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Talking to People....
« on: August 07, 2008, 07:48:59 PM »
A lot of people are shy and lack confidence when it comes to meeting new people. I used to be like this, and am not totally over it, but I wanted to share one way that I've overcome this problem. I travel a lot for work, so for the last few months (ever since I went sly), I've been trying to start random conversations with as many people as I can on planes or in airports. I'm sure some people find me annoying, but the majority are more than willing to talk to you.
Anyway, my point is, to build confidence, you need to put yourself out there. Put yourself into situations where you're not so comfortable. If you do it enough, you'll develop that confidence and grow out of your shyness. Just something I wanted to share that has helped me gain confidence when it comes to meeting and talking to strangers.  O0



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Re: Talking to People....
« Reply #1 on: August 07, 2008, 07:53:51 PM »
Congrats on your 500th post Ultimate Sly Guy BJR.

Great post!

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Re: Talking to People....
« Reply #2 on: August 07, 2008, 07:55:16 PM »
I'm like you... kinda.  I am confident and outgoing when I'm working (I'm supposed to be friendly with customers) but when I don't have my uniform on, I keep to myself lol.



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Re: Talking to People....
« Reply #3 on: August 07, 2008, 07:57:35 PM »
Excellent post.  It's called getting out of your comfort zone I think.

I for one am famous for getting out of my comfort zone.  It is difficult for some people and other people do it much more easily.

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Re: Talking to People....
« Reply #4 on: August 07, 2008, 08:09:55 PM »
Congrats on your 500th post Ultimate Sly Guy BJR.

Great post!

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Cheers, bro! 500 came kind of quick, kinda just snuck up on me there  ;D
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Re: Talking to People....
« Reply #5 on: August 07, 2008, 08:41:31 PM »
500 post...man i have some competition now..lol..


Comfort zone....I am more comfortable outside of that box....

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Re: Talking to People....
« Reply #6 on: August 08, 2008, 12:13:43 AM »
Great post!  An easy way to do this is just to ask people simple questions about themselves.  People love to talk about themselves if you give them the chance to.

This is very fun to do as you never know how people are going to respond.  Like the time I kept asking this guy about what company he was CEO of.  Finally he broke down and whispered to me that his company sold sex toys.  You should have seen the old lady's face that was sitting next to him!  Priceless!
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Re: Talking to People....
« Reply #7 on: August 08, 2008, 03:17:46 AM »
Great post!  An easy way to do this is just to ask people simple questions about themselves.  People love to talk about themselves if you give them the chance to.

This is very fun to do as you never know how people are going to respond.  Like the time I kept asking this guy about what company he was CEO of.  Finally he broke down and whispered to me that his company sold sex toys.  You should have seen the old lady's face that was sitting next to him!  Priceless!

ahahaha! funny story Tyler!

ditto to what the other guys say James  O0
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Re: Talking to People....
« Reply #8 on: August 08, 2008, 09:06:34 AM »
Great post!  An easy way to do this is just to ask people simple questions about themselves.  People love to talk about themselves if you give them the chance to.

No doubt!!! Ask open ended questions (one that cannot be answered with a yes or no) about themselves and off you go. O0
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Re: Talking to People....
« Reply #9 on: August 08, 2008, 10:52:56 AM »
Remember one thing guys........... If you live to be 100 years old, and most of will not, that 100 years is barely a dot in time............ So enjoy everyday to it's fullest and strive to meet people. You never know who you may meet.............
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Re: Talking to People....
« Reply #10 on: August 08, 2008, 11:25:05 AM »
Brilliant idea
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Re: Talking to People....
« Reply #11 on: August 08, 2008, 11:28:19 AM »
Remember one thing guys........... If you live to be 100 years old, and most of will not, that 100 years is barely a dot in time............ So enjoy everyday to it's fullest and strive to meet people. You never know who you may meet.............

Ah yes, the Thirty Year Theory...http://www.slybaldguys.com/smf/index.php?topic=6739.0
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Re: Talking to People....
« Reply #12 on: August 08, 2008, 11:29:21 AM »
Also having 1 really good day makes up for 1 bad day.



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Re: Talking to People....
« Reply #13 on: August 08, 2008, 05:54:55 PM »
One way I like to break the ice with people is to really look at the person for a moment, not stare, and find something I genuinely like about them. I then smile warmly and compliment them. First of all, it's a boost to their self-esteem, because most of us really don't get complimented all that much, and those that do...a little more never hurts anyone. Secondly, you have opened up the door in a positive way, and only a severe douche-dongle is going to be rude to you after you compliment them.
BUT, I should say that I only compliment someone if it's for real. Don't lie. It's not kind if you lie to someone, that's cruel.

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Re: Talking to People....
« Reply #14 on: August 09, 2008, 10:19:58 AM »
Heck I dont have any trouble talking....I talked to 9 freaks up in chicago a few weeks ago..lol...i even went into downtown chicago...ALONE ...with two of them....ON a train.....a train that sat on the tracks for like 40 minutes...going nowhere!  lol and it was getting dark..

 



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