Need your opinion

[Stan K]

Hey guys,

I'm on the fence of shaving/buzzing my head because MPB hit me hard in the last few years. I had a buzz cut in my youth and early 20s and was fine with it, but I was more into bodybuilding back then and went from 205 to 150 lately. Also, I have a quite bony face with high cheekbones and very little fat (I look normal to other people when my bf% is too high, actually) to begin with.

When I buzzed my hair short for some time last year, the reactions of my female friends were horrible. All said I should go for a longer hair cut. Maybe my buzz cut was too long back then, which might have made the MPB more obvious. My male friends seemed to like it, they said I looked younger.

What do you guys say? This is an actual pic with already short hair, but not the whole nine yards, of course. I never was too self-conscious about my looks, but the female reactions last year shocked me a bit.

Thanks,
Stanley

[waine]

Hello and welcome Stan

Yes, sometimes a buzz cut (no 1 or less) can actually make the MPB look worse, as you say.

The only way to find out if this is for you is to try going completely bald and then seeing how it looks on you.  Take up the 30 day challenge by keeping it bald for 30 days to give yourself and those around you a chance to get used to it.

I too had many fears, "My ears stick out too much, my head is too big, I will look like a convict", and, and, and...I just did it and I was surprised at how accepting people were, and how much I loved it.  Now I am Sly for life...

Unfortunately there is no "easy" way to embrace the Sly look, except by taking the plunge, and very importantly, not caring about people’s comments.  It is not as bad as you think, as most people don’t really give a damn.  Many just mention it as a conversation piece, rather than to be critical. You will soon get a feel if this is for you.

As regards the “girls” thing, your personal hygiene, attitude, level of self confidence and the way you carry yourself are far more important to a girl than how much hair you have or have not got, trust me.

[Stan K]

Hey Waine,

thanks for the reply and the warm welcome!

As regards the “girls” thing, your personal hygiene, attitude, level of self confidence and the way you carry yourself are far more important to a girl than how much hair you have or have not got, trust me.

That what I was thinking all of my life, and when I recognized there isn't enough hair to style for a hairstyle anymore, I just buzzed it off without a second thought. It was just that the reactions were so horrible back then that I started thinking about it. One girl that nagged me back then asked me out at that time though, so "horrible" might have another meaning to a woman...but what do I know.

[Frontier Guy]

Welcome Stan,

I second all that waine wrote.

Girls who knew you "with hair" may react oddly to a shaved head - some are really attracted, others not. I think it's important to recognize that you want someone who is attracted to the "real" you. What will happen if you get serious with someone and later have no hair due to natural causes? Take control of the issue now.

More importantly, though, is that girls who don't currently know you will not have a "past image" to compare with and will accept you for your magnificent, slick dome. And that is the "real you."

If I were in your position I would simply go straight to Sly and make a clean break with hair issues. You will discover a depth of confidence you never knew you had. The freedom from obsessing over hair is something which can only be experienced.

Keep us posted on how it goes. Ask questions. Contribute to others' posts. This is a community in the truest sense. Support, encouragement, (international) friendships, and laughter.

[Free at Last]

I Totaly Agree!
Dont waste another minuite
I was always afraid to shave my head.
Im half way through the 30 day program myself
Two days ago this very attractive women
Whom Ive known but was never friends with ask me out to dinner
She never even said one word about my head and I even got a hug and kiss
I cant go beacause I have girlfriend but I NE VER seen girls liking me with a shaved head
Some women love the look and some women wont.... so what.....NEXT
Make a commitment and go back to the gym!
You should be more concerned  about your 150 pound weight...... now theres a problem.

[Stan K]

Thanks guys, highly appreciated!

Make a commitment and go back to the gym!
You should be more concerned  about your 150 pound weight...... now theres a problem.

Oh, I'm still hitting the gym hard - but I'm also more into combat sports the last few years, and with all that I just couldn't maintain that muscle mass I built up in the past. I'm sidelined completely with a AC separation at the moment though, so I guess I'll get more meat on my bones anyway.

[Sir Harry]

Welcome Stan! I really can't add on to the wise words that Waine, Free at Last and Frontier Guy wrote, but what I will tell you is that this is a cool forum that welcomes everyone with open arms....I will say that you only live once....give it a try for 30 days and if YOU don't like it, you can always grow it back! Good Luck!

[warhawk]

Hi Stan:  1st of all welcome to the sly fraternity.  Glad that ya joined us.  The sly brothers have given U some great advice.  Keep us posted on your road 2 slyness.  U are gonna love it when you are ready.

WARHAWK

[waine]

Stan, "Free at last" is a classic example of a guy gone Sly, who had similar fears.  All he has had since going Sly is a "newfound confidence" and positive remarks from the fairer sex.  We literally watched him transform here and it is so encouraging to us and to others fence sitters.

Its awesome that you are sharing your experience Free at Last.  You can help people with your positive outlook.

[Mikekoz13]

Hi Stan! Welcome to the Forum!

I think you would look great shaved. A bald, confident man that strides into the room with his head up will attract all the women he can handle. Do not worry about the words of a few.

[D.A.L.U.I.]

Welcome, the guys have given you the right path. 

And, never forget, you can do this, you can be in charge.  Or, the only other alternative is let Mother Nature continue to do it her way--but, she's pretty messy and leaves a fringe, horseshoe or whatever you want to call it.  It is a certainty no babe is going to say your fringe turns her on, take that to the bank.

[tomgallagher]

It's sort of like skydiving. After that first step you wonder why you didn't do it sooner. That first step does take some balls though.Welcome to the group.

[baldjoeg]

You got some great advice here. Welcome to the forum.

[mangosink12572]

I think you would  look great with a shaved head  - - -and you will look YOUNGER - - -

[Stan K]

Ha, you guys are great! I'm on vacation in August and will give sly a try! Can't wait!