New Comer - I need your help :( Please?

• New Comer - I need your help :( Please? by RMegonnell on 27 Jun, 2011 05:04
• I just turned 17, a few months ago. And, I am now a junior. My freshman year, I had really nice hair. I was what you would call a pretty boy. Then, came summer, and I shaved my head. And, my hair really didn't grow back to the way, when I cut it. You know the old saying, don't worry it will grow back? Yeah. Not always true. It did grow back, but my hair like had receded bad. And, my mom has thin hair, and, my dad is bald. I do not know when my dad started to lose his hair, because I have not seen him since I was three, but I have seen pictures. (How I know he has went bald.) Back to my story, my whole freshman year, I hung around the a lot of the hotter girls. And, I had found myself a girlfriend, after the summer. My sophomore year, I stopped hanging around those girls, and I started hanging around my guy friends, and I started noticing my hair loss more, and more.
  
  I soon lost most of my freshman year confidence, I had. And, I then lost my girlfriend. She told me she didn't feel the same about me. Which really hurt, because I knew it wasn't the fact I was going bald. It was the fact, I couldn't accept the fact that I was.(During the period of time when I shaved my hair, she was still with me.) She feel in love with me, when I didn't really care, what people thought. And, I was super out going.
  
  Now, that I am going bald, I have little confidence, and I am not very out going. I seem to be very grumpy, and I don't like to go outside as much. :/ I took one of my friends to florida, over spring break. And, we had fun, but every time I would be joking around with him, he would pull the "And, you have no hair." Or "Your going bald." line. I told him to not say it, but he continued to do it. So, after spring break, I had him in one of my classes, and we sat by each other, and I sat down, and he was wearing this really fruity shirt. And,  I was like nice shirt. He was like, Thats cool. You have no hair? I was like really? Is that all you can say? You have said that over, and over. Its pretty old. He was like I don't need to say more, your bald. I had a bottle of water, and I poured it on him. We got sent to the principals office, and blah blah blah. Then came lunch, we had a group, who all sat at a table, and we kind of split up for the time, and I told one of my friends, who was by me. Why we weren't sitting by him. ( The kid I poured the water on.) He sat there, and pointed, and laughed. I told him to stop, he continued. So, the kid thought I was talking s*** and, yelled, YOUR GOING BALD! At me during lunch, so I got up, and said, you really want to play that game? Really? (He is 6'6, and I'm 6'0 by the way) And, I went behind him, and I put him in a choke hold, and picked him up and smashed his head on the ground, and kept punching him, then he kicked me, and we started punching each other blah blah. And, got suspended.
  
  As you can see, just like anyone who is going bald at first, I am very insecure about this subject. When,I had "perfect" hair, everyone was shocked when I shaved it. People, who I never talked to, said to me. Ryan?! You shaved your hair?? Etc. That whole first day at school, was just people saying things to me like that. Then, my friends would call me Mr. Clean. Which I thought was kinda funny, lol. But, now that I am going bald, and it is really showing, I get crap from A**Holes all the time, and its super annoying.
  
  What, I am trying to get at here is that should I shaved my hair? I really do not know. I have been told by stylist, that the way my head is, I can pull off bald/shaved hair. The problem is, that I really do not care if I shave it. The problem is from kids at school saying things. Its not that I snap every time someone says something to me about going bald, the only reason  I got into a fight with my friend is because he did it NONE stop for a week. And, I took him to Florida?! WTF? lol. But, what I was trying to say is, no matter how proud you can be, about having a shaved head. It cant amount to the aggravation, hundreds of people saying things to you about it. Mostly negative.
  
  Remember, I am going into my Junior year of high school... :/ I have looked up on google. In high school going bald, and all the posts I read are, Are you sure your going bald? Etc.
  
  I just need some help. Thank you :/ (Sorry, about the whole life story above, but I just needed to get across about how bad this is affecting me.)
• #1 by Razor X on 27 Jun, 2011 20:30
• Quote from: RMegonnell on 27 Jun, 2011 05:04

  
  What, I am trying to get at here is that should I shaved my hair? I really do not know. I have been told by stylist, that the way my head is, I can pull off bald/shaved hair. The problem is, that I really do not care if I shave it. The problem is from kids at school saying things. Its not that I snap every time someone says something to me about going bald, the only reason  I got into a fight with my friend is because he did it NONE stop for a week. And, I took him to Florida?! WTF? lol. But, what I was trying to say is, no matter how proud you can be, about having a shaved head. It cant amount to the aggravation, hundreds of people saying things to you about it. Mostly negative.
  
  

  
  Don't worry so much about what other people think or say.  You'll get a few negative comments now and then, but you'll receive far more positive feedback than you can imagine.  And the ones who do make negative comments -- once they've gotten it out of the way -- don't tend to keep making them.  Just don't let anyone know that it bothers you.
• #2 by RMegonnell on 27 Jun, 2011 21:10
• I was thinking about it, kinda like that. If I shave it now, by the time I am a Senior, no one will really say anything. Because, they will have gotten use to it.
• #3 by Stevo on 27 Jun, 2011 21:32
• I know this is easier said by a 31 year old than done by a 17 year old, but I think that these kids will dog you no matter what you do, so it's time to do what you want to do.  It's like the oft quoted line from Shakespeare: "To thine own self be true".  If you feel that shaving your head will make you walk a little taller, speak a little louder, and be more confident overall, then it's time.
• #4 by Jason66 on 28 Jun, 2011 14:43
• There's no way around it... If you have MPB... that's it... I know it's kinda young, So I would just ask your Dr about it on your next visit just to make sure. In the interim.., since you're so young, a shaved or a #0 buz look would look good.
  
  People will find (say) what ever they think will get under your skin. If not your hair, he would have found something else. Now if it didn't bother you, (or you can play it off) they'll jump off that subject. So work on that... Also work on come backs for it... " yeah, I know I'm bald... I lost one for every time I tapped your ....."  believe me, there's 1000 things you can say.. And I have lol...
  
  BUT you are in HS and DON"T want to be getting into fights and suspended over stupid stuff like this... There are people born with REAL disabilities that wish the only problem they had was the lack of hair. I wish I was 6ft tall... Don't let it drive you crazy... work with what you got... and you'll be fine... 
• #5 by tapi263 on 28 Jun, 2011 18:39
• heey man post some pics. i cant imagine how difficult it is going bald at 17. i got bald at 22, so it was not so bad. just be confident. or maybe get on medication until you are older.
• #6 by Daven on 28 Jun, 2011 19:47
• I agree with Tap, if we could se a pic maybe we could give better advice, maybe would be especially good if you could do a before and after shot.
  
  If you just try to have confidence in yourself, others would see it and be fine.  You WILL find a girl one day.  Chick's love bald guy's. AND she won't be superficial.
• #7 by BriansSlyIn(716) on 28 Jun, 2011 21:01
• Daven is right,Women love bald guys!Even though I myself like men,I have been getting checked out and even hit on by lots of women since I went sly and that did not happen to me as often when I had my thin hair......If the person you are dating is so superficial that she can't deal with your baldness then they are not a good match for ya any damn way!
• #8 by RMegonnell on 29 Jun, 2011 20:13
• I will post pictures tomorrow!