How can I get past this?

[BaldHope]

I've been shaving my head for a while now, but the problem is this hasn't brought peace to my problem. All I want is to be just like you guys and just accept that my hair is gone. The problem is that when I look at what I used to look like and what I look like now, I dont know I just get depressed. I'm only 18 so its just hard, most girls glance over me without ever a passing glance. You know I honestly think it wouldnt be that bad if I looked goood bald, but the problem is I simply don't, and other people have told me I dont to. Some people tell me I like good, but I don't know if this is more sympathy than anything. I think I look good from the front bald I really do I'm told I have a handsome face... the problem is my head seems to stretch far back, it was always kind of a problem when I had hair but its even worse bald. That and my long face makes the whole picture just look wierd (face in one corner 3/4 of huge bald stretch limo head.) I wonder sometimes if all this is in my head, but than I look at pictures of me bald and think no its not just in your head. I try so so so hard to quit the constant onslaught of pity and negative comments in my head. I tell myself all the time you look good, its just hair, just keep your mind off of it and you will start to not care so much anymore. Only to an hour later be thinking man if only I had hair life would be so much better. I just want to honestly stop thinking like this because its only negatively effecting me and no matter how much I want it back my hair is gone for life. It would be better if I could just accept this and move on but you have to admit that when you go from looking good to looking ugly.. I dont know you guys seem like you've got it all together, any advice would help. Sorry I can't post a picture don't really have a way to upload one.

[Mikekoz13]

Welcome to the Forum.

Dude...... you are so young to feel this way. You need to look at yourself in the mirror and realize that each and every one of has something special inside of us. It's your job to find it, grasp it, and be happy with who you are. When you feel good about yourself the whole world will be yours to conquer.
It was only hair.

I'm going to give you the same advice I gave a "woe is me" Friend earlier this week.

Watch the new BBC series "Human Planet". It shows the daily struggles of how people all over the world, in all types of societies, struggle just to eat everyday. The is a beautifully filmed, riveting must see. In my opinion, EVERY American or person that is fortunate should HAVE to watch this.
Imagine a 10 year old boy holding 1000 monkeys at bay every day for 6 months so the monkeys don't steal the village's grain.... with nothing more than a sling.
That's something worth worrying about my Friend... not the fact that you've lost your hair. I realize that it's a struggle for you but like so many things in life.... the things we struggle with are often just a matter of perspective. You just need to adjust your perspective a bit.

PM me if you would like to chat.