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Offline Myself

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I need help.....
« on: May 12, 2012, 09:54:30 AM »
Hi All,

I have lurked on here for sometime now and posted occasionally.

I guess I am at the lowest point in my life and I don't know where to turn.

I'm late 30's and my hair has been thinning for sometime now and my life over the last 18 months has become hell. Every waking moment has been spent worrying about my hair, I have never been confident and what I did have has well and truly gone.

The reason I am struggling so badly is because there is nothing I can do to fix this problem, I could never go through with a transplant and the risks involved etc. I also can't buzz or shave my head because the shape of my head is so bad, I even get panick attacks seeing the shadow of my head.

I have a wide forehead and my head is very flat from the front and side, it also dips in the middle and not symmetrically, I have wet my hair and can see all of theses things. I feel like it is a ticking time bomb and when it gets too bad I have only one way out, unfortunately suicide (I hope you don't judge me for feeling that way).

My whole existence revolves around maintaining my hair and I am exhausted by it :( I know how week I sound and I apologise for that :(

I don't know why I'm posting this really but just thought I would try to share how I feel and maybe someone understands? I have tried talking it over with family etc but they have no understanding, almost all family have full heads of hair so I guess I can't expect them to understand.

Thanks for listening and sorry for rambling on.



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Re: I need help.....
« Reply #1 on: May 12, 2012, 10:14:43 AM »
Call your doctor and arrange for counselling--you need professional help.

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Re: I need help.....
« Reply #2 on: May 12, 2012, 10:29:59 AM »
Call your doctor and arrange for counselling--you need professional help.

I agree with saintc , try some self treasuring , but a counsellor is your course of action with the panic attacks . Had a couple myself once , but it. Could be related to underlying or related to events in your life , best you see a medic first

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Re: I need help.....
« Reply #3 on: May 12, 2012, 11:43:11 AM »
Call your doctor and arrange for counselling--you need professional help.

I second third that idea. Can you explain why you think your hair means so much??

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Re: Re: I need help.....
« Reply #4 on: May 12, 2012, 01:07:12 PM »
Not to sound jest... But seek professional help. Granted, the guys here on SBG as well as myself will try and give you the best advice we can, when you mention suicide then there's obviously something deeper that needs to be addressed.

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Re: I need help.....
« Reply #5 on: May 12, 2012, 06:27:08 PM »
I'm not sure if counseling is the way to go--but it certainly can't hurt.

Still--I think most of the members here would agree that a) there's no head shape that's made worse by shifting to Sly; b) hair on the head is nothing compared to what's in the head (going bald is no more unnatural than growing up and if it happens, it happens [consider the alternative!]); c) if you go Sly (nothing easier!), the world's response will be--sorry to be so candid here--mostly, "Meh."  It's only hair!  The world is full of men who are balding; to go the whole way is not to become a freak, but to become part of a welcoming crew, i.e., us'ns and so many others.

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Re: I need help.....
« Reply #6 on: May 14, 2012, 08:14:53 AM »
Call your doctor and arrange for counselling--you need professional help.

Could not agree more. The dead cells on top of your head shouldn't control every aspect your life. Never be afraid to ask for help. Best of luck, my friend.
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Re: I need help.....
« Reply #7 on: June 02, 2012, 06:00:32 AM »
Every man has to shave bald at least once. What can you lose, your dignity? It can be found again, in re growth. I hope you find your piece my friend...
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Re: I need help.....
« Reply #8 on: June 02, 2012, 06:23:04 AM »
I also can't buzz or shave my head because the shape of my head is so bad, I even get panic attacks seeing the shadow of my head.


You really can't tell the result (what you'll look like shaved bald) until you do it.  I don't think that I have seen any guys here on SBG who, after shaving their head bald, looked bad.  All look good.

I suppose if you really have a deformed head, as in birth defect or horrible accident, you might have an 'excuse'.  I have seen lots of guys use the 'I have a bad head shape' excuse.  But when they finally shave their head, they find out otherwise.  You can't judge the results any other way. 

You best bet is to get the clippers/razor out and commit to the 30 day rule.  This is probably the best help that we can offer.  Find out what all the guys are raving about.




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Re: I need help.....
« Reply #9 on: June 02, 2012, 03:25:42 PM »
Listen to the knowledge and wisdom being offered by Ming and Saint!  We may be able to counsel you about what is going on outside your head, but none of us are qualified to diagnose what is going on inside your head.  Please see you family doctor for help; suicide is never the answer and always leaves your family and friends in pain wondering why you didn't ask for help.  Hair is only hair - look at the hundreds of children at St. Judes who have lost their hair to chemotherapy.  They have much more to worry about than hair.

Get to a doctor and treat your drepression before you worry about making a decision about your hair or head shape!

Jim

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Re: I need help.....
« Reply #10 on: June 02, 2012, 07:04:51 PM »
Listen to the knowledge and wisdom being offered by Ming and Saint!  We may be able to counsel you about what is going on outside your head, but none of us are qualified to diagnose what is going on inside your head.  Please see you family doctor for help; suicide is never the answer and always leaves your family and friends in pain wondering why you didn't ask for help.  Hair is only hair - look at the hundreds of children at St. Judes who have lost their hair to chemotherapy.  They have much more to worry about than hair.

Get to a doctor and treat your drepression before you worry about making a decision about your hair or head shape!

Jim
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Re: I need help.....
« Reply #11 on: June 02, 2012, 07:33:55 PM »
Listen to the knowledge and wisdom being offered by Ming and Saint!  We may be able to counsel you about what is going on outside your head, but none of us are qualified to diagnose what is going on inside your head.  Please see you family doctor for help; suicide is never the answer and always leaves your family and friends in pain wondering why you didn't ask for help.  Hair is only hair - look at the hundreds of children at St. Judes who have lost their hair to chemotherapy.  They have much more to worry about than hair.

Get to a doctor and treat your drepression before you worry about making a decision about your hair or head shape!

Jim

Please listen to the reason here.

Go get some help my friend!
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