Confidence and Success > How to Build Confidence
I'm really struggling.
Morthen:
Hmm its unfortunate you should feel this way. To be honest there are far worse things to suffer from than hair loss, Not to mention MPB and hair loss is very common amongst men.
Trust me I understand Ive been there I felt hideous with my receded hair line. You say your pale, underweight and balding. Well this is your opportunity to better yourself so you can feel more confident.
Try shaving it down to atleast a buzz #1, then eventually sly if you're comfortable. Work on getting into shape and maybe getting a tan on your skin. I highly doubt you're as bad looking as you think, as they say The worst critic is always yourself. Stop being so hard on yourself try to be more positive and work on raising that confidence level.
Good luck, I hope for the best for you.
Papa Don:
Here's hoping that the men on this site can help. I seem to me that you have other issues besides the hair loss. I know that my upbringing was scared by a father that never praised me and constantly tried to lowrate my abilities at anything I did. Talk about no confidence. Perhaps you family picking on you has something to do with it? Man, be proud of who you are. A good person. I have no pictures of you so I can't guess as to your appearance. But I bet you are your worst critic. You know, we can't all be handsome. I know that for a fact, just look to the left. I am who I am. Good looking--NO. A great person--Hell Yes!! With my looks I was fortunate to marry a girl that was quite attractive. We were together for 33 years. So my man, shave the head and jump into life with all you have. Best of luck to you.
pdxtodd:
First welcome to the group - you've come to the right place for advice and guidance. I would bet that a majority of the guys on this site struggled with hairloss. I know that from watching everyone's posts over the past 7 or 8 months that 99% of those of us who took control are happier now than when we were struggling with a receding and thinning hairline. I agree with others - seems like hair loss is just one of the issues that you're dealing with. I don't know what part of the world you're in but my suggestion would be to connect up with other people who share one of your passions. There's nothing better to help boost yourself than to be with a group of people who like to do the same things that you do (heck that's why I joined this group!) Maybe look for an opportunity to volunteer - whether its a weekend cleanup of a park or an ongoing opportunity to support a cause that you're passionate about.
I know from personal experience that its easy to crawl into a hole and feel like the whole world is collapsing around you. I'm going through horrendous challenges on a daily basis. I haven't had good news in so long that I can't even tell you what year it was (well I do know - the birth of my daughter who is now 4 years old). But instead of letting everything that I'm going through drag me down I'm forging forward and casting off things that are happening to me on a daily basis (divorce, health issues, IRS issues, work issues, kid issues, financial issues, issues on top of issues). For me I've found things that I have a passion for and focus on those areas - and interesting enough all of the "noise" from the other things in my life is just that - background noise.
I'm sure you have a passion for something - be it gaming, art, music, environment, etc. Its easy to find a local group that focuses on your interests -- Google, Craigslist, etc. are all great resources.
Also take the final step and shave your head. Read everyone's posts about being afraid about how they will look and how relieved they were after they shaved their head. Put hairloss off the field as an issue. Sly is in - hair is yesterdays look.
D.A.L.U.I.:
--- Quote from: pdxtodd on June 19, 2010, 12:57:25 PM --- I don't know what part of the world you're in but my suggestion would be to connect up with other people who share one of your passions. There's nothing better to help boost yourself than to be with a group of people who like to do the same things that you do (heck that's why I joined this group!) Maybe look for an opportunity to volunteer - whether its a weekend cleanup of a park or an ongoing opportunity to support a cause that you're passionate about.
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pdxtodd has given you one of the most important tools to work your way out of the dumps---it's hard to feel sorry for yourself when you're helping others, people with real problems, not just a genetic trait of thinning hair. Thinning hair is solved by shaving it off and getting beyond balding. Your depression will be helped by helping others, interesting yourself in the problems and issues of others. And once that happens, everything in your own life will get back in proportion. So, shave it down, get out and give, get out and live.
TGB1:
Bro. this goes beyond what is happening with your hair. Don't let this thing take you over. Speak to someone who cares for you and let them know what you are feeling.
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