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Offline MarkusToe

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How you see yourself and how others might see you
« on: December 27, 2012, 03:52:53 PM »
I want to share a little story with you:

Today I met with a friend in a café to talk and to eat something. At the moment its very cold outside where I'm coming from and the café had a very good heating. So when we sat there I recognized a young man coming in and my first thought was that he was a cool looking dude - very well/stylish dressed, wearing a red beani, and I thought he surely knew how good looking he was. After a while he took his beanie off and you could clearly see thinning hair - especially his crown. he was nervously trying to get his hair into shape - and then the next time he decided to put the beanie on again

from this moment on I saw him with different eyes, just because his self-consciousness was so clear to me, he could have definitely pulled off the bald style and if he would have acted confident I wouldn't even have thought of him as an unconfident guy

so the moral of the story is: we think way to much about how other people might perceive us - and with this mind-set we might influence the perception quite negatively
and everyone seems to be so much occupied with his own fears and imperfections that mostly no one seems to notice those you think you have yourself



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Re: How you see yourself and how others might see you
« Reply #1 on: December 27, 2012, 04:17:58 PM »
I want to share a little story with you:

Today I met with a friend in a café to talk and to eat something. At the moment its very cold outside where I'm coming from and the café had a very good heating. So when we sat there I recognized a young man coming in and my first thought was that he was a cool looking dude - very well/stylish dressed, wearing a red beani, and I thought he surely knew how good looking he was. After a while he took his beanie off and you could clearly see thinning hair - especially his crown. he was nervously trying to get his hair into shape - and then the next time he decided to put the beanie on again

from this moment on I saw him with different eyes, just because his self-consciousness was so clear to me, he could have definitely pulled off the bald style and if he would have acted confident I wouldn't even have thought of him as an unconfident guy

so the moral of the story is: we think way to much about how other people might perceive us - and with this mind-set we might influence the perception quite negatively
and everyone seems to be so much occupied with his own fears and imperfections that mostly no one seems to notice those you think you have yourself
;) :)  Outstanding youngman , now grasshopper you are seeing life for what it is.  Be truthful with yourself , and then all truth will come.

I was watching a tv show called Gator Boy's now one has is sly wears a due rag most of the time.  Any way getting back to my story .  They  had a young man that is a Marine.  He lost two legs and one arm.  But he wanted to wrestle alligators and he did it.  He didn't let small stuff stand in his way nor should any of us .  As your story tells it all.  And this one adds to it.   ;)

Some people wonder how they look with the sly look.  I have a picture that I want to use for a avitar of a scared up head (mine) it is not pretty but I have earned everyone of them.  And am mighty proud of them.   O0

Mark you have grown so much !  Congrads.   O0
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Re: How you see yourself and how others might see you
« Reply #2 on: December 27, 2012, 04:25:55 PM »
haha, wrestling alligators is next on my list to absolute confidence  O0

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Re: How you see yourself and how others might see you
« Reply #3 on: December 27, 2012, 06:51:35 PM »
Yep
Presenting your self with confidence doesn't mean you have it.

I love not having to worry about my hair, cruising with the window down, sweat, rain, it's all stress free now!
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Re: How you see yourself and how others might see you
« Reply #4 on: December 27, 2012, 07:49:40 PM »
haha, wrestling alligators is next on my list to absolute confidence  O0
Son , you can do anything you want to do if you want to do it bad enough  O0  As the Marine that lost 3 limbs , did it and he still has a set.   ;) O0 

Keep up the good work buddy and  be the person you are.   O0
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Re: How you see yourself and how others might see you
« Reply #5 on: December 27, 2012, 11:33:03 PM »
Loving the change in outlook Markus!

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Re: How you see yourself and how others might see you
« Reply #6 on: December 28, 2012, 07:33:52 AM »
Thanks for sharing your personal confidence growth.  You'd be surprised how many "lurkers" probably are helped by reading your posts.

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Re: How you see yourself and how others might see you
« Reply #7 on: December 28, 2012, 08:02:18 AM »
Well done son, keep up the good work.

 



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