Nothing but mean comments online for topics of baldness. Very discouraging.

[USA man]

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/19/fashion/head-shaving-making-the-most-of-nothing.html?pagewanted=2&_r=1&adxnnl=1&ref=general&src=me&adxnnlx=1334887337-rmVza%20IxvdGVUR8fjO%20hpQ

I have thinning hair at 19 and I read this article link posted on here, but women react so negatively. This is just one comments section focused on baldness, there are so many websites I've found that talk negatively of baldness!
JUST A COUPLE of female comments from the comments section reacting to the article:

Deb says, "Dude. You are bald. Everyone you see—women, too—knows you are bald. Whether or not you shave away whatever hormones let you retain, you are bald. It's fine that you got a column out of it, it's fine that you are cool with it, but the shaven head has merely replaced the gray ponytail as a signifier of a certain demographic."

Vannessa says, "Unfortunately, a shaved head is not always an improvement on the look of receding hairline or thinning hair. To go the shaved-head route, one also needs a decently shaped skull and ears that are not sticking out too much. Otherwise, a shaved head can result in a rather comical look."

It's like women are suggesting that bald men should not be confident and that ARGGHHH. Look if women didn't care I'd shave it right now. Why do they act like this?

[Tyler]

Dude, I can find tons of people online that hate curly hair, that doesn't mean there aren't a ton of hot people in this world that have curly hair.  The point is that there are always haters, especially online.  They key is how you carry yourself in person because when it comes down to it, relationships are face to face, not screen to screen. 

One of the few things I wish I would have done when I was in college was shave my head.  I'm sure it would have taken my amazing experience to the EPIC level.  My bet is that if you shave for 30 days straight you'll see a change in you that you'd never expect.

Avoid the negative crap online and focus on your positive attributes.  Oh, and if you're really worried about what chicks think, check out Nick Vujicic's wife.  The dude has no arms and no legs and is rocking a hot wife.  I'm pretty sure you can meet an amazing woman without your hair.

[marshd1000]

Tyler, thanks for posting the pic of Nick Vujicic and his wife!  I have heard him live and on TV and he is quite inspirational.  Compared to what he goes through, what we go through is a piece of cake!  Baldness is NOTHING!   

[MarshalArtist]

NEVER read online comments.  They are the dregs of the online world. These people use their detached place to say things they would never say in person. There are miserable people out there, and they feel better about themselves by making others feel worse.

[Cave Dweller]

I just read all the comments on the article. The two you posted really are the only negatives in over 200. Unfortunately, those two are at the very beginning of the comments section. Most of the comments from women state they either do not care or really like the bald look.

MarshalArtist is so right. There are negative people in this world who will pounce on any opportunity to cut other people down. They are the ones who seek out any  vulnerability in another person and attack it to make themselves feel superior. The internet gives them the perfect tool to spew venom and spout off while remaining anonymous.

[Blitzed]

Ever since I read an article by a woman who referred to men who shave their heads as suffering from terminal masculinity, I've rethought the issue of what women think about me or those of us who do shave our heads. Or any other parts of our bodies. Women's use of cosmetics, and the cost to the many men who end up paying the bill, is equally outrageous. To quote Dan Jenkins "her eyelids looked like freshly painted murals of scenes from a war". The day a woman told me I couldn't kiss her, even just affectionately, because it would "spoil her make up" was the day I learned the truer, deeper meaning of the expression, "women dress for other women". To see what they wear is proof of that. So, ladies, the next time you go kittenish and want to "feel it", and then do so without leave, I'll slap a sexual harassment suit on you. I love women, or used to but lately, their determination to find equality in areas where equality is just not possible, has me turned off. I'm an old man but I still have a wandering eye and, I've found, old women have the same idea. Or so I'm told when they ask me if I'm a sailor and new in town...

[Mikekoz13]

Why in the world do you care waht others think about your personal care. Others, especially strangers just don't matter if superficial things are that important to them.

Are you a good man? Do you live your life the right way? Are you kind to others? How about those less fortunate than you... are you good to them? Are you compassionate? Do you love with your whole heart?

If you answered yes to all these questions, then none of that other bullshit matters.

Trust me.... good looking women love bald men. I get flirted with often... and I'm an ugly sort.

[schro]

Trust me.... good looking women love bald men. I get flirted with often... and I'm an ugly sort.

And honest!!

[geeman]

I have had more luck with dating since I shaved, it must be a confidence thing, cause how can I improve on my Adonis film star good looks?! Never been happier to be single!

[waine]

Here in this part of Africa, every third man is bald, or almost bald.  And the head shape factor, or flappy ear factor is a non entity.  "Yes, but that because the are African", you might say.  Sure, there is an element of thought to that as African people generally have very short hair but the fact is they are bald or look bald.  Among white and coloured folk, many men sport the bald look and generally people don't really give a damn if you are bald or not.

USA man, I will concur, that being 19 and Sly is a bit harder than being 40 and Sly.  Its a confidence issue.  Read these forums to help develop the confidence you will need if you chose the Sly route.

Food for thought.  Have you ever seen a bald white senator?

[isleepinthebuff]

Surely the women quoted are just stating their personal preference, which we all have. On first impressions and the phwoar factor you get when you meet someone initially are very different. Just as bald would be a no no for some woman, others do not find long haired guys attractive. They don't reflect everyone's tastes.

Better to see someone making the best of themself than a horrific combover. I'm sure there a similar articles on the internet about weight, height, skin tone, penis size, earnings. Not everyone appeals to everyone.

[DC]

Dude, you're going to find some loser-male or female-who'll use the internet to beat others down. I've seen these types pounce on the bald and hide behind cyberspace. Don't let them get to you man.

You are who YOU are, not what others say. The females you've mentioned who don't like bald men in reality don't want men. I find these gals (who live through their careers, toys, and clothes) want non-threatening males they can feel superior to. Those of us suffering from "terminal masculinity" tend to be too real for them.  And some guys will sell their soul for such females' approval.

And for guys who beat down on Sly folk are usually one step short of metrosexual. Look at some of these young cats with long dreadlocks, or coiffed 'do's.

Be you, be bald, and be the man that you are. The haters can go get lost.

[USA man]

You're all so awesome. Thank you for your help.

[invaray]

There are two sides to these things. Just as many men and women like the look of a bald man and find it attractive. Some prefer it, each to his or her own.

   Yul Brynner he was bald by choice and many found him attractive.

   Be how you want to be life is too short. 

[bald Luck14]

Who cares what others say or think. As long as we feel happy with ourselves is all that really matters. And I'm happy with my bald head!