going bald WHEN you are sly

[Vogi_the_bald]

(sorry for posting alot today) But I am having a bit of an insecure moment.  I LOVE being Sly BBC. I have buzzed my head for my whole life.  I was wondering if, since i am BBC that when i start to naturally bald, will I freak out? I was watching a Seinfeld episode where Elaine was dating a BBC man and she asked to see his ID or something along those lines only to discover  that he had a full head of gorgeous hair. When he decided to grow it out again, he realized that he was going naturally bald and it hit him hard.

Before going BBC I never understood why he would care. NOW that I am BBC and love it, I was wondering, would I really freak out? How did you feel if you were sly before going naturally bald, did you freak out? I am asking because i had a full head of hair and my girlfriend always teased me because i had a tiny tiny tiny spot that started to thin out a little bit. You couldn't notice it unless I was sitting down and you looked directly at it. So when I eventually go bald, or start to, if I am still sly will I notice and will i care?

[isleepinthebuff]

And the winner of the how long is a piece of string post goes to .......

In all seriousnessif you've buzzed and shaved your head then why worry. I think sometimes a reality check needs to happen because it sounds llike your becoming a little obsessed with the whole sly, bbc, baldness thing. There's more important things in the world and there are actually people joining this site that are worried about real hair loss, so let's put your post into context.

[Mike E. P.]

Vogi - you've already taken the biggest step and shaved bald.  And it looks great and you like the look.  If you ever do go bald from mpb, you won't have to go through the trauma of deciding to shave your head, shaving, doing the 30 days, etc.  If you decided to grow back your hair and notice you are balding, shave your head again and be done with that!

Please don't worry about something today  that may never happen tomorrow!

[bennett11]

when i was younger i always kept hair buzzed.  I realized at some point that hair was thinning and receding.  Actually was pleased and hastened the process along. 

[Timmer]

I've lost more ground to my forehead and "monk's spot" since I started shaving in 2005.  That whole process began when I was in my late 20s, early 30s.  I never really "freaked out" about my hair...well, other than the time I fell asleep in the chair and the stylist gave me a Rod Stewart in the 80s mullet, but that's another story.

It's easy for me to say "who cares?" when I'm now in my early 50s and I'm about as unconcerned about my "look" as I've ever been in my life.  On the other hand, it's a great place to be.

[Sir Harry]

Vogi, Here's a similar thread I started last year regarding the question you're asking:

http://www.2.slybaldguys.com/smf/index.php?topic=18096.0

[Marshal S.]

I think it is impossible for any of us to know how you'll feel about things in the future.  I think you'll probably cope with it the best you can.  There is an old saying, "Don't borrow trouble."  I think that's good advice.

[slymyke]

Vogi,

If you think you might regret it in the future, maybe you should not be bald yet.  You could wear your hair while you have it, then if you  start balding you can remember how you looked and felt with a Sly head -and hopefully have no issues with shaving it off again. 

Either way, its all good.

[Razor X]

I think we tend to think that things (i.e., our hair follicles) are frozen in time when we shave -- and that if we stop shaving our hair will look exactly the same as did previously.   But of course, those with MPB continue to lose hair.  You don't notice it as it's happening and then you skip shaving for a few days and notice that nothing is growing back.      It can be a bit of a shock. 

However, we should look at it as a confirmation that we made the right decision by shaving in the first place.  Most people want to hang onto their hair for as long as possible , but I maintain that it's better to shave sooner rather than later (i.e., before you "have to") and spare yourself the anguish of watching your hair fall out strand by strand and seeing your hairline recede up your forehead.

[isleepinthebuff]

I think we tend to think that things (i.e., our hair follicles) are frozen in time when we shave -- and that if we stop shaving our hair will look exactly the same as did previously.   But of course, those with MPB continue to lose hair.  You don't notice it as it's happening and then you skip shaving for a few days and notice that nothing is growing back.      It can be a bit of a shock. 

However, we should look at it as a confirmation that we made the right decision by shaving in the first place.  Most people want to hang onto their hair for as long as possible , but I maintain that it's better to shave sooner rather than later (i.e., before you "have to") and spare yourself the anguish of watching your hair fall out strand by strand and seeing your hairline recede up your forehead.

When I cut a big chunk out of my head and had to rest shaving for a week I was shocked how much of my remaining hair was grey!

[Cave Dweller]

I often have thought that the BBC experience is very different from the MPB.

My opinion, Vogi, is that if that situation ever happens to you, you probably will feel some of the anxiety most MPBs felt when the balding/thinning first became visible and we realized we never again would have a full head of hair.

You, however, strike me as a guy with a good head on his shoulders who is secure enough in himself not to let it affect him too much.

[Razor X]

When I cut a big chunk out of my head and had to rest shaving for a week I was shocked how much of my remaining hair was grey!

Yeah, that happens, too. 

[baldsurfer]

When I shaved my head bald for the first time and liked the way I looked, any fear about MPB vanished. While I enjoy having the ability to choose between bald and having hair, I like being sly enough that I don't imagine caring at all if I had to stay that way.

[Baldstu]

Going grey is a big incentive to keep sly yeah I have a few grey hairs if I lapse

[reddog]

One of the best things about being sly, not seeing that grey head in the mirror. I've been grey since my early thirties.