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Facing your younger self
peteman9:
I know, how often does a guy tell a girl she is fat and should lose wait? I think it's just think it's common courtesy to try and make someone feel better about themselves with positive reinforcement. I guess we gotta just get that from ourselves
wonderer:
Younger me had long hair and was often mistaken for a "you are such a pretty little girl" kind of stupid comments(even from my neighbours @c3 ),in fact my parents often refused to get me to the friggin haircut so i developed phobia from cutting my hair -now they are paying for their acts ;) no more mister fluffy long-haired guy ! O0
wonderer:
So to make a long story short nobody really accepted me with a long hair and they don't accept me with no hair and they wont accept me anyway so why bother :/O
wonderer:
I know that I know noting and everybody around me would say you the same thing about me ;that is -that i know noting so i will refer to scientific studies www.uncyclopedia.wikia.com/wiki/Hair
I need to find somebody to teach me English language but until then i will continue to live in illusion that i can use written English -o i am blessed with my ignorance ! O:)
waine:
Hey there Pete, and welcome...
I will admit, shaving bald at your age and finding yourself in the social situations that a youngster finds themselves in is different to a man in his thirties or forties who shaves bald. The difference is you are still looking for a mate, but a settled man is not, so there is no fear for the settled man that he won’t find a girl because he is bald.
Having said that, consider the following:
There are many stories here of younger men who have found a beautiful companion while bald. Why should your case be different?
In your scenarios you speak of one girl you knew in the past. Naturally she will compare you to the impression she had of you when you had hair. A girl who never saw you with hair will perceive you as having always been bald and will accept your look as you are in the present. Try to meet new girls in new social environments so they see you as you are now.
You are already balding and your solution is to go Sly. That was very important to you. Friends and girls must accept you for the person that you are in the “here and now”.
Look at all the photos of bald men on this site. As you see them is your first impression of them. So many look “normal” in fact many look quite handsome. They are all from different backgrounds; many are in very good standing in terms of careers and social lives. What does that tell you? Is tells you that in this day and age, we have evolved to the point that a bald man is just the same as any other man, only with a different “hairstyle”.
It is all one big mental shift. If I look at your profile pic, I see a good looking young man, not a “bald” man. “Hair doeth not maketh the man”. Personality, a sense of humour, confidence, values and manners make a man!
Live in the now, accept your new life style and you will see, it will all pan out for the good in the end...
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