Its not what folk wear but the interact with people with kindness and respect . You get soem right AHs in a suit but gentleman wearing braces jeans and boots . I m not afrad of anyone , treat all beings with respect and respect will be returned
I noticed a couple of days ago as I was hurrying around my capital city that the people seemed to move out of my way when I was coming towards them (Side note: As I am writing this "Get Wise" By The Deloreans, just started playing on shuffle... bit freaky... good song Mat ), but I prefer to notice the positive reactions, like the old guy that walked past me with either a couple of days growth or a zero buzz and gave me that knowing smile
I never an concerned about what people think about my sly look. If they are intimidated or think I am a thug or Nazi, that is their problem. I treat all people with respect and the way I would like to be treated...unless the disrespect me and then I can get a little nasty. If you are polite and nice to folks, they will see you are not a bad person. Funny how first impressions are usually so wrong. I love metal music and go to metal concerts where people can look very intimidating...these people are some of the nicest folks you will ever meet. So I guess what I am trying to say is folks shouldn't judge a book by its cover. Carry your self well, polite and smile, this will help in how people react to you. Be proud of being sly!
Quote from: TxTa2Guy on August 12, 2012, 05:42:46 PMI recently met a young guy who belongs to a group of which I am an old member. The young guy told me that he lives in the neighborhood in which I used to live and saw me almost every day when I walked my dog. I moved away about five years before this conversation, so the guy was about 15 when I moved. I asked where he lived and said that I didn't remember seeing him around then but that a lot of time had passed and that he had grown up and matured.He said, "yeah that is true. Did you know that you scared the sh*t out of everybody in the neighborhood?"I laughed my posterior off for a few minutes and then told him [cleaned up quite a bit, removing political and social epithets!] that I was an aging peacenick and that the folks in that neighborhood and I had little in common and that was why I moved!He said he understood, telling me (as I knew) that my tattoos were what frightened them. So I asked him how he thought they would like my new look, with a huge lion tattoo on the back of my shaved head. He said that some of them had seen me around since I moved and they were still afraid of me.So I told him, "I am glad to hear that. Now I know they won't all follow me to my new, liberal, tolerant neighborhood, wanting to live next to me!"LIFE IS GOOD!Haha, very interesting story! I really do like that head tattoo!
I recently met a young guy who belongs to a group of which I am an old member. The young guy told me that he lives in the neighborhood in which I used to live and saw me almost every day when I walked my dog. I moved away about five years before this conversation, so the guy was about 15 when I moved. I asked where he lived and said that I didn't remember seeing him around then but that a lot of time had passed and that he had grown up and matured.He said, "yeah that is true. Did you know that you scared the sh*t out of everybody in the neighborhood?"I laughed my posterior off for a few minutes and then told him [cleaned up quite a bit, removing political and social epithets!] that I was an aging peacenick and that the folks in that neighborhood and I had little in common and that was why I moved!He said he understood, telling me (as I knew) that my tattoos were what frightened them. So I asked him how he thought they would like my new look, with a huge lion tattoo on the back of my shaved head. He said that some of them had seen me around since I moved and they were still afraid of me.So I told him, "I am glad to hear that. Now I know they won't all follow me to my new, liberal, tolerant neighborhood, wanting to live next to me!"LIFE IS GOOD!
Smoothy,I feel for you. I once told that when you can see my tattoos and the combination of a bald head I could be intimidating. I havn't had that problem for a long long time. I agree with the guys just smile and shake it off. I think you look great sly. As for a new job. I just moved to Melboure, FL from CA and applied for a job at University of Central Florida I had my second interview last week and they have said that I am their top canidate. They sent my name to HR for approval. I hope to start work this week. Keep you head up and just be yourself. Everything will be just fine. Daniel
Well, I have had hair down between my shoulder blades, a smooth melon, and everything in between. I have multiple piercings, multiple tattoos, etc. I have a friend that I actually work for from time to time in his UPS Store when he needs help and he once told me that every time he sees me I look scarier and scarier but I'm the nicest person he's ever met. And I posted in another thread that at first glance at my appearance a nun gasped and crossed herself. I suppose my point here is that it doesn't seem to really matter what you look like because people are going to judge you based on their own prejudices and there isn't much you can do about it. Once anyone takes the time to get to know me they realize very quickly that I'm an intelligent individual and I'm very kind, polite, and even funny. For those that don't take the time to get to know me . . . their loss. Own your look and your personal power and walk with your chin up and a smile that'll knock em dead!
A smile, politeness and a little small talk goes a long way. As does the clothing you wear. I find myself dressing "up" a little more than I used to - a polo or button down shirt rather than a t-shirt, etc... In the professional arena, I tend to wear a jacket / blazer or suit a little more often than I used to. The reality is that there are people out there that will perceive your shaved head as an aggressive statement because of something that they have seen or experienced in their past. This is not your issue. I was self-conscious about the possibility of my shaved head causing others to mis-perceive me for about my first week or two - then those thoughts vanished and I simply don't think about it anymore. Bald heads have gone almost mainstream now - still a little different, but certainly not associated with the stigma of racism / neo-nazi stuff anymore in my opinion. (of course, that may vary depending on the part of the world you are living in). I am seeing many more shaved heads on the owners / key managers of businesses these days as well (those are the people whom you will be approaching for jobs - so that should give you confidence!).Congrats Daniel!
Quote from: Smoothy on August 02, 2012, 02:29:01 PM but I could never stick with it due to that self-conscious feeling I get when people spectate.What makes you think people are spectating ?I assume that people are less interested in my appearance than I think. Otherwise, I'd be flattering myself. And self praise is no praise.Just enjoy being bald
but I could never stick with it due to that self-conscious feeling I get when people spectate.
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