I will say that at first I did not shave my head against the grain either. When I first stared shaving my face I would go with the grain on my face then on my neck against the grain and after a while I had to stop going against the grain on my neck and was able to go against the grain on my face. I have to say I think it took me a week or two to start going against the grain but I would not have it any other way. It gets super smooth and I have not had any problems with ingrown hairs so maybe you should try it but that is up to you.
Jack, it's been great to read your posts today. I never went the hairpiece route but I can imagine how fantastic it must have felt to toss it today. Great idea to ditch it and look forward instead of back. As a relatively new - almost 6 months now - headshaver myself, I salute you for taking the risk and getting a whole new outlook on appearances. Enjoy it man, it's a great feeling!
Jack, first off, welcome and congrats on your decision.As a teacher, I think your choice to ditch the rug can set as an example to your students.Be comfortable in your own skin (literally), be proud of who you are, and if people are unaccepting of your appearance (which is BS), it's their loss, not yours.Rock On!Schro
"Why on earth would you do that to yourself? Did you lose your mind?" how can you really respond?"
Quote"Why on earth would you do that to yourself? Did you lose your mind?" how can you really respond?"I would respond with...."No I lost my mind when I spent tons of money on some fake hair to pretend I'm something I'm not."A lot of the negativity you are getting is because people hate change. Anything around them that disrupts the norm is uncomfortable. Along with that is the jealousy factor. Almost everyone has something about themselves they want to change (lose weight, stop smoking, etc.), yet most do nothing. The fact that you took charge and did something causes a bit of envy.They resent the fact you did something they don't have the guts to do. It looks great on you man and it sounds like you love it already, so don't let anyone tell you different. Congratulations.BTW...what ages do you teach? This really could be a great teaching moment regarding the lengths people will go to in order to "fit in" and how silly it is.
Your colleagues are certainly some of the most rude people I've heard of from any guy on this forum. Obviously you have the right idea to ignore them--they will ultimately calm down when they see their "opinions" aren't highly regarded or obeyed. But the age group you teach reminded me of one of the reasons I decided I'd never get stuck w/ a horseshoe--a Spanish teacher who for whatever reason had a bad horseshoe, dressed in a fashion we students found weird, and who had other unfortunate problems. Someone came up with a nickname, "Harry Toiletseat" and it stuck. I remembered Harry as I dumped the combover. But considering the number of young guys who come to this site with real concerns on handling early onset mpb, I think you are probably setting a good example for one or more of the students you come in contact with and for that alone it's worth the effort to brush off the tactless comments. I did think that if one of the women has the slightest "hint" of a mustache, you might say how good it looks on her. And if any of the older women are displaying any androgenic hairloss--tell them about the "piece" you no longer use and offer it to them. Of course you can't do that w/o serious jeopardy for "harassment" but it's fun to think about.
It has really taken me by surprise. I mean I expected some negative feedback, but not this. I would never in a million years say the kinds of things that people are saying to me.Well, all I can do is put one foot in front of the other and keep on moving forward. Having to hear a student say that they will be transferring out of my class b/c of the way I look would make even the strongest man's knees buckle a little, and I've been hearing these kinds of things over and over and over for three days now. It has really got me to the point where I do not want to come back tomorrow and have to face another salvo of insults. This is a very sad commentary on the community in which I work. I had pretty much made up my mind not to return for the next academic year. Now I am definitely leaving - provided I can actually make it that long. I knew this place was comprised of highly superficial people but I never knew that it could ever be THIS bad!