New member needs help.

[OzPete]

Welcome to SBGs, Mojo!

[JohnMont]

Mojo, welcome.  As for my 'two cents";  you have a very interesting/ handsome face, nice bone structure, proportions.  You look good with the buzz, you will look  particularly striking with a shave.  I'd say stay away from facial hair; the totally clean look is for you.  Also, if you don't already; start working out!  Getting a little more buff will build up your confidence too.  (and as the guys have said, this is what the ladies will notice).

I have been going real gradual toward totally sly .  Very short buzz like you.  I'm finding that every time I take it a notch down I not only look better, but I feel more confident.  So if you need to keep it at a close buzz for a while, just do that until you are ready.  But I'd say that sly is your destiny ! !

 

[ugabulldog]

Mojopin, you don't know how lucky you are....I am a member over at hairlosshelp.com and there are lots of guys there that wish they had the option of just shaving their head bald but they can't because like you, they were young and self conscience. But they made the mistake of getting hair transplants. The scalp can get very scarred up and it makes shaving bald  not even an option. As others have said, you have a good face, be glad you HAVE the option of shaving bald and go for it. Wait till the dome has time to get some sun too before judging. I think it looks good at the length its at now too. Peace

[bonomel]

Hey Mojo. Losing your hair sucks. Feeling depressed over it sucks even more. Trust me, I know all about it. I wake up with it and go to bed with it. It can influence your feelings, confidence and mood, even though you have absolutely no control over the cause. I have to let you know you got my support!

[Mojopin]

Thanks for all the support guys (even though it would be nice to hear from some ladies  ).  I've been suffering from depression for a very long time, and the hairloss is just another thing to enhance it.  The feelings of hopelesness and losing my looks are very powerful sometimes.  I'm glad I found a spot to talk about it, but I'm obsessing about it.  I've had moments of confidence in the past and it's very hard to get back there.  I seem to forget how I've sustained that state of mind.  Maybe (because of past relationships) I have a bad view of women.......are they as shallow (into looks) as I seem to think?  I don't know.  I'm sorry to spout off like this.  I feel like I bring people down, but it's hard to find someone to talk to.......and sometimes embarrassing.  I've had a few drinks too...

[don]

Mojopin, the way your post reads you write like you think you're an ugly duckling. By looking at your picture you have nothing to worry about.I could understand your concern though.When I started losing my hair I was very young too. Although I was never worried about attracting the ladies because I'm gay. I didn't know how the guys would like me but now that's not a problem because lots of guys out there are either balding or sly. Whether you go sly or keep the shadow of hair you look fine.The ladies will line up to get to you.You're worrying needlessly. Like another poster said you could even pull it off with no facial hair while lots of us can't. Good luck to you and don't let your hairloss get to you anymore.You look great.

[Tyler]

Hey Mojo, I don't think women as a whole are as shallow as you think.  Actually, men are probably much worse.  What they do care about is confidence.  I can't tell you how to beat your depression, since I'm not a doctor, but I can tell you that there are steps you can take to build  your confidence with women.

[champ007]

Thanks for all the support guys (even though it would be nice to hear from some ladies  ).  I've been suffering from depression for a very long time, and the hairloss is just another thing to enhance it.  The feelings of hopelesness and losing my looks are very powerful sometimes.  I'm glad I found a spot to talk about it, but I'm obsessing about it.  I've had moments of confidence in the past and it's very hard to get back there.  I seem to forget how I've sustained that state of mind.  Maybe (because of past relationships) I have a bad view of women.......are they as shallow (into looks) as I seem to think?  I don't know.  I'm sorry to spout off like this.  I feel like I bring people down, but it's hard to find someone to talk to.......and sometimes embarrassing.  I've had a few drinks too...

Mojo, Mojo, Mojo....where do I begin. First let me say that your gonna rock the sly look. Your not losing your looks, your stepping into rockin your looks. Before I went sly I thought I had some game... HA! I gotta say that since April, 2007 has been a kick ass year. I started working out, shaved my head, and partied with some great chicks! Everyones had past relationships that were bad, maybe thats why they are called past??   Anyway, there are shallow chicks out there, there are brainless chicks out there, watch Rock of Love with Brett Micheals.. whole bunch there!! But there are alot of good women also. As far as approaching women, I use my slyness to start a convo. I have to say that if you keep it smooth it helps alot, I had one chick almost melt <--- being nice  when she rubbed the nogging and commented on how smooth it was, and I threw her the line, just wait till you feel it between your legs!! Bottom line is that bald is popular with the ladies this day and age, so join the movement, you won't be disappointed! I have no regrets. Have fun with it and let us know how things go.... remember, we got your back!     

[jusbnme]

Welcome Mojo.  No offense to you at all but you sound just like all the new people that join this forum.  They always worry about how they look or how life may change for them.  Then they always end up having more confidence in themselves and wishing they had shaved years before.  Don't worry bro.  You'll see that having a shaved dome will grow on you as it will plenty of women around you.  Besides I don't know why you are worried...You are rockin' the sly look very well. 

[JDog]

Lance couldnt have summed it up better.

The Sly look is truly life changing and will give a confidence you never knew you had. And ladies LOVE confidence. Just look at any tough talking badass either from the 50's greaser days or now. They always have a gorgeous girl hanging off them because they are happy with who they are and being Sly will give you that.

[Mojopin]

Hey guys,

I haven't posted in a long time.  I've been stressing a lot about the hair loss and decided to try going completely sly.  To be honest, I'm a little freaked out and really concerned about what women are going to think.  It's been a couple days and I'm pretty self concious walking around town.  Am I overreacting?  Do some (or alot of) women really find this look attractive?  Does it look silly or freakish on a thinner guy like me?  hate to sound like a broken record guys, but I need a little help.  Any positive experiences from women with you single sly guys?

[Tyler]

Mojopin, you have not lost your mojo by shaving your head.  You rock the sly dome my friend!  If you can find a way to be confident in your new look, you will be successful with women.  Chicks do dig the sly look on guys, but more importantly, they dig a confident guy.

[xnewyawka]

Mojo, welcome to the site, and I can't say anything more, the bro's have already said it all.
The shaved head looks great on you, and if you give it the time frame we normally recommend; usually 30 days, you will become more and more used to it and feel much more comfortable as it being part of who you are.
If you just keep the confidence level up, you will find it will feel natural, and if you give the ladies a smile like on your avatar, you will be aces!

Good luck, and keep the Mojo workin'!   

[Jdogs Better Half]

OK.....I can do the female perspective part....

GIRLS DO FIND BALD MEN ATTRACTIVE!!!! just in case you missed it...... GIRLS DO FIND BALD MEN ATTRACTIVE!!!!!

Seriously you are worrying about nothing there are loadsssss of woman that find bald men attractive.....it's not about the hair its how you carry yourself, confidence etc....

My husband is BBC and I love his bald head......mostly because of how it makes him feel - there is defiantly a difference in how he carries himself since he became sly.....

If you are feeling under confident and worried thats all a woman is going to pick up on when talking to you! Woman look for many other qualities in a man before hair.

Like Stew said, any woman that is only thinking about hair is not worth your time....you would not want to know her anyhow!

Sounds like you need to really think about your own self worth - think about all your great qualities that you DO have! Thats what a woman is going to be interested in!!

[SLYinKC]

Welcome, Mojopin, glad you've joined us.  The SLY look seems good for you.  Just give it awhile and give yourself some time to get used to it.  The freedom you will gain from not having to worry about thinning hair will give you confidence.  Just give it a chance.  Try not to be overly self-concious and be open-minded and I think you'll realize how positive your reactions from people will be.  Best of luck.