they have their fellas around am a total stud lol

First post btw.

Welcome to the group! When you get a chance, post an intro in our Introductions section and post a photo when you get a chance!

[sadwithouthair]

Thanks for all the comments guys. Still haven't shaved, but I know I will in the very near future. I'm building up some confidence towards that day. Right now I'm just trying to overcome my depression and once I feel better I will have enough confidence to do it. What is hard for me to accept is the fact that my hair loss is drug induced. I feel like I did this to myself from taking accutane (it used to be a powerful chemo drug when first introduced!) So I feel I'm not suppose to look this way. I've been on message boards reading other people with the same reaction and there is no cure for it. Nothing I can do now.. Slowly trying to accept it. Thanks again for the encouraging words.

By the way.. Lots of talk about women not caring about a guys hair. What about other guys? I happen to be gay, and as we all know males are very visual in terms of attraction, compared to females who are more attracted to attitude and confidence. So I feel this is a big disadvantage for me trying to date. Right now I don't even try to date because I'm too insecure.

[Semi-Sly]

Oh come on!  Ever been to a leather bar?  A young guy with a shaved head has to beat them off with a stick!!!!!

[Frontier Guy]

Trust me, a gay man with a shaved head is very much in demand ... provided he is confident in himself.

It really has nothing to do with being gay or not gay ... potential partners, regardless of gender, are attracted to others who generally are well groomed, confident, and fun to be with.

Once you stop worrying about your hair you can move on to enjoying everything else.

[sadwithouthair]

Oh come on!  Ever been to a leather bar?  A young guy with a shaved head has to beat them off with a stick!!!!!

LOL! No I have not, its not really my scene. But I guess I will have to go soon 

[tofur99]

I took accutane for 6 months about....6 years ago.  Man, time flies.  I'm 25 now.  My hair started thinning right around when I took accutane (I had no idea it could cause hairloss so I didn't connect the two at first), and it hasn't stopped.  It's slowed down a lot in the last year or two, but the damage is done.  I'm a solid NW3, crown is thinning too, diffuse over the top.

It sucks real bad, having your hair taken from you like that.  When I'm 40?  fine, go for it mother nature.  But early 20's?  I liked having hair, this is supposed to be the prime of your life after all.

Going with a tight buzz is the best option (full shave somewhere down the line once your used to the buzz to see how it looks).  You really don't have any other option, toupee's are a lie you don't want to live with, there's no medical reversing of the loss, and you and I aren't good candidates for hair transplants. 

My confidence went way up after shaving.  It's very freeing, might be counter intuitive, but when you shave there is nothing left to be self conscious about.  You literally shave it off.  Plus the tight buzz looks a lot cleaner, sharper.  You look better with it then with longer, uneven, pathetic hair.  The buzz is strong.

And by the way, I'm pretty sure a lot of gay dudes like bald heads, just like a lot of women like bald heads.  Everyone has their preferences, you just gotta find someone who prefers you.

[geeman]

oh man, you can't be serious. the least thing helping a young balding man are these forum threads and studies about women and their opinion on bald guys. this is just ridiculous, especially the videos where a BALD guy is asking women how they feel about dating a bald guy, hilarious lol. has it never occurred to you that their opinion is biased when a bald guy is standing next to them and that they would feel incredibly uncomfortable telling the truth? think about it.

the next problem with these studies or forum polls is that you never know how these women who say they find bald guys attractive actually look like. and that plays a huge factor, because most of the time, these women would settle for anyone OR they would not suit your personal taste in women 9 out of 10 times.

don't get me wrong, bald guys can and do get laid. but you have to have other positive features and i found out that working out (you don't have to be a body builder) and eating clean, getting a slight tan and stubble, dressing nicely is a must in order to score. because confidence isn't everything as some say. they say it like confidence was some kind of magic potion that seduces every living female human being on this planet. i hope you get what i mean.

This is so off base that I want to throw up 

Women don't care about your hair style...PERIOD!  Instead they care about confidence and knowing that you will be able to take care of them, but you have to know how to communicate this to them. Does it help to be in shape and dress nicely, yes, it does.  But just because you are buff and have on nice clothes doesn't mean girls are going to give a sh*t about you.

+1
"bald guys can and do get laid" ? Jeez...  You make us sound like a different breed!

[TheSlyBear]

Right now I don't even try to date because I'm too insecure.

And that is why you fail. Please look up the Self-Fullfilling Prophecy. You are sabotaging yourself.

Who gets the most attention? The guy who's out there in the middle of the room, smiling, laughing and chatting it up, or the guy standing by himself in the corner looking down and avoiding eye contact?

Disregarding your incorrect stereotype of what gay men are looking for, it's how you carry yourself that will make all the difference. Not what you have or do not have on your head.

[AJ Q-Ball]

Right now I don't even try to date because I'm too insecure.

And that is why you fail. Please look up the Self-Fullfilling Prophecy. You are sabotaging yourself.

Who gets the most attention? The guy who's out there in the middle of the room, smiling, laughing and chatting it up, or the guy standing by himself in the corner looking down and avoiding eye contact?

Disregarding your incorrect stereotype of what gay men are looking for, it's how you carry yourself that will make all the difference. Not what you have or do not have on your head.

You're right on the money SlyBear! Attitude is what it's all about.

[slymyke]

You asked if the confidence came immediately after shaving.  The answer for me was YES.  Like most guys who shaved their head, I wished I had done it sooner.  There is nothing worse than a "balding" head.  It doesn't matter what the face looks like, or the shape of the head...a shaved head looks better than one with remnants of hair.    People are more apt to be critical of a balding head or a bad hair-do than they will of a neatly shaven head.  Grow some type of facial hair to make it a totally new look, or if you already have some, step it up a notch.   You have nothing to lose.  If you are already feeling low self esteem, you owe it to yourself to make a bold move and feel the surprising rush of confidence. 

[EarlBald]

Hey, Sad, I know where you're coming from.  I started losing my hair at the end of high school, altho until my early 20s it was just a receding hairline.  It took me forever to decide to shave my head, but I'm glad that I did.  I think that you'll be glad too.  As a fellow gay man, I can assure you that many/most gay men consider the shaved-head look hot.  You shouldn't have any problems attracting someone, altho you need to build up your self-confidence.  Sometimes we make too much of sexual attractiveness and neglect more fulfilling relationships (don't ask me how I know that!).

[sadwithouthair]

Hello guys! Just wanted to give you guys an update on me. I finally did it! Cut off all my hair with a #0 grade and couldn’t be happier.

I decided that I will not allow my hair to bring me down in 2015. For NYE I was invited to an big formal party with all my friends. I was debating about not going because my hair looked so awful. Thats when I decided that I had enough and went and buzzed off all my hair. And shockingly I liked the way it looked! I got complements saying that I looked bad-ass with my beard and I had a nice shaped head. I even got someones number that night. All the fear and worry was mostly in my head. The best part is that I am no longer OCD over my hair. No more trying to make it look decent with concealers. No more staring at mirrors, no more rogaine or fancy shampoos. I love the freedom and my mind can now focus on better things that actually matter.

Thanks for all the support guys and happy new year!

[rss114]

congratulations Sad welcome to the club post some pics if your comfertable