What do they want honstly? Do they know what they want? Does any one know what they want from a man?
I am honestly to the point of saying to hell with women. You hear all they time about how a woman wants a strong reliable guy who treats them well who can be a father friend and lover.
I am just realy confused right now sorry about the rant, but I just got the "just friends" from a woman that I thought I had a real connection with. I know it was the first time I had felt that way about a woman in a long time. So to hell with them.
A lot of good feedback here. I'll add my experience to the mix, because I also got the "just friends" routine from someone I was in it really deep for, and it was painful. The friendship still hasn't recovered. After some reflection, I realized what I had done that placed me in her friend zone.
1.) I wasn't upfront with her about my wants from the start. I wanted a relationship, not a friendship. Only after it's clear she's not the one for me should I consider her a friend. I'm always clear about which path I want to take now.
2.) I became her "girlfriend"--e.g., watching the same TV shows, listening to her love life, etc. Once she starts telling you her love life troubles, it's over. Common interests are good, but I make sure to have differing interests and a life of my own. She should want to visit my world.
3.) I didn't make myself unobtainable. It's counterintuitive, but the less available you make yourself, and the less you act interested--while keeping up the flirting (this is important)--the more attracted she'll be. You should ration yourself out like a reward, because you're the sh*t.
Once I told myself all those things, I changed how I approach women (and life in general). I'll always regret losing out on the one. She was really something. But it got me to change my attitude.