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Hey all I need some help (18 years old), please read even though it's an essay

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USA man:
But how do I up and say, "I don't give a F what people think," and be confident? Doesn't a lot of confidence come from pride of appearance? And lack of confidence comes from fear of what people think of you?

Sir Harry:

--- Quote from: USA man on July 26, 2013, 11:47:00 PM ---But how do I up and say, "I don't give a F what people think," and be confident? Doesn't a lot of confidence come from pride of appearance? And lack of confidence comes from fear of what people think of you?

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You don't necessarily have to say "I don't give a....". If people are making fun of you or making comments and you just simply ignore them or reply "Thanks" and come across as if what people say don't phase you, you give the aura that you are happy with yourself and (eventually) it won't be an issue with other people. Waking up each morning with a "this is MY day" positive attitude will be a step in that direction. It's going to take time and practice, but it can be done. Good Luck!

mrzed:
Welcome to SBG.  This is the right place to raise these questions.

You DO have control over your hair when you shave your head.  Many of the guys here will tell you that it is a huge confidence builder.

I used to buzz my head as you describe. Then some friends urged me to just shave it off. So here I am just urging you to shave it off.

I did the deed. Put on a smile and walked out the front door with something that not everyone has and which not everyone is willing to do. I shaved my head bald.  Best grooming thing I have done. I still wear a smile, when is extra big when I see a guy with thinning hair or balding and he really should shave his head, too.

You don't need thinning hair as a reason to shave your head. It's just a cool look. Head shave/size bumps, irregularities don't matter. That's just you.  The owner of the head sees way more than other observers.  Just shave your head. You'll enjoy the freedom.

Sancho:
USA man, you seem to have given yourself the best advice available, if you re-read your post. Thoughtful and perceptive, if a little hard on yourself. A lot of people, men and women, are shallow sometimes about things like looks, money, etc., but that´s just human nature. It´s really about building your confidence, nothing to do with hair. I´m not technically bald, I´m 51, but on-and-off throughout my life, since age 18, I´ve given myself a buzz-cut at No.1 or No.2 blade. (I don´t shave because I find it uncomfortable, and have never mastered the art of shaving without leaving "nicks" all over my scalp). You have a healthy attitude to a balanced lifestyle, which is a bonus. If you can´t sleep or are severely anxious about this issue, maybe go and see a GP (doctor) and get some advice. Get your sleep patterns together first, and your anxiety levels will decrease. All will be well.

TheSlyBear:
Do you think that you cannot take pride in your appliance if you've shaved your head? Quite the opposite, my man. A smooth, clean shaved head is something to hold one's head high, literally, about

Do I look like I don't take pride in my appearance?
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Do you dress like a slob? If so, don't.

Do you take care of your skin? If not, start.

Do you smile and hold your head up high, and look people in the eye when speaking? If not, start.

Also, respecting yourself for more than your appearance is something that goes deeper than what you see in the mirror.

And do you know what leads to self-respect? Taking control. Rather than letting circumstances lead you to just give up, take control of your own life and don't let something completely superficial like "I'm losing my hair" serve as an excuse to opt out.

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