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Foster Parenting by SlyBaldDude on 17 May, 2012 13:14
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I am a foster parent. Our foster kid has been granted permanent foster care thru the courts. His mother has lost her parental rights so far as I know. Now she has taken to stalking. I think just to irritate me. She seems to be around all the time. She doesnt talk to me, she is just THERE. At the store .. near my work .. winking and smiling. My Bald Brethren .. Any suggestions?
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#1 by buddha on 17 May, 2012 14:51
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You could try to get a restraining order. I'm not sure if she would be subject to civil or criminal penalties if she violates the order but at least you get some things on paper. Maybe talk to the local PD and see if they can do anything for you but I'm thinking they won't touch her unless she's on paper.
Restraining orders are usually written by private attorneys and are civil documents. There might be something that the State's Attorney could do for you but you would have to speak with them. If they have a remedy a violation would be criminal in nature. Don't forget to bring all the foster paperwork with you to show them.
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#2 by Lynchy on 17 May, 2012 15:06
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I am a foster parent. Our foster kid has been granted permanent foster care thru the courts. His mother has lost her parental rights so far as I know. Now she has taken to stalking. I think just to irritate me. She seems to be around all the time. She doesnt talk to me, she is just THERE. At the store .. near my work .. winking and smiling. My Bald Brethren .. Any suggestions?
Sorry to hear.......sounds awful!
Sorry I can't provide any advice as my approach to protecting my family is a little more
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#3 by Mikekoz13 on 17 May, 2012 20:04
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Dude.... I grew up in a very tough part of Baltimore City...... there are always ways to deal with people like this "offline".
Catch her alone, make sure she doesn't have a phone turned on to record you, and then quietly tell her what the consequences will be for her if she doesn't stop immediately. -
#4 by Lynchy on 18 May, 2012 02:53
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Dude.... I grew up in a very tough part of Baltimore City...... there are always ways to deal with people like this "offline".
Catch her alone, make sure she doesn't have a phone turned on to record you, and then quietly tell her what the consequences will be for her if she doesn't stop immediately.
That's more what I was thinking TBH -
#5 by Natedawg on 18 May, 2012 08:07
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Dude.... I grew up in a very tough part of Baltimore City...... there are always ways to deal with people like this "offline".
Catch her alone, make sure she doesn't have a phone turned on to record you, and then quietly tell her what the consequences will be for her if she doesn't stop immediately.
That's more what I was thinking TBH
I third this, or something along these lines. She needs to know that doing this to you and your foster child is not going to fly for any reason. Otherwise, it's unlikely she'll stop anytime soon.
I'm sure you can find a way to get that point across without actually causing extra trouble. You don't want to give her the chance to step up her game. I don't know if the the law will be much actual help if she's just stalking without being threatening... unfortunately. Nothing wrong with trying it, of course, if the above method is not the way you want to go. Best of luck, amigo. -
#6 by Slyfive on 18 May, 2012 14:33
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She has obviously been denied parental rights for a reason and would most likely feel guilty for it, find out what the reason is and politely make sure she feels accountable, and highlight that you are the one raising her child. Her own guilt of failure would possibly be more effective, and less legally troubling than threat based fear.
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#7 by Lynchy on 18 May, 2012 21:36
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She has obviously been denied parental rights for a reason and would most likely feel guilty for it, find out what the reason is and politely make sure she feels accountable, and highlight that you are the one raising her child. Her own guilt of failure would possibly be more effective, and less legally troubling than threat based fear.
Definitely true, mind ninja should be your second option after speaking with authorities.
All depends how far it's getting, if somone was stalking my family, I'd probably skip that step and go straight to fight or flight.
Ps I'm really not a confrontational or violent person, but ever since my daughter was born(she is one tomorrow) just thinking about someone hurting the family gets me mad
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#8 by Sir Harry on 19 May, 2012 02:35
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+1.....Happy birthday to your daughter tomorrow!She has obviously been denied parental rights for a reason and would most likely feel guilty for it, find out what the reason is and politely make sure she feels accountable, and highlight that you are the one raising her child. Her own guilt of failure would possibly be more effective, and less legally troubling than threat based fear.
Definitely true, mind ninja should be your second option after speaking with authorities.
All depends how far it's getting, if somone was stalking my family, I'd probably skip that step and go straight to fight or flight.
Ps I'm really not a confrontational or violent person, but ever since my daughter was born(she is one tomorrow) just thinking about someone hurting the family gets me mad -
#9 by Lynchy on 19 May, 2012 02:38
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+1.....Happy birthday to your daughter tomorrow!She has obviously been denied parental rights for a reason and would most likely feel guilty for it, find out what the reason is and politely make sure she feels accountable, and highlight that you are the one raising her child. Her own guilt of failure would possibly be more effective, and less legally troubling than threat based fear.
Definitely true, mind ninja should be your second option after speaking with authorities.
All depends how far it's getting, if somone was stalking my family, I'd probably skip that step and go straight to fight or flight.
Ps I'm really not a confrontational or violent person, but ever since my daughter was born(she is one tomorrow) just thinking about someone hurting the family gets me mad
Thanks Sir