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I'm really struggling.
buddha:
--- Quote from: BaldAndAlone on June 22, 2010, 12:23:03 AM ---Well, I don't think I'll be going down the therapy/anti-depressants route. I know a couple of my family have/are struggling with depression, but I am determined not to go down the same path. Perhaps I will just use this site as my therapy :)
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As a grown man who has been in/out of therapy a number of times I would encourage you to re-think this one. A lot of guys prefer the "pull yourself up by the bootstraps" philosophy with regard to problems encountered in life and 'SOMETIMES' this works. If it's a situation where "my girlfriend dumped me and I feel worthless", yeah, maybe get back in the race, put the old gf in the rearview and realize that there are bumps in the road and everybody runs over them once in a while. But what's going on in your original post sounds like old pain and IMO you can't deal very well with that on your own. I couldn't. But you have options.
I'm gonna play a little hardball right now and it is not intended to make you leave the forum or feel even worse about yourself. I, personally, can hear about a man's pain with compassion. Where I lose patience is when there is a real and viable option for resolving the pain and that man will not consider it for whatever personal reason. This doesn't mean that he has to stop talking about his pain, it just means that IMO it really isn't as bad as he wants everyone to believe so I stop regarding it with the importance that he wishes. Therapy is a real and viable option for you and it does not carry with it a mandate to be on drugs. But whoever first mentioned therapy as an option in the first place was dead on. If you ignore it because you don't want to follow in someone else's path all I can say is good luck with that. And as much as you can come in here and get help for your hair difficulties and as much as some members of this forum may want you to believe that you CAN use this site as your therapist.....I'll just say that I have my doubts.
But you're a grown man. You do what you gotta do.
P. S.: In case you hadn't guessed you're already on "THE SAME PATH".
Papa Don:
Hello again BaldandAlone. Nice picture you posted. I see nothing wrong with your appearance. Nice looking fellow. IMHO you should rock the sly look. Listen to the other guys and do the deed. If you need our help in the future, we are just a keyboard away. Best of luck to you.
Professor Melon:
O0 O0 O0 Ahoy, B and A:
Do use this site for therapy: you will find more accumulated wisdom on baldness here than anywhere else. Use a little intellectual hindsight: in five or six years--probably much less--you will be glad you got used to your sly bald self sooner rather than later, after a prolonged agony of denial and desperate "solutions." As many brothers suggest, shave it clean and live with it for thirty days. If you don't chime with the new image, you can grow what's left back and resume your headgear. My experience is that youy"ll "get" the boldness, honesty, and aesthetics of the new look. And you will not be alone. Given the way the economy is, there will be a lot more slick domes than previously. It's "in" but still distinctive, adult, and male. Let us see the new you. All best, Professor Melon
TGB1:
Good to hear from you again. Shave it and step out into the world proud of who and what you are. You have seen depression in your family and experienced yourself. there is no shame doing what it takes to deal with it. Avoiding the drugs would be good but only if you can deal with it in other ways. Drive on.
Snakehandler:
I went sly on January 4 & wish I had done it 10 years ago. Try it you'll like it :)
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