Stupid comments from parents

[mahaw90]

Your 20 year old, you are old enough to make your own decisions. Tell them it's who you are and that they should accept you as you are. I had the same issue and eventually they stopped going on as they could see I was happy.

[calbito]

  ... I told him that  hairstyles don't change personalities...

LOL!  Boy does that sound familiar to those of us who grew up in the 1960's!    Seems we never learn.

[vsG734]

I'm ever confused about my life, and my damn head. It's not my seeing past it that's the problem, it's other people. It's so confusing to me too. I get stared at, humiliated, joked about- then when I act as if I am really friggin' ugly because of that people wonder what my problem is. It's a lose-lose, and it's enough to drive the most stable person a bit nuts.

Two really important people at the company I work for are bald. I'm tired of pre-conceived notions that just because your damn hair falls out, you have no place in the workforce. If anything, someone who slaves and stresses at the job is bound to lose hair, so I would argue the opposite side. To me it's a sign of intelligence, but that would stretch the stereotype the other direction, wouldn't it?

Can't people just be f****** people? I mean, I don't make fun of people who have one limb, are blind, in wheelchairs, or have health problems. You know the dumbest thing I read on here so far is someone that asked if they were allowed to live in a certain apartment complex because they had no hair. It's HAIR. If you LET PEOPLE CONTROL YOU, THEY WILL. And even me, not wanting to be controlled- I get controlled. Too many people need to f*** off, I'm sorry.

Just because my hair fell out doesn't render me sad. It's other miserable people that make me sad. I am not sad to begin with, but now angry- at most people. Anybody that says some stupid discriminatory BS stigma does not exist out there is lying to themself and others on this site. I just get so sick and tired of being run. Swear to God if I had it back I would be BBC, and then just because I had a shadow people would give me slight respect instead of looking down on me because my body decided to rid itself of the hair on top of my head.

I'm allowed to like whatever type of music I want. I'm allowed to drive whatever I want. I'm allowed to take up whatever profession I want and be better than people at it. I'm allowed to watch what I want. I'm allowed to think things are pretty or ugly. I'm allowed to not be ugly, feel ugly, feel inferior. I'm a F****** PERSON.

[waine]

That’s the Spirit VSG.

I have read about “toxic” parents and learned myself how the comments of parents can adversely affect their children.  Comments by parents about appearance or intellect can make or break a child.  As a parent myself, I must constantly guard my words when it comes to commenting on their looks.

“Sticks and stones will break your bones, but words will definitely hurt, destroy, even kill you.”

It is only people like you and I who can change the wrong viewpoints of others about such a simple thing – shaving your head bald!  Sometimes I want to shake people by their collars and tell them that it is only “hair” for heaven’s sake!

[wonderer]

I have just one parent(my mom )since my dad died from brain stroke back in 2004 and i am child from divorced parents for me she is more than supportive -your parents will love no matter what i am more then sure- i wish I wasn't such a good child 'couse life isn't kind it is more like place where you must stand by your self and your decisions and learn on other peoples mistakes believe me it is easier  ....p.s. administrator thanks for spell checker 

[waine]

On the topic of comments by parents, I sometimes watch in horror at the comments directed at children.

Words like, “Hey, don’t be so stupid”, or “Use your brain not your arse hole”, or regarding girlfriends, “You can do much better than that”, are so destructive for budding children.  I can only imagine how hurt a youngster may feel if he is suffering from hair loss and a parent tells him that his shaven head looks ugly or criminal or like a “druggy.”

Parents must learn to choose their words very carefully as they have far reaching affects.

@Wonderer, I think everyone should learn to do a spell check before posting, us baldies don’t want to look like we cannot spell...

[wonderer]

Waine -who is bald  ....me ...no man it is just my hair is now growing from inside to fill the place where my brain used to be 

[waine]

LOL wonderer...

[Frontier Guy]

Parents must learn to choose their words very carefully as they have far reaching affects.

Sadly, these same parents have no idea what they are doing to their children, who are destined to repeat the behaviors unless they become enlightened about human development.

Tragically, it's unlikely they will find that in video games or on FaceBook where they now spend most of their social interaction time.

[Slyfive]

Tragically, it's unlikely they will find that in video games or on FaceBook where they now spend most of their social interaction time.

I completely concur, it's almost as if people refuse to life their actual lives anymore.