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Facing your younger self

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wonderer:
Listen to Waine bro he is completely right and on the point (unlike me ) !No need to despair about hair ....when we are on hair topic I (for one)am allergic to hair therefore hair is EVIL she make me sick !

Beardman:
I must say I don't think I have honestly ever heard anyone say anything negative about my slyness (although I have a terrible memory problem). I have had several people ask me why, and 1 person whose interaction I would like to share with you all, because I think it is the closest thing I can think of to negativity I have had to deal with, and it honestly left me dumbfounded (I always like to have lots of prepared retorts, but this one genuinely got me).

So, Friday night I did my normal run into the supermarket to grab a snack to share with my local roleplaying group and bumped into an old friend from high school that I haven't seen in about a year or so. We still talk on Facebook every now and again and he had clearly seen the pics of the new sly me. After we had finished our greetings and pleasantries he lifted up the corner of my beanie (It is winter here, and was a pretty cold night) to check out my dome, and made a kind of shocked exclamation. Then ask when why I hadn't grown my hair back yet (or something along those lines). I was shocked. No one had ever said anything like that before to me... Then when I finally stumbled out with something along the lines of 'this is the way I like it now' he then made a retort about how it was time I shaved of my beard now... too which I told him, that wasn't ever going to happen at which point our respective friends had come back to obviously see what was up, and we said our good byes.

Other then that I have not had anything negative said about my sly new self, and even have my foreman buzz cutting his hair back to almost nothing again (he stopped because his partner doesn't like it short).

I personally have loved the new sly me ever since I took the plunge and have never looked back, not even once. I hated the old me! I've never admitted that before... but it's true. 20 months ago I looked like a fat, balding, old man, and at the age of 24 that is not a flattering look at all! but since going sly I feel like I have got my youthfulness back, and I actually like the look of myself, and am very happy with myself.

I hope you bring the new and old you together to form a whole again, and embrace the sly together. Don't let other peoples opinions get you down, I agree wholeheartedly with what the other brothers have said before me.

Razor X:
I'd also like to add that I totally understand what it is like to have insecurities about one's appearance. If I were ever to sit down and compile a list of things that I don't like about the way I look, the list would be an extensive one. But baldness is NOT one of the things that would be on the list. We have been conditioned to think that our hair is the most important aspect of our appearances. I am here to tell you that it is not. One day when you are a bit older, you will realize it. Until then, you'll jusr haveto take my word for it.   ;)

Andrei:
Welcome Peter!

I must state that I'm BBC and regarding my age I'm 26 too.
I can understand that it's a great difference between choosing and having to work with something, but it's not the end of the world.
When I started buzzing my hair (no guard) and later shaving, almost all of the people that knew me asked why I did that and, of course, my previous "style" was better.
I was kind of expecting the "Why" questions and a few comments, but I knew that I chose to shave and I'll keep doing it as long as I wish to: it's my choice.

Of course you could chose balding and not to shave, but will that make anything better? I think not. You just have to acknowledge that even if you're suffering from the MPB or just thinning, by shaving you took control and things no longer just happen to you.

kalbo:
Welcome to the bald brotherhood Peteman. We all go through some insecure phase in our life. What matters is that you know what you want. Stand by with what will bring you happiness.

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