Those one nights....

[thebaboun]

HI guys,

I am a bit fed up of those one nights that happen. In some cases I am just fine with them, and I decide to move on. In others, I feel that the girl is itneresting and maybe serious, but I always GET WRONG it seems.

Always the girl has a reason to not go in a relationship: bad experiences from the past, the girl is leaving in three months back in her country, she is not ready, bla bla bla .

Is it just me, or one nights are just what they are and you should NEVER expect something out of it... even if the one night did not include sex but just kissing on the girl's bed.

[Mikekoz13]

Dude.... If a woman is going to sleep with you on the first night she meets you, why WOULD you want to have a relationshgip with her??
That may seem like an old fashioned statement but my many years of experience tell me that this is true.

Find yourself a "nice" girl...............

[Noodles]

I agree with Mike.

Women who give up "The Golden Triangle" on the first night you meet them generally aren't the type of women you want to start planning to spend the rest of your life with.

Besides, if she's sleepiing with YOU on Saturday, she probably has a full schedule of bedmates the rest of the week too, so there's a very good chance you're NOT the only guy "dipping".

Also, consider the type of establishment in which you are meeting these women. That could have a lot to do with it also, especially if there is alcohol involved.

Have you ever tried online sites such as eharmony or match.com? Depending upon how fed up you are dealing with the same type of situations you seem to keep finding yourself in, it might be the right time to try another avenue for meeting someone who's worth meeting.

- Cap'n Noodles -  

My idea of a "one night stand"...

[Sgt. Pate]

Having sex before a relationship exist is the problem.  The best bet is to save it for marriage, but that's another thread! 

[BaldWriterBob]

Having sex before a relationship exist is the problem.  The best bet is to save it for marriage, but that's another thread! 

What he said.

[wpruitt]

My rule of thumb has always been, "If she will sleep with you on the first date, she'll sleep with anyone on a first date." I stay away from that type of girl.

[junglephone]

Rather than chalk it up to quality of the woman, which I think in some cases has got to be unfair, I'd say this:

If you want to have a real relationship, you have to establish the other aspects of it before sex. See if your personalities are truly compatible. There has to be friendship, respect, and understanding if there's any hope of things lasting. Absolutely, the chemistry must be there too, but if you just act on that right away, you decrease your chances greatly.

Presumably, you'rer a good guy but as long as you go for the one-night stands, that's all you're going to get. Don't assume anyone is "not the type of woman" you'd want to get involved with. Get to know them and then decide.

My two shekels...

[lordmage]

well you could always go with her to her home country. if she has that kind of connection with you.

[rascaldog]

My rule of thumb has always been, "If she will sleep with you on the first date, she'll sleep with anyone on a first date." I stay away from that type of girl.

I have to agree with this statement. As one of my buddies has said "I wouldn't date a girl who would sleep with me on the first date".

[Nonick]

So what about...the second date?