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My wife is starting up again....... by Bolohead on 01 Aug, 2009 10:12
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Well it seem's like every other day nag nag nag nag about how shinny my head is. Just the other night she asked if I shaved my head again.... cuz she hasn't seen any hair growth
Then last night she starts in about, "You know are you just doing this for spite?" - "I have never done anything that you didn't like." - "I think it makes you look so much old, I just which you would give in a let 1/4 inch of hair grow back." - "I can't believe you won't do this for me."
Ah hun, while your on the topic of doing this for me, have you ever thought how I feel about this, and how this makes me feel so good about myself. You need to understand, that me shaving my head is a me thing and that it makes me feel great about myself.
Don't know what she has in mind, but she walked away saying something like, "So you won't do this one thing for me...... aaaall right."
Just hope I don't wake up some morning looking like this guy......
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#1 by Antimidas on 01 Aug, 2009 10:15
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lol! Might just go ahead and get that tattoo to head her off (so to speak and no pun intended). If I know women, thing of the one thing you really would rather not live without. That is what she is going to do.
Prepare yourself and it won't be as painful.
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#2 by marty22 on 01 Aug, 2009 10:43
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thats pic is wild...a tad wild.
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#3 by D.A.L.U.I. on 01 Aug, 2009 11:52
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Brother, I know where you live. My wife has never accepted the fact that I don't have much hair left up on "the runway." Except when she's fortified with Dutch Courage, she pretty much lays off. There will be the odd comment--the you're doing this to me--Duh? She's got hair issues of her own, but I never tell her how to handle them--so I've just toughed it out. I wish there was a magic bullet to get her to understand, I'm not going to walk around w/ wisps of hair, bald spot, etc.
Oddly enough, the chin mitten doesn't bug her. To quote Professor Higgins, "Why can't women be more like a man?" It's obviously an old and lingering problem-I've even thought that it lingers from the day they accept our offer of marriage--they're not totally up front, because they "know" they can change the stuff they don't like. My wife has learned that I don't go that way.
Hang in brother, this place is a good place to vent. -
#4 by Antimidas on 01 Aug, 2009 11:59
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I used the following quote with my ex-fiance when I ended the engagement because she thought she could eventually change me. Only I have the power to change me.
"A man who marries a woman to educate her falls a victim to the same fallacy as the woman who marries a man to reform him." --Elbert G Hubbard -
#5 by GaryT on 01 Aug, 2009 15:22
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Just stand your ground brother! I know when my wife is sure and confident about something I had better just support her in it. She knows the same about me. Her thinking it's her issue bellies something else going on.
Best of luck and like has already been said. Vent here! -
#6 by Bolohead on 01 Aug, 2009 19:24
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I comped her one thing, she really did not like my goatee so I shaved off today......
My granddaughter really fussed over it anyway, so now my chin looks like my head
But my shaved head, the sly look STAYS! -
#7 by Antimidas on 01 Aug, 2009 19:27
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*gasp* I can't give there. I shave off the goat and I look even worse! Still suffering from the self-esteem issues.
I shaved the head and literally felt like I was walking into work naked. It was like hanging it all out for everyone to see. If I lost the goatee as well, I would have to become a hermit!
But take new pics. We all wanna see.
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#8 by Bolohead on 01 Aug, 2009 20:51
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I don't have issues with the goatee, all my grey hair shows there like real serious like. When I reach my weight goal, I will look like this again where I weighed in at 195 pounds.
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#9 by Antimidas on 01 Aug, 2009 21:50
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Ah! To weigh 195 again! I can only hope.
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#10 by Bolohead on 01 Aug, 2009 23:43
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Well it happened again tonight
right there at Famous Daves because her friend was along. She had called me up to see if I would meet them.....so I figured a small bite, not the big orders that I had been accustomed to. I walk in and her friend Terri looks up and say's like wow how shinny. Then my wife goes off, about how pissed she is, as I know now others are listening from other tables. She then says, "I'm never going to ask you about what to do with my hair then."
Now it gets good.... I look at her right there with others looking on from the Sports Bar. I said, You know what, you still don't get it, this aint about you, this is not even about what I think your hair should look like and frankly I don't care what you do with your hair. Color it blue, purple or green.. maybe even like the rainbow for all I care if it makes you feel good, then get it done. I shaved my goatee for you, and all you can do is still BITCH over my shaving my head. This is about me and how I feel, not you, not Terri, not anyone else.
I heard some applausing and amens in the background.... but at our table, you could have heard a pin drop. -
#11 by Antimidas on 02 Aug, 2009 09:15
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Let us know what color she picks. Congratulations to you for standing your ground. Hell! If you asked her to grow a mustache, would she do it? Tell her that if she gets to pick your hair style that you get to pick hers and then have her shave HER head.
I suck at relationship counselling by the way.
Now I have Famous Dave's on the brain. BBQ! Yum! -
#12 by Bolohead on 02 Aug, 2009 09:33
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Let us know what color she picks.
Congratulations to you for standing your ground. Hell! If you asked her to grow a mustache, would she do it? Tell her that if she gets to pick your hair style that you get to pick hers and then have her shave HER head.
I suck at relationship counselling by the way.
Now I have Famous Dave's on the brain. BBQ! Yum!
BTW I did have the Buffalo Chicken ie Buffalo Wings.... then I added the BBQ sauce that comes in the large bottle..... oh what a bite they had
Now, she would never let me pick her hair style
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#13 by crazy.irish.celt on 02 Aug, 2009 12:33
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J_B, I'm not married so I suppose my words don't carry much weight... However, I would like to point out that (to me) a loving relationship should serve to build each person up. To love someone means you are committed to improving their quality of life through your influence. Your haircut shouldn't be something from which your wife derives her sense of complacency regarding your relationship. If shaving your head allows you to feel better and thus be a better husband WHERE IT COUNTS, then she should support it wholeheartedly...
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#14 by Bolohead on 02 Aug, 2009 13:20
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J_B, I'm not married so I suppose my words don't carry much weight... However, I would like to point out that (to me) a loving relationship should serve to build each person up. To love someone means you are committed to improving their quality of life through your influence. Your haircut shouldn't be something from which your wife derives her sense of complacency regarding your relationship. If shaving your head allows you to feel better and thus be a better husband WHERE IT COUNTS, then she should support it wholeheartedly...
AGREE 100%
I will say on a side note, I have never ridiculed or brow beat my wife about her weight... never. Do I like it, no I don't, but I have loved her unconditionally without belittling her or trying to embarrass her in front of others. This would be so counter productive to a harmonious relationship. So far today it has been good, no counter productive jabs or remarks. Maybe last night at Famous Daves, I was able to make a point in public.