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Hello! by Aspire on 03 Mar, 2007 05:20
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Hey everyone!
I have been lurking round here for a while, I think that it is a great site, and many of the posters seem to be intelligent and charismatic individuals. Also, looking through pics, everyone seems to be rocking the bald look well. It's true that many people look better 'sly'.
Now this is the part where I will talk incessantly about myself and my situation. You have been warned.
I am 23 years old. When I was in high school I noticed that my hair was not as thick as it once was. I had always had a lack of hair around my temples, and I decided to go with a longer hairstlyle. I have had this approximate hairstle for the last 6 years. In that time I have had no real hair loss. Now, for the last 3 months I have noticed a great deal of thinning at the front. I have to spend all kinds of time making it so it looks okay. The hilarious thing is I still get compliments sometimes on having a nice head of hair. But I tell them that it is just an illusion.
I am not someone who is dependant on my hair for confidence. I know that as many women who like guys with nice long hair, many like guys with nice abs, broad shoulders, good bone structure, nice lips, or yes, a sexy bald head. And even if someone had none of these things, and was as society would lable them "unattractive" that still is not an impediment, as many woman are attracted to personality, money, confidence, style, intelligence, humor and let's say animal magnitude.
Also, I should mention that I don't even think twice about what other guys would think about a bald head. 2007 is the best time in recorded history to sport a shaved head, and it's legit cool.
Anyway, even though I don't feel I 'need' hair I do feel compromised by being in the in between position. Most of my hair loss took place in a period of 3 weeks where I was very stressed out because of misdiagnosed headache problems. So I am unsure of whether this is a descision that I need to make soon, or in a few years. As it stands, I pretty much have to avoid the wind like the plague, but if I am inside it usually looks deceptively normal.
So, of course, I have strongly considered getting it shaved down to stubble, and then maybe sly. That is how I came across this great site.
The deal is...
I am not sure whether it will work for me.
I have no problem rocking the bald look, in many ways I am actually excited about it. A new look would be great, and I could rock all kinds of cool alternaitive looks, maybe some piercings etc.
But I wonder about my skull. My best guess is that my head is a little big, but that alone is probably okay. Then I wonder about bumps, bruises and cuts I may have gotten when I was younger. Then I wonder about how my face will look.
I have always been reffered to as good looking, as I mentioned earlier, it really doesn't matter and is just one of many tools in which to attract women. In truth, my long hair did a good job in making my nose less prominent and my high forehead less obvious. Though I have good features, I am not someone with movie star looks.
Essentially, I don't care if I shave my head and become worse looking. I can deal with that. I am simply worried that because of my specific look, I will shave my head and become very ugly. Call me vain or whatever, but I really have no interest in looking really bad all the time.
So, this is already very long, and for the 3 people still reading, nice work! I just wanted to vent, and who knows maybe I will join you all someday soon?
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#1 by PBurke on 03 Mar, 2007 07:28
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welcome aspire. post a pic and you will get some honest opinions. enjoy the site
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#2 by medicineman on 03 Mar, 2007 07:41
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welcome aspire. post a pic and you will get some honest opinions. enjoy the site
I agree. Post a picture of yourself if you are not afraid to receive some honest opinions on your look.
Here is what I found. Once I got the idea to shave my head, nothing would satisfy the itch until I actually did it. If you are seriously thinking about doing it, just do it, that thought won't go wasy until you do. Remember, it's only hair and it will grow back if you decide the look isn't for you.
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#3 by Paul on 03 Mar, 2007 07:54
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Welcome aspire. Understand what you're saying, you're not the first to wonder how you will look, but you will never really know until you do it. You may be pleasantly surprised and find out that you look better than ever, besides as others have said and will tell you, it grows back.
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#4 by BaldRob on 03 Mar, 2007 08:09
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Welcome Aspire...
I'm going to agree with everyone else that's posted so far... you never know until you give it a shot! And if you don't like it, it will grow back.
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#5 by Cam on 03 Mar, 2007 09:25
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Once I got the idea to shave my head, nothing would satisfy the itch until I actually did it.
I agree 1000%. Once you think about it, you'll notice A LOT more bald people, with all different bone/facial structures and start to compare them to yourself. You'll see that MANY different types of people can rock the bald look with ease. Like others have said, post a couple of pictures and we'll all gladly give you our honest opinions.
Thanks for posting and welcome to SBG! -
#6 by Slickdome on 03 Mar, 2007 11:48
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I am 23 years old.
I am not someone who is dependant on my hair for confidence.
2007 is the best time in recorded history to sport a shaved head, and it's legit cool.
The deal is...I am not sure whether it will work for me.
But I wonder about my skull. Then I wonder about how my face will look.
Essentially, I don't care if I shave my head and become worse looking. I can deal with that. I am simply worried that...I will shave my head and become very ugly.
Call me vain or whatever, but I really have no interest in looking really bad all the time.
Howdy Aspire!
All of your concerns are duly noted; and I'm fairly certain that the vast majority of Sly Guys here has had one or two (or all) of those thoughts rolling around in his fuzzy noggin before he decided to make the move. I know I did.
Judging by your thoughtful comments, I think that you're probably not quite ready to go Sly. But that's OK. You need to stay within your comfort zone. However, you should consider this:
Even in the worst-case scenario---you shave your head and you completely hate the way you look---if you only shave once, your hair will grow back to clippershave length within 72 hrs....and to a #1 buzzlength within a week.
Or....you may shave your head and find that you've stumbled upon your best look ever.
The old saying applies here, Aspire....nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Good luck with your decision, and keep us up to date.
JJ
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#7 by Tyler on 03 Mar, 2007 12:14
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Aspire, thanks for sharing that with us and joining SBG. I echo what the others have said. While you're thinking about it, hang out and get to know some of the guys. It may help you make it easier to decide to shave it.
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#8 by Tom McGarry. on 03 Mar, 2007 13:09
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Welcome to the group Aspire, I too agree with the others. Please don't take this the wrong way, but given all that you've said, then why haven't you shaved it off already? I mean you said several times that you don't have a problem "Rockin the bald look" then you follow it with alot of but's. So if you realy don't have a problem, then I say go for it, what you have will grow back. Again please don't take this the wrong way.
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#9 by OzPete on 03 Mar, 2007 21:18
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Welcome, Aspire.
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#10 by marshd1000 on 03 Mar, 2007 21:39
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Aspire...I do like your nickname. Since I believe that you "aspire" to be sly, I suggest you give it a try. I know I am a poet and didn't know it! Anyway, if you don't like it, it will grow back really fast. You really have nothing to lose!
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#11 by Kajun on 03 Mar, 2007 23:57
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welcome aspire..i'd say give it a shot man......but do it in phases...buzz it down to a #2...in 1 or 2 weeks..buzz it down to a #1......if your still feeling it...go sly!...this way...at any given point you can re-grow and be ahead of the game.....pun intended...
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#12 by ar3inc on 04 Mar, 2007 10:57
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Welcome to the group, Aspire! Yeah... yeah get a pic, there is no shame in wanting to look good and all what they said. We are here to help. sometimes just ranting and venting by writing is helpful.
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#13 by David on 04 Mar, 2007 12:37
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Honestly, everyone's head has bumps/ridges etc of some kind. Nobody will care unless you care because they won't notice.
Just do whatever makes you happy and welcome. -
#14 by Robmeister on 04 Mar, 2007 19:40
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Welcome, Aspire.
I've got various dents and divets left on my noggin from my reckless youth.
Doesn't really matter....I think all us baldies here have the same thing...it's really not a prerequisite to have a perfectly smooth skull in order to sport the chrome.