Nervous...

[Razor X]

Schro, I wouldn't be surprised if she really was starting to like it but doesn't want to admit it because she's already boxed herself into a corner by coming out so strongly against it from the get-go.  But if she's stopped complaining about it, that's all you really need.

Kudos to you for not giving in to the pressure.  A lot of guys would have (and many have done).  The interesting thing is I'm sure you wouldn't dream of telling her what she could and could not do with her hair, nor would she think to consult you before she did.

[Razor X]

Women, can't live with em.......God, I need a beer.
Oops, sorry for the God reference. Did I offend anyone?

 

[schro]

Thanks for the support on my conversation with the lovely Mrs. Schro. I usually make no mention of her hair. Rarely does she vary her look, but when she has, it always looks great. I think you might be right, RazorX. She's a pretty proud gal and it'd be hard to admit she might be coming around to the sly look.

Oh, I'm sorry for the religious reference. I'll punish myself my drinking a Coors Light.

[wpruitt]

Women, can't live with em.......God, I need a beer.
Oops, sorry for the God reference. Did I offend anyone?

 

Not in the least bro!  And isn't beer the sacremental wine of the "Church of Schro"!

[schro]

Women, can't live with em.......God, I need a beer.
Oops, sorry for the God reference. Did I offend anyone?

 

Not in the least bro!  And isn't beer the sacremental wine of the "Church of Schro"!

In order to be Politically Correct in these dangerous times, it's not a church, it's a "Syna-Chruch-a-Mosque"

[JohnMont]

JohnMont,

There is one thing I can't understand about your situation.  You are so close to being naturally bald already (at least that's what your pic conveys to me), so what is it that turns your wife off to just finishing the job?  There isn't much difference between completely shaved and your current hair (what there is of it) trimmed very short.  Maybe you will look many years younger and more sexy to other women (just a thought since I don't know her or you) and that maybe that makes her nervous.  I'm just perplexed.   

Yeah, Stew, I have been going pretty short lately.  Trouble is, we were on a vacation the last two weeks and I couldn't get away for a haircut; so that I ended up with almost 4 weeks growth !! UGH !! ---  Thanks for that "looking more sexy to other women" comment, though.  Again, another little "push" to get me going totally sly !

[JohnMont]

Questions like these all go towards your own view of your appearance. I would guess to say that most of the SBG's will tell you that their self-confidence has greatly improved since they made the decision to go sly...I know mine has. I love my new look!!! And really, if others don't like it, screw 'em. My wife doesn't like mine, but I love it and I have no intention on growing my hair back.

Sounds like you and your lady have a very healthy "agree to disagre" attitude on this question.  You have a good point in stating "I'ts my head".  On the other hand, Prof Mellon and Sarge have made great statements as well.  My position is maybe somewhere in the middle.  My wife will probably not "like" my shaved head once I do it, but at least I need to share with here fully why I want it ; why I think it woudl be a positive improvement .
John

As far as "standing out", there are only a few SBG's where I live. But, when there is an SBG encounter, I usually joke and say, "Hey Bud, I see we go to the same barber....I call it the HAIR DON'T" (as opposed to the Hair-Do). I usually make it a point to make this joke with other people around. The people that hear it usually chuckle and I've had lay-days occasionally give me a big smile and say "I like that".

It's a confidence thing. Crack open a beer & march to your own drummer, Rich! 
Cheers!
Schro

Question, Schro; just how does you wife 'live with it'?  does it cause any strain?  does she just slightly dislike it or does she HATE it?  I ask because my wife is very unreceptive to the idea; and I'm wondering just how unhappy she'd be with me 'sly'?  (huh ... maybe I should just ask HER? 

Initially, she really disliked it. A couple of months ago, she made a snide comment about me prepping the nugget for a night out, and I opened up on her. I told her (paraphrase) "You have told me on many occasions that you don't like it. I'm sorry you don't, but I DO. It's my head, not yours, and this is the look I have chosen".

She hasn't said anything since. Yyou would think the fact that I'm not scratching my scalp 24/7 would be enough evidence to accept the SLY look.

Women, can't live with em.......God, I need a beer.
Oops, sorry for the God reference. Did I offend anyone?

[SLYinKC]

John, My wife was initially somewhat opposed to the SLY look.  She would never openly criticize it, (other than her initial shock when I first shaved), but she just would never say anything good about it, either.  I think I've come to believe that her not saying "anything" is her way of accepting it .

[MR. CLEAN]

John, the thing that you have to think about is "Where's the compromise?" ... If you have to give up the Bald Look, what has she given up?  Is it something that you are willing to do without in echange for what you get in return.  My father has shaved off his Mustache for over 25 Years because my mother Hates it to the core, and he is willing to shave it because it makes her happy and it is not a big thing to him. 

Now if shaving is where you fell more comfortable, and you feel strong enough about it that you don't want to just let it go [obvious by the fact that you are asking for advice here on how to get your wife to be willing to cope with it], I say JUST DO IT!  Explain to you wife that that is how you feel the most happy, the most confident, and at your Best.  That you feel Insecure/Sub-Par in appearance/Self-Concious/or any other way that you feel when you have hair full blast.  Explain that that is how you are the most comfortable, and that it would be nice if she could give you a few months to go for it, and see if she can adjust.  More than likely, she will be able after a while just to let it go, and hell, she may notice how much more confident/sly/hansome/swuave/strong that you are without the mop, and become secretly "in the closet" about her love of the Bald Look.  Relax, and realize, all that marriage is is a controlled compromise; if it is something that you are unwilling to bend on, explain that to your significant other and more than likely she will let it go [atleast for a trial period]. 

But if it is something that you don't feel to strongly about, relax and just let it go.  Up to you Brother. 

[Stu]

John, My wife was initially somewhat opposed to the SLY look.  She would never openly criticize it, (other than her initial shock when I first shaved), but she just would never say anything good about it, either.  I think I've come to believe that her not saying "anything" is her way of accepting it .

Wait a minute, we can't be married to the same woman, can we?  That is exactly where my wife is, I believe.  We just don't talk about it.  I did get a head rub today out of nowhere.  I 'slyly' said, 'hey I haven't had a head rub in a long time.  I like that.'  Gotta take advantage of it while I can.

[danyroo]

Pretty much in the same boat.. but my wife as told me on numerous time she prefers hair even if it's just velcro look...

after 2months of growing my hair    I decided to shave it off last week. actually I logged on here.. and immediately wanted to shave..

when I shaved on last thursday I think.. my wife came home with my daugther,,, my little came to see me in the bathroom....and when she saw I was shaved.. SHE Screamed to her mom.. Mom.. Dad made us a surprise...he shaved his head.. She's only 4 .. 5 in october.. she love's the sly look.. my wife loves me... so she will not ask me to grow my hair..at many times I've asked her. what do you want me to do.. her reply.. Do what makes you feel good Dan,I love you it doesn't matter, we have 10 years diff.. I look allot older without hair but that's fine by me.. as long as the 2 things I live for... are their for me I don't realy care what other's might even think, suggest, or the way they look at me...........

[warhawk]

WOW..... i guess i'm pretty lucky.  i'm a fairly new member of the sly look (april2007).  my barber did my 1st initial cut w/ the clippers for a week.  the following week.... a co-worker of mine who sports a sly look suggested i try an electric razor.  when i bought the philipps norelco electric razor, my wife started shaving my head every 2 days.  she absolutely luvs my new look.  recently after 1-2 weeks of the electric and reading the many takes of this forum of razor shaving... i took the next step and started w/ the razor.  my wife does my head w/ the regular fusion  every 1-2 days.  she actually enjoys shaving the dome.  and does a great job.  i did it once when she went 2 visit her family out of town and i nearly bled 2 death.  anyways.... i'M  glad that my wife plays a part in my new look.

WARHAWK

[Sooner Steve]

I guess I am one of the lucky ones as well.  I've been sly for an entire 3 days and my wife and kids and other family members absolutely love it.  They knew how miserable I was always worrying about my hair.  Now it is no worry - just shave it and enjoy my new found attitude.  I had a friend tell me this morning at a court hearing that he wishes he had the guts to cut his like mine.  What's funny, he has a full head of hair.  I guess it is envious to be SLY.

[BALDANDRE]

I had a friend tell me this morning at a court hearing that he wishes he had the guts to cut his like mine.  What's funny, he has a full head of hair.  I guess it is envious to be SLY.

See, now that is what this place is all about and the dudes on the fence don't always get it...

Some dudes with hair want to have a bald head...it's a different time and place my brothers..

Bald (SLY) is cool!....but we already ALL know that

[Paul]

I had a friend tell me this morning at a court hearing that he wishes he had the guts to cut his like mine.  What's funny, he has a full head of hair.  I guess it is envious to be SLY.

See, now that is what this place is all about and the dudes on the fence don't always get it...

Some dudes with hair want to have a bald head...it's a different time and place my brothers..

Bald (SLY) is cool!....but we already ALL know that

As another sly guy who is totally BBC gotta say BA hit it right on the head!!