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My partner hates the new sly me. by cholifoli on 23 Apr, 2011 17:58
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Hey guys. I just had a difficult discussion with my partner of 5 years. He told me he doesn't like me being bald. I had lost my hair 3 years ago due to chemotherapy, and he says it brings back "bad memories". I never looked at it that way myself, I love the sly look. I'm destined for baldness with my genetics anyway, so I don't see a problem with getting a jump start on it. Besides that, it makes me feel good.
I guess I am asking if anyone else has experienced issues with their significant others down right hating the sly look, and if so any suggestions on how to help the situation? Thanks allot guys! -
#1 by Mikekoz13 on 23 Apr, 2011 18:07
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If he loves you he will respect your feelings about how good this makes you feel. It sounds like a good heart to heart discussion about how good this makes you feel and how it helps you get past those bad days is all that's needed.
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#2 by TheSlyBear on 23 Apr, 2011 18:16
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My partner prefers me buzzed rather than sly. But once I explained to him how good it makes me feel, he completely dropped the subject and lets me do what makes me happy.
He knows I do the same for him. -
#3 by cholifoli on 23 Apr, 2011 18:18
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I appreciate the response. I feel that I have put that behind me, he should too. I have other permanent damage from the cancer that I have lived with everyday and grown to accept, this is a choice which makes it that much better. I am going to apply the 30 day rule, but for him. I've had no one ask me if I am sick again, everyone other than him loves it. My best friend has nothing but good things to say. Hell, she cannot stop rubbing my head lol.
I am hoping he will grow to accept it. He has a mowhawk like that UFC fighter, I didn't really like it at first but I love him and his physical appearance is NOT what I fell in love with. So I didn't say I didn't like his hair cut, and after a few day I ended up liking it. -
#4 by cholifoli on 23 Apr, 2011 18:22
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My partner prefers me buzzed rather than sly. But once I explained to him how good it makes me feel, he completely dropped the subject and lets me do what makes me happy.
He knows I do the same for him.
Good to hear. I am going to continue being sly, the confidence I feel since I took the plunge is something I cannot give up. I appreciate your reply
. It is good to know you guys are out here willing to help thanks again!
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#5 by Seraphim on 23 Apr, 2011 18:23
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My wife isn't a fan of the sly look..but after about a month of it...she at least likes how it feels. ^-^I can deal with that. She doesn't say much about it now because for one, it clears up my psoriasis, and two because it makes me happy. She's a good one.
Give him some time, and tel him how you feel...like above, a heart to heart is in order.
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#6 by D.A.L.U.I. on 23 Apr, 2011 18:28
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My wife isn't a fan either, but she lets it be. Relationships absolutely have to be a two way street, and the guy that lives with it 24/7 breaks any tie vote.
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#7 by twhitman on 23 Apr, 2011 18:48
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You take him for the mohawk & respect his hair style decisions.....he should do the same for you. Besides you look really good bald
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#8 by RyanJP on 23 Apr, 2011 19:28
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You can't live for other people, do what makes you feel good about yourself and everything will fall in place and take the right course.
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#9 by cholifoli on 23 Apr, 2011 20:18
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Thanks allot guys, I really appreciate the encouragement. I'll be giving it a little time, as well as a heart to heart. I am hoping with a little time to get used to it, he will come around. I appreciate the compliment as well. I am very happy I stumbled upon this site.
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#10 by theebaldguy on 23 Apr, 2011 20:46
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You can't live for other people, do what makes you feel good about yourself and everything will fall in place and take the right course.
^This^ -
#11 by jimbo48 on 24 Apr, 2011 20:16
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Four months ago, I went from a short buzz to completely sly. I love the look and feel of my bald head, but my wife hates it. After four months, her negative comments have finally stopped. Let's hope she is getting used to the new me.
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#12 by cholifoli on 24 Apr, 2011 20:35
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Four months ago, I went from a short buzz to completely sly. I love the look and feel of my bald head, but my wife hates it. After four months, her negative comments have finally stopped. Let's hope she is getting used to the new me.
I've been thinking allot about it, and like saintc said the guy that deals with it 24/7 has the vote. As I said before, being sly makes me feel good. The confidence and self esteem boost it has given me is showing through. I cannot count how many positive comments I have received not only about my new look, but that I seem to be more confident and even more approachable. I honestly feel like this is the "real me", I do not spend time worrying about my hair anymore, I can just let the real me come out. One of my friends said no to the look, but the personality change she is seeing makes her like it. It is hard being in a relationship/marriage when the other person has a problem with how you look. I feel that appearance is the last thing that matters when you are in love with someone. Here is to hoping that they come around. Again, thank you guys for the replies. It has been a tremendous help. -
#13 by SlyBaldDude on 29 Apr, 2011 16:34
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My wife doesn't really like it but it makes me happy so she is fine with it. In a perfect world she says I would have hair. I told her in a perfect world I would weigh 180 have ripped abs and look 25 .. but it aint a perfect world. She can at least be content with the fact that I have a perfectly round blemish-free scalp (most days) to show the world .. Lol!
I remember when I first went sly people at church were flabbergasted! Some time went by and I grew my hair back. That next sunday I had several people tell me I looked better bald. I think people don't know what they like. Its your head! If bald makes you feel good about yourself .. then be bald by bald brother! -
#14 by lordmage on 01 May, 2011 05:20
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My wife isn't a fan of the sly look..but after about a month of it...she at least likes how it feels. ^-^I can deal with that. She doesn't say much about it now because for one, it clears up my psoriasis, and two because it makes me happy. She's a good one.
amen same here... Give him some time, and tel him how you feel...like above, a heart to heart is in order.