I joined these forums today, and interestingly enough I was bid welcome by a message from Tyler, whose status apparently is equal to that of a count – very impressive. The message was obviously a part of my registering, regardless of that however; I found the content to be quite interesting.
There was a clear emphasis on the word ‘confidence’, and I was offered free seminars, courses and books on the subject of gaining self-confidence. I registered to make this post; I was confused, as I did not understand exactly why bald- and balding men are so concerned about losing their hair. Here, I thought, there would be an abundance of men, in possession of the cure to my confusion.
Balding sucks. There’s no way around it. But I don’t know why it sucks. Most bald people seem to be worried about the other sex, and how women react to you having a hairline that reaches behind to the back of your neck. Other are seemingly worried about their professional futures; bald men apparently have to work much harder in order to become successful, to gain acceptance from their co-workers/employers etc. If there was cause for worry, then I think bald men would be extinct by now. Not to mention the human race itself.....
I’m 20 years old, I’m from Denmark.. and I’m bald. Balding sucks, but being bald does not suck. It is who you are. It is a change in your appearance that you cannot help, you can’t change it; you can only embrace it. I’m not necessarily talking about “going sly”. I’m talking about being true to yourself. When I started losing my hair at age 15, I thought to myself: Oh. f**k. I've never cared about what other people thought of me, and I don't care now. But the balding part of my life was easily one of the worst periods; and I don't know why. Especially looking back at it now.
Two words that have been said in relation to each other so many times, that the meaning has disappeared: Be yourself. It sounds like a burden; like we’ve been dealt some cards here in life that we have to play with. Reach into the deck, pick out the aces, the kings and queens. Give yourself a royal straight flush. You are not who you look like, you are what you act like. And you decide what you act like.
I wish I could be more clear about this and not sound like a cliché, but I think it is sad that we bald brothers (as Larry D describes us) feel it is necessary to take courses, read books and attend seminars in order to gain confidence. Take a look in the mirror: It is what you don’t see that matters. My weirdly egg-shaped head does not change the fact that I'm a genius, hilariously funny and, well, a pretty awesome guy.
This sounded like something Jim Cunningham could've said in one of his self-help videos. It was not meant to be a pep-talk of any sort, just an expression of bald-guy-thoughts..
This is my first post, and may be my only post, I don’t know. I just wanted to say this.
Well, I for one found your post interesting and thought provoking.
My brain tells me that losing hair is no biggie, Im the same person I always was, it doesn't matter. I can still function, I can work, love, laugh etc.
But...
My heart tells me that it sucks the big donkey dong.
Who will win, brain or heart?!
Guys who get obsessed and worry about losing their hair have a seriously misplaced sense of priorities.
The amount of hair on your head has absolutely no relevance whatsoever on who you are or how successful you can be. And any potential mates who feel otherwise should be kicked to the curb as soon as they make their feelings known. Like the saying goes, "Those who matter don't mind. Those who mind don't matter." Or , as I like to say, "Hair is vastly over rated."
Welcome to the club, btw.
Welcome to the bald brotherhood. Such wise words. Thanks for posting.
Welcome aboard! Hope to see more posts from you!
Welcome to the family mate, and very well said! I think you hit the nail on the head with your words of wisdom. Hopefully this isn't your only post, and you continue to join in this awesome community!