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Yet another? by Dilettante on 20 Apr, 2011 13:50
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Hey everybody
I'm 19, three months from being 20. I don't have androgenic alopecia, but a kind of a nastier form- which kinda seems uglier, doctors haven't given an answer (my front hair simply won't grow, and since I-m light blond- looking at my hair, I might as well be a grandfather). Hair started falling out when I was in the 7th grade I think, and this whole process has tortured me ever since. And to think- only 5 years ago I had superb hair- all the girls had just started to !@£ adore me, but I don't feel like young sometimes. !@£ curse. Anyway I'm not bald yet but I don't wanna shave everything and spend the rest of my time being bald and only being able to see my hair from photoalbums. I have seen yet 1 person in my life as long as I can remember with a hair situation as bad as mine and I have met really a lot of young and old people, so I kinda feel alone (tho I have really good friends). Such a dilemma. Dunno what to do.
Sorry, since I don't wanna distress my mum, this kinda bursted out and I can't keep from pitying myself. -
#1 by Argyle on 20 Apr, 2011 14:13
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Hi Dilettante,
Welcome to the forum. Firstly the main thing that people will tell you is that at the end of the day it is only hair and if it is going then there is nothing you can do about it. Whatever you do, dont do what I did and spend years worrying about it, you will never get this time back.
As you progress into your 20's you will notice more and more bald men. You will also notice that most of these men have no problem finding a wife or partner. In fact if you can crack your confidence then in fact I genuinely believe you will be more attractive bald and confident than you will be hairy and lacking in confidence.
You have to work through this, but you can guarantee that the guys on this site will be there for you. -
#2 by Chromeo on 20 Apr, 2011 14:45
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Welcome! Not sure what to tell you about your dilemma? I would have been mortified with your situation at 19 and would have just had to live with it. I would have NEVER thought of shaving my head at that age, back in the early 80's when long hair ruled. Back in those days, at least around here, you very rarely saw any guy with the SLY look. Although I had longer hair, I always wanted to try a flattop, another cut that was rare to find on young guys but I would see an older guy every once in a while that had one.
Well, in 1986, flattops made a huge come back in this area and I was excited but the thought of getting one made me so nervous I would shake just thinking about it. Finally, one day at work, I decided that if my boss asked me if I wanted to leave early, due to lack of business, I would head straight to the barbershop and get a flattop. Well, you can guess what happened and I was very nervous about it and went through with it. I lost a good 3 inches of hair that day but I will never regret it! My point is that it was fashionable so I went for it. Sure, it was a shock to a lot of people and I felt uncomfortable for a few days afterwards.
So skip forward to today. Around here, I see a few flattops here and there on guys from every age, but I see a lot more SLY guys of every age. A SLY dome is fashionable with all ages. I am in no way trying to persuade you to shave your head, just giving you something to think about. I wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.
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#3 by Papa Don on 20 Apr, 2011 17:26
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Welcome to the forum A. Stick around and we will do all we can to help you through this bad ordeal. As perviously stated, it's only hair. Things could be a lot worse. I know I can say this and you can say "How would you know? This is true. I don't know your situation. A worse case was when I got prostrate cancer at an early age. I was married to a wonderful woman and I felt terrible that I couldn't perform for us. Thank God she stuck by me for the remaining 10 years of her life. I would have given anything if I had not to have had this happen to me. I not crying about it, but I really would have liked to have had more children. Sometimes life sucks but we must keep going. Hang in there Buddy, the family and friends still love you.
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#4 by Arnie on 21 Apr, 2011 08:47
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Welcome to SBGs!!!
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#5 by Mikekoz13 on 21 Apr, 2011 09:13
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Welcome to the Forum!
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#6 by The Noggin on 23 Apr, 2011 13:33
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Welcome!
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#7 by theebaldguy on 23 Apr, 2011 14:47
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Welcome!
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#8 by wpruitt on 25 Apr, 2011 19:11
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Welcome Dilettante. Take the bull by the horns
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#9 by ozzie on 26 Apr, 2011 00:11
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Welcome to the forum Dilettante. The guys have given you some great advice.
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#10 by baldjoeg on 26 Apr, 2011 17:52
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WElcome to Sly Bald Guys. The other guys have given you some great advice. Hang in there.
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#11 by Tyler on 26 Apr, 2011 23:39
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Welcome to SBG! We're here to help you. Like Argyle said, it's best to start dealing with it and not delaying the process.
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#12 by Jimlog on 27 Apr, 2011 06:29
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Welcome to the forum. Its a great place for advice and support.
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#13 by BriansSlyIn(716) on 07 May, 2011 16:00
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HEY DILETTANTE, WELCOME to the gruop!I can very definitely sympathize with being down about hairloss.You are definitely not alone.For me going sly was a great relief and a feeling of liberation.I haven't stopped smiling since I did it!Hope you are able to work this out for yourself in a positive way.We are here for you!Best of luck kiddo!
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#14 by Arty Chris on 25 May, 2011 18:10
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Hi!
Welcome to Sly Bald Guys!
As above, I'm not going to try to persuade you to shave your hair... but here's something else to consider... (and I can't take any credit for this idea, someone with a far better sense of style than myself came up with it!)
You said that you were starting to get a fair bit of attention from the ladies with your hair before this happened... so... balding is something that just happens. Bald is a choice. A strong one at that. And it seems that women like men who are strong and can make decisions... this is a fine way to demonstrate that without uttering a single word!
Look around, how many bald guys have beautiful girlfriends?
Just a thought...
I guess the other thing that seems important to me is that you don't have to rush into anything... do what is right for you! (But there are many people on here who say I wish I'd shaved it off sooner....!)
Anyway, it's truly good to have you here... and really, the guys here are so supportive and helpful! You've found a great place to be!
Chris