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Offline AgeTwentyTwoBaldy

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My tips for building confidence
« on: February 04, 2012, 10:52:26 PM »
Walk into a bar and punch the biggest, baddest looking guy in there. You'll learn how to be confident real quick...  O0

Just kidding. Don't do that!

There are 4 very simple things you can do to become a more confident person, and all of them will benefit you in other aspects of your life.

1. Learn. You know all of those well-spoken guys you hear talking on TV and in newspapers? One of the main reasons they are so confident when they talk is that they have spent a lot of time learning. If you ever get the chance to go back to school, do it. Or, if you can't go back to school, read more. When you read, read aloud so that you hear what it sounds like to improve your own vocabulary. Intelligent people are usually some of the most confident people. Look at Obama. Even if you don't like his politics, you can't deny he is a very intelligent, charismatic, confident guy. If you talked to me in person, you would find that I carry myself almost the same way he does, just without the money, politics and fancy suits.  ;D

2. Explain to other people why you're proud to be who you are. Nothing says "this guy is confident" more than someone who is willing to openly discuss why they are the way they are. People who lack confidence will avoid that question/topic entirely. When someone asks you why you chose to shave your head, tell them the honest truth. Tell them how it makes you feel to have your head shaved, what it means to you, the advantages/benefits of shaving your head etc...  You can always practice this in front of a mirror at first without any outside pressure.

3. Fix your posture/walking style. If you are one of those people who walk with slumped over shoulders, straighten up! Also, if you can help it, don't walk in a slow, lethargic manner. If you've ever heard the phrase "walk with a purpose", then try to visualize in your mind what that would look like, and then try it. You will be amazed how much your posture and the style of your walk affects your confidence. People are much more likely to take you seriously if you walk with your shoulders back, chin up, and at a nice, brisk pace.

4. Compliment other people. Many times, when we are feeling insecure/lacking confidence, we take it out on others in the form of insults, bad attitudes, and just bad communication in general. If you can break into the habit of complimenting other people, they will return the favor, and you'll build more confidence that way. It takes confidence to compliment others, because confident people are already fine with the way they are. They don't need to be told they look great since they already know it. It's like allowing your mindset to create the essence of yourself.

I hope this is helpful for some of you. There are many more ways to become confident, but these are the main things I have done to help me, and I've had great success.



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Re: My tips for building confidence
« Reply #1 on: February 05, 2012, 08:14:58 AM »
Hey Matt !  Your confidence nailed it right on the bald head !  When are you going to write a book ?

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Re: My tips for building confidence
« Reply #2 on: February 05, 2012, 08:31:29 AM »
The confidence has to come from within. Like yourself first and foremost!

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Re: My tips for building confidence
« Reply #3 on: February 05, 2012, 09:46:45 AM »
You are smart as a briar...you should give classes to salesmen.  8)

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Re: My tips for building confidence
« Reply #4 on: February 05, 2012, 11:01:20 PM »
Great tips!
People are not limited by the circumstance that they are born in. They are limited by the size of their dreams. Show them that their dreams can have no limits and in turn their accomplishments can be limitless.

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Re: My tips for building confidence
« Reply #5 on: February 06, 2012, 12:50:51 AM »
interesting.
knew all that though :)
be who you are, say what you feel, because those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter




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Re: My tips for building confidence
« Reply #6 on: February 20, 2012, 03:00:34 AM »
Great moral booster Agetwentytwobaldy!!! Indeed what you said is true... I experienced those good things you have mentioned... It is really nice to be in control of oneself... In fact it encourages people around you to do the same. Great day ahead man O0

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Re: My tips for building confidence
« Reply #7 on: February 20, 2012, 06:59:43 AM »
I'm glad you found my post meaningful and helpful, NEST.  O0

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Re: My tips for building confidence
« Reply #8 on: February 20, 2012, 07:50:23 AM »
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If you always do what you've always done, then you'll always get what you've always got!

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Re: My tips for building confidence
« Reply #9 on: February 20, 2012, 11:17:40 AM »
Good tips.  8)



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Re: My tips for building confidence
« Reply #10 on: February 20, 2012, 08:38:24 PM »
Well said!
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