Girl troubles

[Mike]

I have a coworker that I kinda like and its obvious that she likes me. I know you shouldnt date someone you work with but still. Anyway, for the last 3 months she has loved my always smooth head and always rubs it and everything. Well last night she said "Why dont you grow your hair back?" That was when I just kinda went from liking her to disliking her. I told her all the reasons and all but she said I would look good with hair even though she has loved the smooth dome for months. Why is it that girls always want to change guys.
 So now I am thinking I should just get on with it and try to find someone else. Or I could just tell her that if she likes me as a person she will have to deal with my hairstyle. We have a 'kinda date' next week, going as friends out to dinner and a movie.

[Tom McGarry.]

Sugar coat it all you want Mike, but there is no such thing as a "Kinda Date" either you are on a date or not! As for me I think that I would just leave the issue alone and wait till I see how the "kinda date" goes, if she brings it up durring the k/d then you can politley tell her your point of view.

[buddha]

Young woman to her mom: "Mom, I've found the perfect man. Loves the outdoors, keeps himself in shape. Just a dreamy guy."
Mom: "Good for you, honey."
Young woman: "Now all I have to do is change him."

This is an old story. A buddy of mine, avid hunter and outdoorsman, starts dating this woman years ago. He had 2 black bear head and shoulder mounts and a full length black bear rug, all of which he bagged with bow and arrow in Manitoba. The girl starts the occasional sleepovers and before he knew it she was buying $h!t to hang on his walls to replace the bear mounts which she didn't care for. Long story short.....she got fired.

Beware the woman who wants to change you early on. This practice ALWAYS gets worse with time.

[D.A.L.U.I.]

Young woman to her mom: "Mom, I've found the perfect man. Loves the outdoors, keeps himself in shape. Just a dreamy guy."
Mom: "Good for you, honey."
Young woman: "Now all I have to do is change him."

This is an old story. A buddy of mine, avid hunter and outdoorsman, starts dating this woman years ago. He had 2 black bear head and shoulder mounts and a full length black bear rug, all of which he bagged with bow and arrow in Manitoba. The girl starts the occasional sleepovers and before he knew it she was buying $h!t to hang on his walls to replace the bear mounts which she didn't care for. Long story short.....she got fired.

Beware the woman who wants to change you early on. This practice ALWAYS gets worse with time.

What he said.

[tomgallagher]

Sugar coat it all you want Mike, but there is no such thing as a "Kinda Date" either you are on a date or not! As for me I think that I would just leave the issue alone and wait till I see how the "kinda date" goes, if she brings it up durring the k/d then you can politley tell her your point of view.

Well said Tom. My thoughts exactly.

[Mikekoz13]

When she asked you why you wouldn't grow your hair back you should have looked at her in a very Clint Eastwood kind of way and in a raspy voice said, "You ever bopped a bald man Lady?"...........

[GASlick]

welcome to manhood, Mike!  lol

The thing is, they somehow manage to change us without us even knowing it!  lol

Seriously, I wouldn't let this bother me so early on.  If she had an objection, she wouldn't be going out with you.

[Rusty Shackleford]

I am quoting a post from the future!

Hi guys!  I'm back in the fold, I just broke up with my girlfriend and the first thing I did was shave my head!  I love it!  I'm never going back!

Sorry Mike, I don't mean to pick on you.  I'm mainly picking on the habit men have of allowing their women to dictate every aspect of their life.  I've heard things like I've quoted before so many times.  And guys wonder why I'm single.  Yea, crazy how I don't want to be miserable isn't it? 

 

[DuffRyder17]

well IDK if you are BBC or not...
but my g/f asked me to grow it out. I didnt at first cuz I didnt really want to, but one I got super lazy and let it go for just one week
"baby, you need to shave your head."

[Sgt. Pate]

I've been married 37 years and I'm still trying to figure out my girl... Mike dude, your on your own!  

[Iconic]

My theory is  - there's a paradox about women most of them don't even know themselves. When they are looking for a man they are looking for the one they could change with a minimum effort. But if the man lets them to change his ways they immediately start to like him less. Am I right?

[buddha]

I get the feeling that this kind of behavior is more the result of unresolved Daddy issues. These girls want to change their guy into dad so they can fix him and get the relationship they feel like they missed.

[Mike]

Well this week I have been lazy and havent shaved since Friday and went into work to see her and she soon realized why I wont grow it back. I originally was BBC but slightly thinning, now with a few days growth its obvious that I am balding. When I showed her she simply said "Oh, thats why you shave". Not anything else, not 'shave it quick' or anything, just that. I just sent her a pic of me after I shaved and got a better answer, she said it was much better.

 I dont know though, I tend to be resistant to change for the most part and if she is trying to change me now with this, what will be next?

[buddha]

if she is trying to change me now with this, what will be next?

Who knows? If you have a good friend that she doesn't see eye to eye with for some reason he could be a bad influence on you. If you like to watch football with friends on Sunday afternoons she might start planning things to conflict, therefore you will need to choose between what you enjoy and what she enjoys, or more to the point between your friends (who have always had your back) and her. When women get into "change" mode their imaginations know no bounds.
But you're just getting ready for your first date, yes?
Keep us posted, this promises to be interesting and educational. Keep your eyes and ears open on the "kinda date". I'm fairly certain that you will have something of consequence to report.

[Mike]

Well the date is tomorrow night (whopper wednesday and dollar night at the theater) so I will report back then. We see each other at work all the time but havent really been able to relax and be ourselves because of the work environment. I am kinda nervous and excited.